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To text a girl after a first date or not

Striker_93

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You guys just follow behind what other people tell you to do which is sad considering the age of some of you.

There's more than one way to skin a cat.
Find what works for you.....
 

GreatHornedOwl

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Waiting for the woman to reach out after a date? What do men not understand on this forum? We lead, they follow. That's feminine behavior to wait until she contacts you because you're worried about coming off needy.
 

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Girls might complain, but this^ is actually the right attitude..

Not many men have that confidence though so are unable to maintain that frame. Sadly.

Perhaps instead of preaching how a guy should wait 5-9 days to call, or follow other such arbitrary 'getting laid' rules, preach how he shouldn't give a shyt.

Or strike a balance between showing interest/caring and not giving a shyt.

Jmo guys, as a woman attracted to strong, confident, no nonsense men.

I'll leave y'all to it now.
They tell on themselves without realizing it.....

You can literally tell who actually gets pvssy and deals with women in real life.

They became obsessed with this whole "red pill" sh!t they cant just function like a regular person, they got too many "rules" to follow lol

What grown man follows "texting" rules lol I aint did that since high school
 

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I doubt your rotation has any longevity.
Man shut up, we're on the internet, you don't know what I got going on nor should you care, your in your 30s following red pill rules and texting techniques for God's sake lol
 

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Waiting for the woman to reach out after a date? What do men not understand on this forum? We lead, they follow. That's feminine behavior to wait until she contacts you because you're worried about coming off needy.
They think there being alpha lol
 

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Man shut up, we're on the internet, you don't know what I got going on nor should you care, your in your 30s following red pill rules and texting techniques for God's sake lol
I was a system dater. Treated them all the same. Had a rotation as efficient as a factory.

Do you. when you lose a good one because of your thirst I’m sure there will be a thread on it.
 

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I was a system dater. Treated them all the same. Had a rotation as efficient as a factory.

Do you. when you lose a good one because of your thirst I’m sure there will be a thread on it.
I don't give a damn about losing any girl that's the 1st difference between me and you.
These hoes be obsessed with me, they not goin anywhere but there free to if they want.

And your in your 30s following red pills rules and texting techniques, I wrote It again just incase you didn't see it the first time bruh.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

StacksHitEmUp

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Not texting sets you apart from the simps. She has 900 dudes texting her everyday, but the one she wonders about is the one NOT texting her. She will chase me, I won’t chase her. I am different from the other guys, that’s why I wait at least a week before I reach out. They almost always reach out to me before that though. Let women use their imagination to go crazy over you.
 

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Instead of worrying about who texts first, focus on setting up the next one with another girl - cause if you haven’t heard from her in a few days, I can guarantee she is.
A girl with high IL will reach out each and every time.
With abundance, you won’t care if she didn’t.
 

GreatHornedOwl

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I'm not saying to contact her 10 minutes after the date, but if you reached out first at some point and it didn't lead to a second date... you were dealing with a low interest woman. It had nothing to do with who contacted who first.
 

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Maybe you're just a naturally good looking guy who has crap game (playing devils advocate here, not insulting), and never been punished for it. Remember girls will give way more slack to guys who are attractive when it comes to bad game. It doesn't sound like you've been through the fire of rejection in cold approach to me. What don't you get about why guys are trying to develop rules and schemes. Do you think they're doing this for fun? No, they're resorting to it, because they're not getting any positive results.
As I've mentioned on here before, yes I am part of the "handsome" gang.

And it doesn't matter what it sounds like to you, you don't know what my experiences have been, we're on the internet bruh, agree to disagree I guess
 

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If the “rules” get results, so be it.

You are like the guy mocking the top earning salesman for using a script.
You proving my point fool, if I'm getting results who gives a sh!t, which was my original point to you about texting. Facepalm
 

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but if you reached out first at some point and it didn't lead to a second date... you were dealing with a low interest woman. It had nothing to do with who contacted who first.
This

Attraction/interest level over Everything else
 

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Not all women know to do this.
I have actually had a first date with a few. In fact I blame myself for bad judgment on this one. But I don’t make the same mistake twice… by seeing these types again.

In fact, most or many women have been conditioned to expect the man to reach out first, especially after first time sex.
I actually agree with you here. However, the op is talking about a “first date” not first sex.

For me, when a man pays and I'm interested and attracted and want to see him again, I have every intention of reaching out next day however what typically happens is he will text me first after I get home or early next day before I have a chance to .
The “call or text to let me know that you made it home okay” is still an extension of the first date. The OP is referring to the day after the date.

With men I have no interest in, I will offer to pay and no text next day.
If you really want to make a great impression on someone you *do* want to see you again…. Offer to buy a round of drinks, or dessert etc…. Very few women do this, in my experience it’s usually 10% or less. But these women actually stand out, in a good way because of their thoughtfulness.
 

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You proving my point fool, if I'm getting results who gives a sh!t, which was my original point to you about texting. Facepalm
I doubt the longevity of your rotation.

This

Attraction/interest level over Everything else
Interest level is not static. Hope the rest of the men in here burn this fact into their brain.

We don’t get credit for how she felt yesterday if she doesn’t feel good in the current moment.
 

Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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