Having a business card to give to women

[oc16]

....Or anything with your name and number on it to quickly give it to a woman your interested in.

It could of come in handy today.

I am on a mini vacation in Pennsylvania about 2.5 hours drive from where I live.

I love history so I paid for a guided tour of some Revolutionary war figures late 18th century home.

Turns out I was the only person signed up and the guide was a female (probably late 30's--no ring) and not at all bad looking. She also had on a cute 18th century outfit.

I'm usually not attracted to women around my age but her passion for history made her more attractive.
It was just her and I the whole time. I had my mask on (it was recommended to wear) but she seemed a little nervous (attraction?) And played with her hair a few times when we were speaking. We made a little small talk, but she was explaining things in the house most of the time.

I'm not sure If the above were IOI's from her or not, but could have been.

She did say a couple of times she was frazzled because she never had only one person before , so who knows.

Anyhow, I was contemplating getting her number or possibly giving her mine when the tour ended, but I didn't.

I felt wierd-creepy doing so since she was on the job and a co-worker (older guy) showed up right at the end.

I thanked her and we parted ways. I have her first and last name (she was wearing a name tag) and I figured when I get back to my hotel I can try and find her on LinkedIn or Facebook.

Unfortunately, no luck.

If I had a business like card handy with my number, I could of maybe pulled it off.

However she does have my name (from signing up online) and I did tell her where I was from in the beginning , so my only hope is she stalks me....lol.

 

[corrector]

Wow. The thirst is real. This is how I would likely think in these situations because I'm also thirsty for a woman's attention I get how you can build a fantasy off of a tour guide when you are the only guy there when a woman is just being cordial and doing her job.

I've never had any results from giving out business cards. It feels good at the moment that you think you did something and if she's interested enough she'll call. But you are fooling yourself as she never calls unless you are a chad/chadlite and have an abundance mindset and attitude. If you were searching her in social media then something's wrong with that mindset because its too scarcity.

My only thoughts is you should have got a selfie together with her. That way you are close to her and if anything was on your mind it would have come out if she cooperated with that.

 

[oc16]

Wow. The thirst is real. This is how I would likely think in these situations because I'm also thirsty for a woman's attention I get how you can build a fantasy off of a tour guide when you are the only guy there when a woman is just being cordial and doing her job.

I've never had any results from giving out business cards. It feels good at the moment that you think you did something and if she's interested enough she'll call. But you are fooling yourself as she never calls unless you are a chad/chadlite and have an abundance mindset and attitude. If you were searching her in social media then something's wrong with that mindset because its too scarcity.

I don't know about scarcity, but the fact that we had the history thing in common was a big plus. Not many women seem to like history.

The reason I mentioned a business card too is because it puts the ball in her court. If she thinks your a creep, she won't contact you (and who cares since she will never see you again). I think if they do have some interest, they will indeed contact you.

 

[Bokanovsky]

Giving women business cards was a big PUA thing about 20 years ago. It worked with predictable results (i.e. it didn't work).

Really, you are making things unnecessarily complicated. Just say something simple, like "it seems like we both have a passion for old dudes in white wigs, I would love to chat with you more. What's your number?" Don't try to make things more complicated than they need to be.

 

[oc16]

Giving women business cards was a big PUA thing about 20 years ago. It worked with predictable results (i.e. it didn't work).

Really, you are making things unnecessarily complicated. Just say something simple, like "it seems like we both have a passion for old dudes in white wigs, I would love to chat with you more. What's you number?" Don't try to make things more complicated than they need to be.

Yeah, but she was on the job

 

[Bokanovsky]

Yeah, but she was on the job

So what? It was just the two of you so it's not like you were putting her on the spot in front of others. Once again, you are overanalyzing.

 

[oc16]

So what? It was just the two of you so it's not like you were putting her on the spot in front of others. Once again, you are overanalyzing.

Perhaps you are right. I could of even asked for HER business card.

And as I said Earlier, some older dude colleague showed up as we were wrapping up.

However, the chick lives 2.5 hours away so I guess it wouldn't have made a difference. If she lived 90 minutes or less I would really be beating myself up. Only chance was if I hung out with her tonight.

 

[Hal9000]

I keep business cards on me for potential business opportunities. I wouldn't get too fired up about turning them into dates. Not gonna happen.

 

[corrector]

I don't know about scarcity, but the fact that we had the history thing in common was a big plus. Not many women seem to like history.

She was a paid tour guide and you were on a tour. That was her job. Scarcity is your problem because if you were well-fed then you wouldn't really take any notice to this guide at all because you have other women in your life.

I doubt someone like @BackInTheGame78 or @Pan87 would even have an issue here because they always have women in their life coming and going. When you are hard-up then you start building an unrealistic fantasy with every woman that's giving you attention which just reflects thirst.

If there was a chad in the same room you'd probably really be invisible to her and she'd be doing the tour with him while you are floating around looking at them and how she's treating him, etc... You can't even say that she gave you preferential treatment to other guys in the same room.

The reason I mentioned a business card too is because it puts the ball in her court. If she thinks your a creep, she won't contact you (and who cares since she will never see you again). I think if they do have some interest, they will indeed contact you.

I'd listen to @Pan87 reply to the issue with business cards. He's covered that spot on.

 

[oc16]

She was a paid tour guide and you were on a tour. That was her job. Scarcity is your problem because if you were well-fed then you wouldn't really take any notice to this guide at all because you have other women in your life.

I doubt someone like @BackInTheGame78 or @Pan87 would even have an issue here because they always have women in their life coming and going. When you are hard-up then you start building an unrealistic fantasy with every woman that's giving you attention which just reflects thirst.

If there was a chad in the same room you'd probably really be invisible to her and she'd be doing the tour with him while you are floating around looking at them and how she's treating him, etc... You can't even say that she gave you preferential treatment to other guys in the same room.



I'd listen to @Pan87 reply to the issue with business cards. He's covered that spot on.

Well, if scarcity and abundance are a mindset, why lie to yourself? I'm a realist, why would I have an abundance mindset when that is not the case at all?

 

[corrector]

Well, if scarcity and abundance are a mindset, why lie to yourself? I'm a realist, why would I have an abundance mindset when that is not the case at all?

This is what people on here, such as @BackInTheGame78, @mrgoodstuff, like to talk about. I don't agree with it either.

Did you do the 3 second rule? This rule states (old one from the 00s), that you have to ask a woman out, or her number, within 3 seconds from thinking about it. You just force it out. If you wait longer than 3 seconds, then something normally happens which makes it even harder than that moment. In your case, you had c0ckblock.

What you did was overanalyze the situation, felt wierd-creepy about it, which is the natural flow of rational thought since your mind is going to look for any possible excuse not to talk to her and then you lose the opportunity. The 3 second rule means you are counting down 3 seconds and not thinking and then you do it once the 3 seconds are up.

Guess nobody talks about these things anymore here.

 

[oc16]

This is what people on here, such as @BackInTheGame78, @mrgoodstuff, like to talk about. I don't agree with it either.

Did you do the 3 second rule? This rule states (old one from the 00s), that you have to ask a woman out, or her number, within 3 seconds from thinking about it. You just force it out. If you wait longer than 3 seconds, then something normally happens which makes it even harder than that moment. In your case, you had c0ckblock.

What you did was overanalyze the situation, felt wierd-creepy about it, which is the natural flow of rational thought since your mind is going to look for any possible excuse not to talk to her and then you lose the opportunity. The 3 second rule means you are counting down 3 seconds and not thinking and then you do it once the 3 seconds are up.

Guess nobody talks about these things anymore here.

It's a good rule. The more you hesitate, the more time you have to overanalyze and talk yourself out of it.

I can't find this chick anywhere on Facebook or LinkedIn. Strange

 

[BillyPilgrim]

You give her your business card in order for her to write down her number on the back of it and hand it back to you.

You don't simply leave it with her lol.

 

[Robert28]

He thinks approaching women is "creepy" - he said so himself. This is why he is in avoidance mindset.

Cold approach is creepy. Who cares? It just so happens to work. "Creepy" is just a shaming tactic.

Women and feminist want men to repress their sexuality, they want you to be ashamed of anything that you find attractive or desire or they turns you on about women at all. It’s working well on some men, some men ignore it though.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is what people on here, such as @BackInTheGame78, @mrgoodstuff, like to talk about. I don't agree with it either.

Did you do the 3 second rule? This rule states (old one from the 00s), that you have to ask a woman out, or her number, within 3 seconds from thinking about it. You just force it out. If you wait longer than 3 seconds, then something normally happens which makes it even harder than that moment. In your case, you had c0ckblock.

What you did was overanalyze the situation, felt wierd-creepy about it, which is the natural flow of rational thought since your mind is going to look for any possible excuse not to talk to her and then you lose the opportunity. The 3 second rule means you are counting down 3 seconds and not thinking and then you do it once the 3 seconds are up.

Guess nobody talks about these things anymore here.

Mindset. It's all mindset. You can never get to a place of abundance from a place of lack. The first thing you need to change is your mindset.

 

[corrector]

Mindset. It's all mindset. You can never get to a place of abundance from a place of lack. The first thing you need to change is your mindset.

You mean lie to yourself? This is what the OP says that is. Why don't you reply to the OP and teach him to have an abundance mindset.

 

[oc16]

Mindset. It's all mindset. You can never get to a place of abundance from a place of lack. The first thing you need to change is your mindset.

I hear what you are saying, but let's talk about women you want to get to know better. Even though most men on here don't want to admit it or they think it's weak....blah blah blah.....We all want to meet a woman who we want to get to know better and not just hookup.

That being said, perhaps I have a scarcity mindset because it's the TRUTH.

Finding a woman who you find attractive, genuinely want to get to know better and who is SINGLE is hard to find these days.

 

[MatureDJ]

I remember reading an obit about a guy whose job was "entrepreneur"; that would be interesting business card.

 

[corrector]

I hear what you are saying, but let's talk about women you want to get to know better. Even though most men on here don't want to admit it or they think it's weak....blah blah blah.....We all want to meet a woman who we want to get to know better and not just hookup.

That being said, perhaps I have a scarcity mindset because it's the TRUTH.

Finding a woman who you find attractive, genuinely want to get to know better and who is SINGLE is hard to find these days.

Maybe it is a good idea to own this type of issue. So you think the fundamental issue is a misunderstanding between a hookup and woman we want to know better? Now you know these people are going to probably say the same thing...that attraction works the same way whether you want a hook-up, girlfriend, friend, fwb, marriage, etc..... and a woman needs to be attracted to you in order to cooperate with you to want to be known by you (even if that's your goal).

What direction you want to go with a lady is always up to the guy and that's based on your screening of her and what type of role of a woman she's good for. Most guys go with hookups because the woman are too low quality anything else. If someone who understands attraction and abundance mindset goes for a woman who is high quality then they'll likely go for the "know your better" / relationship angle.

However, you don't know what type of girl this is as a tour guide. For example, we are just thirsty and the default for thirsty guys such as ourselves is not going to be a hook-up route anyway since we don't really have that many options to put women in different categories. Of course you'll want to know more women better.

 

[2Rocky]

This one works magic for me....

My best BC story was when I made eye contact with a woman who was on the phone in a hotel bar...After she finished her convo, she came over to talk to me.

....At this point she became the center of attention as she explained where "Hello Beautiful" came from, and then turned to me and said "You are quite popular" All the while with LASER eye contact. The whole time, I was sitting at the bar, sideways, talking between bites of my dinner as all the middle aged male colleagues of mine circled around and acted like lovestruck orbiters, but with a little more professional panache. She positioned herself close to me and in the crowded bar it was quite close and kino was nearly automatic as we brushed arms and her legs straddled my knee on occasion. She would field a question from one of the guys, then give her reply while looking at me. Eventually, the gaggle spread out as they came to know who the "New Hot Chick" was and I offered her the seat next to me. All the while I remained seated. This time frame was about as long as the second half of the basketball game on the television...

One funny incident was when one of the technical consultants I work with started telling her about a problem he had she reached into her purse, pulled out a business card, told him she didn't have an answer for him but she would be happy to refer him to the right person, and handed ME the card. "You can ask 2R for my email...." I was laughing maniacally on the inside....