Girl leaves me alone in hospital after date

[Striker_93]

Life's not fair because men like you allow this to happen. If men grew a pair and called women out on their actions the whole world would be a better place.

Never allow someone to disrespect you in any way.

Life's not fair because it's not fair......
Nothing new

And you speaking to me like I'm the OP,
This sh!t didn't happen to me.

 

[logicallefty]

Am i overreacting? Should I drop that girl ?

NO, you are not overreacting. Drop the c\|/nt. I have had this happen, close to your situation. Date #2, took her to the ER, waited with her, took her home, fvcked. But I can tell you this. Even if I hadn't had any interest in her after that night I still would have waited in the waiting room and made sure she got home. It's the human thing to do. Her just leaving you shows how bad of human scum women CAN be. Not all of them, but A LOT. WTF.. I hope our green horns of SoSuave see this post and remember it..

 

[Striker_93]

Her just leaving you shows how bad of human scum women CAN be.

No, it shows how bad people in general can be, it's not a women thing, it's a people thing.

 

[logicallefty]

No, it shows how bad people in general can be, it's not a women thing, it's a people thing.

Yeaaaah, true. Overall, I think you are probably correct... I live in Illinois, USA.. This place is infested with narcissistic sociopath types, both women and men.. Illinois is one of the documented most corrupt places in the USA for a reason. There is something going on here, in the water supply or air or something, to create so many bad eggs. Most of them are in positions of power. I like to think people are better elsewhere, but maybe they aren't..

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Life's not fair because men like you allow this to happen. If men grew a pair and called women out on their actions the whole world would be a better place.

Never allow someone to disrespect you in any way.

In what way did she "disrespect" him? I swear some people just look for stuff to try and be upset with.

 

[Striker_93]

I swear some people just look for stuff to try and be upset with.

It's fvcking hilarious.......

grown men getting in there little feeeelings about the actions of some random girl

 

[Dr.Suave]

I think both sides have valid points. But u had sex, u won. Probably this girl is not marriage/ltr material for you, just spin her until she drops.

 

[Baibars]

I think both sides have valid points. But u had sex, u won. Probably this girl is not marriage/ltr material for you, just spin her until she drops.

of course she’s not marriage material or anything like that. I just don’t understand how someone would consider that behavior normal. Crazy people out there.

 

[jimwho]

I would "text" her in a couple days. Hay Becky it's Jim, I don't know how you blew out my appendix but I'm good
To go now. Anyway I wanted to thank you for the ride. That's it nothing more, no follow up. Not her freakin fault.

 

[The Duke]

Hey guys I’m in a ****ed up situation rn. On Monday I drove 70 km to a girl that I met online. We chilled at her place and made out, slept together. The next morning my stomach hurt so much I couldn’t take it so she brought me to the hospital. I vomited and couldn’t even stand on my feet. The doctors said my appendix needs to be removed. The girl dropped me at the hospital and just left. She didn’t ask about my situation and when I asked her why she doesn’t care at all she said she wants to meet me when I’m healthy. She said she has other things going on in her life. I mean ok it was the first time we met each other but I wouldn’t react that cold and heartless. Now I’m in the hospital after surgery and I’m alone feeling like ****.

Am i overreacting? Should I drop that girl ?

This girl showed her cards early. Be glad. She is nothing solid long term.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

All you short game thinkers are missing the point.

She works for the hospital, on commission.

She poisoned you.

Took you to the hospital.

Did you get a second opinion?

No, you did not.

The hospital took out your healthy appendix and you'll happily pay them when the bill comes.

She gets her commission and will move on to the next sucker.

It was only your turn.

She will ghost you but only because you don't have another appendix to take out.

Don't be a sucker.

Girls will be nice to you, but only because they want to steal your appendix.

Jiminy Christmas some of you guys are so naïve.

 

[SW15]

We chilled at her place and made out, slept together.

Did that mean sex or sleeping in a bed together after deep kissing?

The next morning my stomach hurt so much I couldn’t take it so she brought me to the hospital. I vomited and couldn’t even stand on my feet. The doctors said my appendix needs to be removed. The girl dropped me at the hospital and just left. She didn’t ask about my situation and when I asked her why she doesn’t care at all she said she wants to meet me when I’m healthy. She said she has other things going on in her life. I mean ok it was the first time we met each other but I wouldn’t react that cold and heartless. Now I’m in the hospital after surgery and I’m alone feeling like ****.

Am i overreacting? Should I drop that girl ?

She did give you a ride to the hospital, which counts for something. I think it showed a lack of human decency for her to not even ask about what's going on.

You mentioned she lives 70 km from you, which is 43 miles. 43 miles is not close. It's not easy to have a sustainable relationship with someone who lives that far away, especially in a major metro area with traffic. In my city, I've had plenty of difficulty getting on women's calendars on a regular basis who live less than 15 miles away.

I'd probably drop her. Even if you didn't drop her, it is likely to naturally fall apart fast due to distance. Additionally, same night lays at bars and 1st date sex from swipe apps usually don't lead to longer term interactions anyway.

 

[dude99]

Hey guys I’m in a ****ed up situation rn. On Monday I drove 70 km to a girl that I met online. We chilled at her place and made out, slept together. The next morning my stomach hurt so much I couldn’t take it so she brought me to the hospital. I vomited and couldn’t even stand on my feet. The doctors said my appendix needs to be removed. The girl dropped me at the hospital and just left. She didn’t ask about my situation and when I asked her why she doesn’t care at all she said she wants to meet me when I’m healthy. She said she has other things going on in her life. I mean ok it was the first time we met each other but I wouldn’t react that cold and heartless. Now I’m in the hospital after surgery and I’m alone feeling like ****.

Am i overreacting? Should I drop that girl ?

Having your appendix is serious, you could have died. It's not like you drank too much and just got sick.


"she said she has other things going on in her life and wants to see you when you are healthy."


That's some Serious lack of empathy. Do you want to move forward with someone who is so emotionally vaccuious?

 

[Baibars]

Having your appendix is serious, you could have died. It's not like you drank too much and just got sick.


"she said she has other things going on in her life and wants to see you when you are healthy."


That's some Serious lack of empathy. Do you want to move forward with someone who is so emotionally vaccuious?

no I don’t want that and normally it’s a pretty good reason to move on from her but a lot of guys don’t seem to share this view.

It also looks like she’s not interested anyways. Before we met she was texting like crazy and after I was at the hospital she turned cold af. Completely different person. I don’t get it .

 

[dude99]

no I don’t want that and normally it’s a pretty good reason to move on from her but a lot of guys don’t seem to share this view.

It also looks like she’s not interested anyways. Before we met she was texting like crazy and after I was at the hospital she turned cold af. Completely different person. I don’t get it .

When you were entertaining her, you were fun. She texted she interacted she seemed interested. She is self centered and selfish. Most girls are selfish to begin with but this one isn"t just selfish but emotionally void.

The instant you became a burden (her opinion) you were no longer entertaining.
Zero empathy from her is a very very bad sign. A huge red flag.

If she went cold af after this, then you dodged a serious bullet.

 

[Baibars]

When you were entertaining her, you were fun. She texted she interacted she seemed interested. She is self centered and selfish. Most girls are selfish to begin with but this one isn"t just selfish but emotionally void.

The instant you became a burden (her opinion) you were no longer entertaining.
Zero empathy from her is a very very bad sign. A huge red flag.

If she went cold af after this, then you dodged a serious bullet.

Thanks! @taiyuu_otoko makes me really paranoid now.
I thought about something like this but it doesn’t make sense for me.. her behavior is still suspicious.

 

[RickTheToad]

Hey guys I’m in a ****ed up situation rn. On Monday I drove 70 km to a girl that I met online. We chilled at her place and made out, slept together. The next morning my stomach hurt so much I couldn’t take it so she brought me to the hospital. I vomited and couldn’t even stand on my feet. The doctors said my appendix needs to be removed. The girl dropped me at the hospital and just left. She didn’t ask about my situation and when I asked her why she doesn’t care at all she said she wants to meet me when I’m healthy. She said she has other things going on in her life. I mean ok it was the first time we met each other but I wouldn’t react that cold and heartless. Now I’m in the hospital after surgery and I’m alone feeling like ****.

Am i overreacting? Should I drop that girl ?

One, she really doesn't owe you anything. Two, you may have dodged a bullet by the fact she's empty inside with zero compassion. You don't want that sh!t in your life. You can message her, thanks for dropping me off at the hospital, but messed up that you just left. No heart. No compassion for your fellow human. You are just empty inside. Later. Block and move on. Make sure you block. You get the last word, closure and just move on. Do not, in any way, entertain anything after that text.

 

[RickTheToad]

@Baibars, if it helps, a few years ago I had kidney surgery for 12MM kidney stones. The female I was with for four months or so left the day of my surgery to go on vacation in another state with her sister (married). She then came back, claimed that she didn't know; which was BS. We fvcked a couple more times, but after that I knew we were done. She then continued to reach out every few months, but I went cold prior to that. I posted it here back in 2018. This is how pathetic some females are. They live in the moment and do not consider the future. Females do not usually grow out of this thought process until their 40's or 50s; which it's too late for most. That was my big eye opener with females in relationships. You need to always be ready to jet and move on.

Disgusting.

 

[Baibars]

@Baibars, if it helps, a few years ago I had kidney surgery for 12MM kidney stones. The female I was with for four months or so left the day of my surgery to go on vacation in another state with her sister (married). She then came back, claimed that she didn't know; which was BS. We fvcked a couple more times, but after that I knew we were done. She then continued to reach out every few months, but I went cold prior to that. I posted it here back in 2018. This is how pathetic some females are. They live in the moment and do not consider the future. Females do not usually grow out of this thought process until their 40's or 50s; which it's too late for most. That was my big eye opener with females in relationships. You need to always be ready to jet and move on.

Disgusting.

Thanks for sharing it really helped. Yeah you're totally right, can't invest any feelings in such a person. I was in a city where i don't know anybody and i suddenly needed that surgery, felt like crap and she was the only person nearby. Family and friends are not allowed to visit here due to corona.
You're right i had my experience too and i should've moved on way faster but i was basically alone and ****ed up in that situation. Needed to deal with the fact that i made a very bad decision going to her place and being alone in that ****ing hospital.
It's not like we just had casual sex, we shared things about our lives, cuddled and had deep talks. She responded quick to my texts all the time but after our night and my sickness she turned into a completely different person.

 

[Baibars]

First off guys, please stop generalizing -women this, women that.

I'm a woman and to the OP, goodness gracious, reading your original post, I care! And I'm just a stranger on the internet.

Her attitude was COLD, plain and simple, nevermind as a woman, as a decent human being!

No one said she has to date you or f&ck you again, but at the very least, might have chosen to be kind for goodness sake, jesus!

So how are you feeling now? Hope your surgery went well, and please don't give this chick on second thought.

She's a self entitled bytch imo, consider bullet dodged.

Thanks for understanding. Yeah thats what im saying that's basic behavior especially if that person is my guest and is a stranger in my town i couldn't act like that.

Surgery went well.. i was in hospital until today and i'm back home now. Wounds need to heal for some time, i will rest. I just regret it so hard that i went to her place. It wasn't worth it and i got myself into a lot of trouble.. maybe i wouldn't even get sick if i wouldn't go there.

Later i confronted her a bit and then she replied: '' i have no time bla bla, now YOU shown your true face'' that girl is crazy.