Having a business card to give to women

[corrector]

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I found this on google doing a search for the 3 second rule. This site puamore, if you scroll down to the links below the definition, has a tonne of other older 00s PUA lingo throughout it. It also has Abundance Mentality.

 

[SW15]

No need for a business card. Things have been so easy for the last 17-20 years with cell phones. Easy to put a number into a phone.

In the 1990s, you might have to bring a pen and pad out to get numbers. I remember being in high school at the tail end of this.

 

[logicallefty]

When I was single I would keep a hand written piece of paper in my wallet with my name and number. I was always one who preferred giving my number out vs getting hers. That way if I heard from her, I would know the interest was legit.

 

[B80]

Read 'American Psycho' for good insights into the perfect business card.

I never used them, but remember a woman back in the early 2000's who approached me in a club and passed me her card and just said 'call me'.

Did't go anywhere, did call her and text a few times. Recall she sent a message that she pretended was intended for work as it went off on one about some tv show, she worked at bbc. She then said sorry not meant for you, but got the impression she was trying to show off about her job.

 

[oc16]

When I was single I would keep a hand written piece of paper in my wallet with my name and number. I was always one who preferred giving my number out vs getting hers. That way if I heard from her, I would know the interest was legit.

That's a great idea. I could of pulled that one off yesterday instead of dealing with the awkward, "Do you have a paper and pen"?

 

[Atom Smasher]

I didn’t read the entire thread, but to respond to the OP:
You could have had immense fun with that tour. I would have made it personal and interrupted her flow. Maybe ask her how she likes the job, does she wish she lived in those times, what does she think this or that was like? Perhaps if she was showing the bedroom, you could verbally speculate on how they had sex back then, either directly or by innuendo. It sounds like you may have projected tension when you could have projected fun and amusement.

 

[corrector]

I didn’t read the entire thread, but to respond to the OP:
You could have had immense fun with that tour. I would have made it personal and interrupted her flow. Maybe ask her how she likes the job, does she wish she lived in those times, what does she think this or that was like? Perhaps if she was showing the bedroom, you could verbally speculate on how they had sex back then, either directly or by innuendo. It sounds like you may have projected tension when you could have projected fun and amusement.

The only problem is this is after the fact advice. Unless he redoes the tour, with the same lady, with no other guy there, with her being in the same mood, how would that work? Again the issue is tension. Tension comes from not being used to dealing with women and thinking on the feet. You cant seduce by hindsight.

 

[oc16]

I didn’t read the entire thread, but to respond to the OP:
You could have had immense fun with that tour. I would have made it personal and interrupted her flow. Maybe ask her how she likes the job, does she wish she lived in those times, what does she think this or that was like? Perhaps if she was showing the bedroom, you could verbally speculate on how they had sex back then, either directly or by innuendo. It sounds like you may have projected tension when you could have projected fun and amusement.

No, we did have some small talk

 

[corrector]

No, we did have some small talk

Take another tour.

 

[oc16]

Update:

I emailed the head curator (a woman) and told her I was on the tour with so and so. I just said as a fellow person passionate about history, I wanted to pass my information along to Miss so and so.(left my name, e-mail and number). If she found me attractive, perhaps she will reach out. If not, I won't be hearing from her. It could not hurt.

 

[jimwho]

Just a mention on something that has been a positive. Remembering her number without writing it
Down. "and her name". And if things go well like they should, mention a dress she wore months ago.

 

[jimwho]

I just said as a fellow person passionate about history,

She probably relayed the message and said "hay" Jessica, some guy wants to give you a history lesson.

 

[Atom Smasher]

No, we did have some small talk

“Small talk” and the vibe I described may be 2 different things.

 

[Atom Smasher]

The only problem is this is after the fact advice. Unless he redoes the tour, with the same lady, with no other guy there, with her being in the same mood, how would that work? Again the issue is tension. Tension comes from not being used to dealing with women and thinking on the feet. You cant seduce by hindsight.

Precisely. After the fact advice. In other words, what he could have projected but didn’t.
I’m a little puzzled about your remark about not seducing by hindsight.
What we can do is learn from our mistakes and resolve to put new things into practice the next time.

 

[corrector]

Precisely. After the fact advice. In other words, what he could have projected but didn’t.
I’m a little puzzled about your remark about not seducing by hindsight.
What we can do is learn from our mistakes and resolve to put new things into practice the next time.

Its because everything is ALWAYS perfect in hindsight. I always know what's wrong, what could have been done better, and feel it's part of the overall anxiety. Something clicking in your head after a woman's gone doesn't bring an opportunity back. Thinking on your feet while you have the opportunity means something is actually done.

I think we all have great movies in our heads about how an interaction could / should have gone but there is a "wall" when you are actually in the moment of pushing an envelope to flirt, be seductive, or escalate.

 

[bat soup]

....Or anything with your name and number on it to quickly give it to a woman your interested in.

It could of come in handy today.

I am on a mini vacation in Pennsylvania about 2.5 hours drive from where I live.

I love history so I paid for a guided tour of some Revolutionary war figures late 18th century home.

Turns out I was the only person signed up and the guide was a female (probably late 30's--no ring) and not at all bad looking. She also had on a cute 18th century outfit.

I'm usually not attracted to women around my age but her passion for history made her more attractive.
It was just her and I the whole time. I had my mask on (it was recommended to wear) but she seemed a little nervous (attraction?) And played with her hair a few times when we were speaking. We made a little small talk, but she was explaining things in the house most of the time.

I'm not sure If the above were IOI's from her or not, but could have been.

She did say a couple of times she was frazzled because she never had only one person before , so who knows.

Anyhow, I was contemplating getting her number or possibly giving her mine when the tour ended, but I didn't.

I felt wierd-creepy doing so since she was on the job and a co-worker (older guy) showed up right at the end.

I thanked her and we parted ways. I have her first and last name (she was wearing a name tag) and I figured when I get back to my hotel I can try and find her on LinkedIn or Facebook.

Unfortunately, no luck.

If I had a business like card handy with my number, I could of maybe pulled it off.

However she does have my name (from signing up online) and I did tell her where I was from in the beginning , so my only hope is she stalks me....lol.

In these situations you have to get the number as soon as you can rather than wait to the end. You never know when a cokblocker is going to turn up.

 

[2Rocky]

There is another forum where one of the members was a tour guide and would isolate attractive young women who were on his tours for one on one experiences later. You have to remember this female tour guide sees dozens of single men a week and has probably heard every pickup line there is if she truly is attractive. If you are looking for a how to, search "Hired Gun Game".

Basically you gotta make it so she feels comfortable approaching you, without appearing like a lovesick puppy. You have to captivate her and have her wondering "Who is this guy?" " I need to find out more about him" . So with a Tour guide, you might want to have some special interest that runs parallel to hers. An area that is not her wheel house. Maybe in this case it's the cicada hatch down by the river at night, or some winery that goes back to the 18th century, It could be something totally removed from her job. I had a bartender get off her shift and buy me a drink because I mentioned a certain festival. After that beer she asked me to walk her to her car....

 

[corrector]

without appearing like a lovesick puppy.

yeah, there's that.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

....Or anything with your name and number on it to quickly give it to a woman your interested in.

It could of come in handy today.

I am on a mini vacation in Pennsylvania about 2.5 hours drive from where I live.

I love history so I paid for a guided tour of some Revolutionary war figures late 18th century home.

Turns out I was the only person signed up and the guide was a female (probably late 30's--no ring) and not at all bad looking. She also had on a cute 18th century outfit.

I'm usually not attracted to women around my age but her passion for history made her more attractive.
It was just her and I the whole time. I had my mask on (it was recommended to wear) but she seemed a little nervous (attraction?) And played with her hair a few times when we were speaking. We made a little small talk, but she was explaining things in the house most of the time.

I'm not sure If the above were IOI's from her or not, but could have been.

She did say a couple of times she was frazzled because she never had only one person before , so who knows.

Anyhow, I was contemplating getting her number or possibly giving her mine when the tour ended, but I didn't.

I felt wierd-creepy doing so since she was on the job and a co-worker (older guy) showed up right at the end.

I thanked her and we parted ways. I have her first and last name (she was wearing a name tag) and I figured when I get back to my hotel I can try and find her on LinkedIn or Facebook.

Unfortunately, no luck.

If I had a business like card handy with my number, I could of maybe pulled it off.

However she does have my name (from signing up online) and I did tell her where I was from in the beginning , so my only hope is she stalks me....lol.

Why not just get her number? If she is genuinely interested she won't hesitate. If she does, wish her good luck and walk away. Simple.

Regarding your actual post, might work for some and not for others. Depends on the interaction you had with the woman, and the type of business on the card. For me it doesn't work, the content and opinions of my company are hard to digest for modern women. They will, and have in the past, automatically regard it as misogynism when it's quite the opposite. But again, I cannot control what people think so I don't worry about it. People will want to hear what they want to hear, and only a very few have the mental capacity to be open-minded and actually listen.

In conclusion, I rather just get the number. Keep things simple. Most women won't bother reaching out, and if she is not willing to give you her number, she sure won't be calling/texting you cause you gave her a card.

My two cents.

Modern Man Advice

 

[corrector]

Yes spontaneity. Not thinking. Staying focused on whats in front of you

Exactly. A rusty and clumsy, or even creepy, half-witted attempt to get a someone's number is always 100 times better than thinking of some great and flawless flirting/seduction routine that would have worked like a charm, after she's gone. You can only work with what you have.