Girl leaves me alone in hospital after date

[Baibars]

OP, be glad that you saw this side of her this early.

No matter how you look at it, this is a massive red flag if your goal is to find a LTR. A woman is her most vulnerable right after getting fvcked and the only explanation why she did a 180 is because caring is not in her nature, or she has lost the ability to pair bond. both of which are red flags.

Obviously you are invested in her, otherwise you wouldn't have drove 70km to meet her and be so upset over how she treated you. If you are able to detach, I would suggest relegating this woman to nothing more than a sport fvck.

Also, I would agree that the level of investment here is way off balance. You drove 70km to meet a chick you never met, while all she had to do was to show up looking pretty IN HER OWN HOUSE. Such imbalance never ends well, especially at a start of an interaction.

Yes i'm able to detach and leave her behind. I acted too emotionally cause we were laying in the same bed and just a few hours after that I'm sick af and need surgery followed by her coldness. It was kind of a push/pull thing by her and i was way too much into my emotions.

I need to move on. I just regret my stupid decision to go there cause it wasn't worth it and in the i did that all to myself. Thanks for slapping some sense into me.

 

[SW15]

Yes i'm able to detach and leave her behind. I acted too emotionally cause we were laying in the same bed and just a few hours after that I'm sick af and need surgery followed by her coldness. It was kind of a push/pull thing by her and i was way too much into my emotions.

I need to move on. I just regret my stupid decision to go there cause it wasn't worth it and in the i did that all to myself. Thanks for slapping some sense into me.

You are 27. You're well positioned for meeting women 20-25, who are in their absolute primes.

The issue is not that he drove 70km, but rather the relative level of investment he made vs hers cannot be compared. He had to take an hour's drive while she only had to show up looking sexy at her doorstep.

That's typical though. Women are used to only having to show up. All women typically need to be successful in romantic interactions is to show up and be pleasant. That doesn't seem like it is much to ask, yet women have a difficult time with achieving those two things.

Think about Valentine's Day. The concept of the holiday is men doing romantic gestures for women, whereas all women need to do on Valentine's Day is show up in sexy lingerie and have sex.

 

[derby1]

The only thing that I don’t consider normal is how ruthless she acted when I got sick

It doesnt matter if she knew you werent a boss level guy, your actions dried up her respect for you. Humans have weird ways of perceiving things.

Its a bit like parents having massive problems with modern children.

The same parent queues in a maccies drive thru for the child, when the child has achieved F*ck all.

Or the child gets plates of food & technology prepared at home, when its a mediocre kid.

2 years later the same child assaults its own parents, and the parent wonders why? its because the parent has taught it, they are the submissive weak ones. The child runs the house. Half these kids would chuck their own parents under a bus, for anything with a Apple logo..

you basically taught her the same thing with how submissive you were, her fanny wants a winner, winners dont travel 70 miles.

you must make others invest or they will never respect.

 

[AureliusMaximus]

You really have to ask?

Screw her.

Her already did! Ha ha

 

[DonJuanjr]

If she’d talk like you in the beginning I would save myself from a lot of trouble.

Save yourself the trouble of what? Righteous Indignation? Wasted time due to looking for a soul mate? You got your djck wet. It should be all good.

 

[corrector]

You are looking at this the wrong way. The right way is you have someone to look forward to doing your business with when you get better. Doesn't this lead to more confidence trying to hit on female nurses and doctors knowing you have someone waiting when you get better?

 

[Machine10033]

This post reminds me of what drove me to this forum in 2002. My first love came home from college and told me how horrible I was and how I needed to change. Wanted to see other people... douche bag me actually believed it was me... she cheats and I catch her.... nearly lose my mind. Cant sleep... can’t eat... stressed beyond belief. On my way to class I blacked out... woke up in the hospital with double pneumonia and in rough shape. The girl i was planning to marry never even stopped in to make sure I was alive.

I wouldn’t give that b!tch the time of day. As a decent human being I would check on that person. Even if I didn’t think the relationship was going somewhere.

 

[SW15]

This post reminds me of what drove me to this forum in 2002. My first love came home from college and told me how horrible I was and how I needed to change. Wanted to see other people... douche bag me actually believed it was me... she cheats and I catch her.... nearly lose my mind. Cant sleep... can’t eat... stressed beyond belief. On my way to class I blacked out... woke up in the hospital with double pneumonia and in rough shape. The girl i was planning to marry never even stopped in to make sure I was alive.

I wouldn’t give that b!tch the time of day. As a decent human being I would check on that person. Even if I didn’t think the relationship was going somewhere.

Impressive you've kept coming back here for 20 years. I remember 2002. I was in college and dealing with self-centered biatches not too much different than @Baibars' biatch and the biatch who cheated on you.

@Machine10033 -- That biatch from 2002 is now 40 like you. I wonder if life trolled her hard during the last 20 years. @DEEZEDBRAH thinks life tends to troll biatches hard.

 

[Machine10033]

That biatch from 2002 is now 40 like you. I wonder if life trolled her hard during the last 20 years. @DEEZEDBRAH thinks life tends to troll biatches hard.

indeed life hit her hard. These events took place her sophomore year in college. Her junior year she suffered a pretty significant health ailment that paralyzed half her face... she lost her scholarship because her grades dropped and unfortunately two years after graduation her father passed away. She reached back out in 2007 and wanted to get back together and I said my piece. I sincerely did not want for any of these things to happen to her. Hind sight is 20/20 and she made me who I am....I actually hope things turned around for her.

 

[Tilex]

First Dates = Skating on thin ice

You could be dropped for something tiny and insignificant, or you could be dropped for something major and life threatening.
The dating scene has been like this for guys for generations.
That's why getting her out on the 2nd date is more important than the 1st.
She's more invested in you if she's willing to meetup with you for the 2nd time.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

Impressive you've kept coming back here for 20 years. I remember 2002. I was in college and dealing with self-centered biatches not too much different than @Baibars' biatch and the biatch who cheated on you.

@Machine10033 -- That biatch from 2002 is now 40 like you. I wonder if life trolled her hard during the last 20 years. @DEEZEDBRAH thinks life tends to troll biatches hard.

If you scroll through a old year book and look at present day, it looks like a pie eating contest. Women from the past (in my blue pill days before learning game) were bullets dodged. I ran into a girl we fooled around in high school once upon a time. Today she's around single mom and coke head. I think she's on welfare or something.

Insert troll meme right hurrrrrr!

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

indeed life hit her hard. These events took place her sophomore year in college. Her junior year she suffered a pretty significant health ailment that paralyzed half her face... she lost her scholarship because her grades dropped and unfortunately two years after graduation her father passed away. She reached back out in 2007 and wanted to get back together and I said my piece. I sincerely did not want for any of these things to happen to her. Hind sight is 20/20 and she made me who I am....I actually hope things turned around for her.

You sir are a far better man then me. Also a military man if my memory is correct. It automatically has dudes respect from GO!

I on the other hand got my troll cannon charged up.

Trolling as a hobby. The best Is picking up barely legal 18+ something baddie and running into the dumpster fire skank from the past. It's almost as good as sex.

Strong troll game is strong!

 

[DonJuanjr]

I on the other hand got my troll cannon charged up.

When you're by yourself, and come across them, do you say things like... "Damn Suzie, time has been hard to you huh"?

 

[SW15]

If you scroll through a old year book and look at present day, it looks like a pie eating contest. Women from the past (in my blue pill days before learning game) were bullets dodged. I ran into a girl we fooled around in high school once upon a time. Today she's around single mom and coke head. I think she's on welfare or something.

Insert troll meme right hurrrrrr!

I've seen the social media profiles of a lot of women who were my classmates in high school and college. I've seen some hot married moms, some childless women in LTRs of 5+ years, but few women who were a complete mess. Perhaps I'm forgetting to look at the profiles of the women who turned into messes.

I've known some women who've gained substantial weight since high school or college graduation, though they weren't my classmates.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

When you're by yourself, and come across them, do you say things like... "Damn Suzie, time has been hard to you huh"?

I typically don't say anything. Sit back with that smug look on my face. #nextset

It is self evident. No need mentioning. I picked up a girl on her 19th bday in a club. On a night out together, I ran into a girl who had flaked years prior. She was on a bulking cycle.

If you looks max, they rage. If you looks max &&& pull hotter & younger, you really peed in her cereal.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I've seen the social media profiles of a lot of women who were my classmates in high school and college. I've seen some hot married moms, some childless women in LTRs of 5+ years, but few women who were a complete mess. Perhaps I'm forgetting to look at the profiles of the women who turned into messes.

I've known some women who've gained substantial weight since high school or college graduation, though they weren't my classmates.

It could be environmental. It's not a coincidence why Tusk or troy go abroad. It's almost encouraged to be a train wreck here. Obesity seems to be the norm. That and single mom's. The game is hilarious. I don't comprehend marriage given the proclivity of divorce rape and bulking season. Both seems to be synonymous with playing house. The older I get, the more I think bachelor life is the only play going forward especially in the west. Alternatively, there's other countries and cultures that are ideal for the nuclear family. Most fellas are of this elk. It should be their safe haven. No guarantee but higher probability elsewhere.

 

[SW15]

It could be environmental. Obesity seems to be the norm. That and single mom's. The game is hilarious. I don't comprehend marriage given the proclivity of divorce rape and bulking season. Both seems to be synonymous with playing house

I've seen some bulking and some divorces in my social sphere. Some single mommery too though the single moms typically have not had difficulty finding new men. A couple of former hot co-eds from college have turned into hot married moms but I sense their lives look better on social media than in reality. I'll never know.

It's not a coincidence why Tusk or troy go abroad.

The older I get, the more I think bachelor life is the only play going forward especially in the west. Alternatively, there's other countries and cultures that are ideal for the nuclear family. Most fellas are of this elk. It should be their safe haven. No guarantee but higher probability elsewhere.

If you are a Western man who wants to have a nuclear family, you've got a better chance of having a healthier nuclear family environment in Eastern Europe, Latin America, or certain Asian countries. We're seeing instability in Ukraine right now, which has been a common destination for Western men looking for a healthier mating and nuclear family environment. Latin America has often had issues with governmental and economic stability.

Picking up and emigrating is not easy to do for a Western man.

If you are a Western man and must remain in a Western country, a bachelor lifestyle is likely one of the better solutions. Most men struggle with loneliness in a bachelor lifestyle, even the ones who are getting sex reguarly. There is a growing crisis of men in the West who are getting neither their physical needs met nor their emotional needs met. Plenty of those men are unmarried men. There are downsides to a bachelor life if you're not getting laid on a regular basis.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I've seen some bulking and some divorces in my social sphere. Some single mommery too though the single moms typically have not had difficulty finding new men. A couple of former hot co-eds from college have turned into hot married moms but I sense their lives look better on social media than in reality. I'll never know.

When I 1st learned pickup, I remember a skank who went on social media professing her love to her cuckold bf. My wing was beating it rotten. I thought he was talking ****. Nope. He had the receipts. Fast-forward to present day, she's a sugar baby for senior citizens. I'm not surprised. The group of girls were *** dumpsters. It was almost like they were trying to go through the entire social circle. They all caught STDS and some of the more serious ones that done go away. The hot one was damaged goods before 21. Shame innit?

If you are a Western man who wants to have a nuclear family, you've got a better chance of having a healthier nuclear family environment in Eastern Europe, Latin America, or certain Asian countries. We're seeing instability in Ukraine right now, which has been a common destination for Western men looking for a healthier mating and nuclear family environment. Latin America has often had issues with governmental and economic stability.

I like Columbian women. I like South America but I'm suspicious of the places in lock down and government overreach. I do think that it's a better alternative then the west.

Picking up and emigrating is not easy to do for a Western man.

If you are a Western man and must remain in a Western country, a bachelor lifestyle is likely one of the better solutions. Most men struggle with loneliness in a bachelor lifestyle, even the ones who are getting sex reguarly. There is a growing crisis of men in the West who are getting neither their physical needs met nor their emotional needs met. Plenty of those men are unmarried men. There are downsides to a bachelor life if you're not getting laid on a regular basis.

The amount of resources required as a bachelor is ridiculous in compared to the beaten path of playing House. At least in places you suggested, the culture encourages the nuclear family vs boss girl modern woman. ran through sloot gonna sloot. Geo maxing seems like the smart play. Personally I will pull wherever. The girls are a perk. It's more about individual sovereignty and lower taxes. Better quality of life, culture, and it doesn't hurt to have feminine not fat women.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Did that mean sex or sleeping in a bed together after deep kissing?



She did give you a ride to the hospital, which counts for something. I think it showed a lack of human decency for her to not even ask about what's going on.

You mentioned she lives 70 km from you, which is 43 miles. 43 miles is not close. It's not easy to have a sustainable relationship with someone who lives that far away, especially in a major metro area with traffic. In my city, I've had plenty of difficulty getting on women's calendars on a regular basis who live less than 15 miles away.

I'd probably drop her. Even if you didn't drop her, it is likely to naturally fall apart fast due to distance. Additionally, same night lays at bars and 1st date sex from swipe apps usually don't lead to longer term interactions anyway.

Depends where you live. 43 miles is not a huge distance unless you don't have a car. Many people commute to work every day far further than that where I live.

 

[SW15]

Depends where you live. 43 miles is not a huge distance unless you don't have a car. Many people commute to work every day far further than that where I live.

I have a car. I couldn't make 43 miles work. Traffic is too heavy in my area.