I'm just saying that you stated you were refraining from sex for the sake of it like it's a virtue. I guess you're talking in terms of females. Which I can see as a virtue, since the need isn't as great. If you are talking in terms of both genders indulging in sex for the sake of sex, then that's an ignorant statement(until you do steroids) seeing as you have no idea what the sex drive of a man is like. To belittle sex just for the sake of it. I'm also not too sure the men you mention are just not at a point where their libido is starting to slow down. By your own admission they did indulge in sex just for the sake of it. So the need was there for them at some point.
How often are you actually getting laid ?
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I guess what I'm really trying to say is that... You're on a self help site for men who have a need to have sex that are trying to learn how to fulfill that need. Being a female, which automatically excludes you from having these problems to begin with. Talking about the virtues of not partaking in the act just to do it.
This is like going onto a site full of starving africans tyring to learn how to farm. Then you come on saying "well being that I have access to food from the grocery store, I have no need to eat at every opportunity". It's insulting.
This is like going onto a site full of starving africans tyring to learn how to farm. Then you come on saying "well being that I have access to food from the grocery store, I have no need to eat at every opportunity". It's insulting.
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I don't think females could ever understand it from our perspective. Just trying to satisfy a need so we can go on about our day.
And of course it will inflate their view of themself if all kinds of guys are wanting to fvck them. How could it not?
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@DonJuanjr its like this. I am well aware that men have a physiological need for sex due to testosterone and so forth. I never turned my husband down for sex. Ever. The man I’m seeing now knows to wake me up if he gets a rise in the middle of the night. I’m delighted to please him...but that is because I have genuine desire for him and also because I love to feel desired by him. That is not sex just for the sake of sex. It’s deeper than that. There’s more to it. That’s all I’m saying.
Smart women know men actually need sexual release and if they desire their man they are all about satisfying him thoroughly (great for them too.)
What I’m saying is more along the lines of this. If you just finished a wonderful steak dinner you are full. Satiated. You aren’t hungry but rather your need is met. Do you go eat another steak dinner (or any other meal) immediately after your steak dinner? No. You’re already full.
When your sexual needs are met, and/or you know you can easily get them met, you relax and aren’t focused on THAT constantly. You have an abundant mind set. You know you can obtain and enjoy sex just as you know you’ll eat another great meal. And you act from a place of abundance rather than from a place of scarcity and lack.
I have an abundance mindset. I know men with an abundance mindset. I know men who can get laid with 2 or 3 different women in the same 12 hour day! I have zero desire to do that myself...but know men who can and do. And eventually they get so much abundance that they are “over it”. Then it becomes about meaning. About something deeper. I’ve been there in that mindset myself a long time.
It’s an abundance mindset Im seeking to illustrate. Which top tier men have just as I have.
Smart women know men actually need sexual release and if they desire their man they are all about satisfying him thoroughly (great for them too.)
What I’m saying is more along the lines of this. If you just finished a wonderful steak dinner you are full. Satiated. You aren’t hungry but rather your need is met. Do you go eat another steak dinner (or any other meal) immediately after your steak dinner? No. You’re already full.
When your sexual needs are met, and/or you know you can easily get them met, you relax and aren’t focused on THAT constantly. You have an abundant mind set. You know you can obtain and enjoy sex just as you know you’ll eat another great meal. And you act from a place of abundance rather than from a place of scarcity and lack.
I have an abundance mindset. I know men with an abundance mindset. I know men who can get laid with 2 or 3 different women in the same 12 hour day! I have zero desire to do that myself...but know men who can and do. And eventually they get so much abundance that they are “over it”. Then it becomes about meaning. About something deeper. I’ve been there in that mindset myself a long time.
It’s an abundance mindset Im seeking to illustrate. Which top tier men have just as I have.
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It's not anything worth bragging about for a female to say she has an "abundance mindset." It's literally saying nothing.
And I always question guys who say they do because most people's tough talk falls apart when pressed for details.
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
I appreciate the fact you recognize men's need due to testosterone. I wish all women had this understanding. Instead of the carrot dangling mindset I see many complaining about on here.
For you it's not just sex for the sake of it. For him, it may just be.
Men need bigger steak portions to feel satiated.
You just admitted to these men you know eating multiple steak dinners. Just for the sake of eating steak dinners.
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Actually, the need is to unload...now how you go about that speaks a lot about who you are and your level of maturity. If one subjugates his life to that need by (depending on how much money/time one has) being a Dan Bilzerian wannabe/a regular to the local brothel/spending all his time on swipe apps or nightclubs trying to score then it shows one's pretty low quality. It's like the people who subjugate themselves to the need to eat by constantly eating junk. Poisons both the body and the mind. Or one could cook for himself healthy foods while tending to one's life and bettering oneself till one magnetizes a great woman into his life. Who will then tend to both of those needs.
