Plate got angry at me for seeing other women

[Bigpapa]

Don't mansplain for BeExcellent. She doesn't need to male translator to get her point across, especially not a giant chad like you ;-)

actually velasco is a cool guy

I can vouch for him

 

[Bigpapa]

You're both cool guys. Stop being so sensitive men. For fvck sake. Frame!

well velasco is a little bit of a d1ckhead himself , and sometimes wants to disagree with you for no reason

he is a Scorpio , just give him a slack haha

 

[In2theGame]

Last night I met a woman for some drinks. We hadn’t hung out in 2.5 weeks or so. We went back to her place and she proceeded to want to know why I hadn’t texted her in that time. I said we had texted and she said “yeah because I reached out.” Then she wanted to know if I was sleeping with other women. I said I was. She then told me she had slept with someone two days prior. I said “ok - we aren’t exclusive so no big deal.” She then got really sh1tty and wanted to know “how many” I had slept with. I told her I slept with two different people in that timeframe. She then started going on and on about how she wasn’t going to sleep with a “wh0re” so if that’s what I wanted then she couldn’t see me anymore. I said “that’s fine - but I am not ready to exclusive with anyone. So if we’re done that’s OK.” She said “I don’t know I’m going to think about it.”

Then she went to the bathroom and came back and her entire demeanor was different. Suddenly she was feeling me up and was definitely DTF. However, I was completely turned off at that point. I told her it was late and I was going to be getting back. So I got up and left. She was stunned I was leaving I think. I think the plate is broken.

Maybe dumb since I could still sleep with her if I hadn’t left. It’s just exhausting having to even deal with that sh1t. Are you other DJs just not honest about seeing others and give the impression you’re only seeing them when this happens? I don’t have the energy for it.

Didn't see this post until now but dude, what you did here was powerful. You were purely honest with the fact that you're getting pvssy aside from her and she tried to verbally retaliate with telling you that she banged someone two days ago. You saw it for what it was and said it was totally fine because you two are not exclusive. She probably went to the bathroom and rethought about what you said to her and your honesty aroused her.

Women want a Man that have OTHER Women. So what your attitude was essentially telling her is that "Yes, I am fcvking other Women and if you don't like it... no worries.. you can just leave" however she DIDNT leave and desired you to fvck her more. I know how powerful this is because ive experience it many times myself. Women sexually desire a Man when his attitude says "Sure I enjoy your pvssy but I absolutely dont need your pvssy" <--- Very powerful attitude to have.

 

[Bigpapa]

Being a bit of a disagreeable d1ckhead is actually very masculine in the eyes of women. So, I can believe it helps Velasco get laid. Being agreeable is a feminine and submissive trait.

If you think I'm bad, you should see my younger brother. He is the most disagreeable a$$hole I've ever met. It's extremely annoying. He also gets more female attention than anyone I know. I actually think he's way over-calibrated and it comes across very badly, but women seem to love it so I just can't deny this reality.

He's like the classic AMOG who will just walk around arguing with and shaming guys for no reason other than to assert his dominance, and then try to fvck their girlfriends. He's a monster. He even tried to fvck my ex-girlfriend (I don't know if he succeeded, and I don't want to know - she told me he attempted it and failed, but we all know women edit reality). Basically, he's a giant prick. Haha. But, you know, family. Can't choose em. I still love him.

I am the same , just that as I got older , instead of arguing with people I will start ignoring them , or just make sarcastic comments

this might be a good tool for women , but in a working environment it is not a trait to have . People get offended really easy This days

I think the best calibration is to be somehow agreeable when makes sense to be , and disagreeable when you do not have to be

also relationship wise , if you are too much of a d1ckhead it does not build a good foundation , as women will try to pay you back You being a d1ckhead , most of the times when you are in a dark place of your life . And they just want to give you the last push

 

[Bigpapa]

Didn't see this post until now but dude, what you did here was powerful. You were purely honest with the fact that you're getting pvssy aside from her and she tried to verbally retaliate with telling you that she banged someone two days ago. You saw it for what it was and said it was totally fine because you two are not exclusive. She probably went to the bathroom and rethought about what you said to her and your honesty aroused her.

usually women say this kind of things out of spite and ego . More or less they do it to get a reaction

she wanted more or less to see if you care or not , and you showed her that you care , and that is why she came back ( plus the fact that you have options , as you were sincere )

if you would have been just cold towards her , you would have hit her dignity and just leave

most of the times when they say this is not real , as usually when they are sl8tty they do not really say anyone that they are sl8tty

you should not take what women say at face value

 

[Barrister]

Didn't see this post until now but dude, what you did here was powerful. You were purely honest with the fact that you're getting pvssy aside from her and she tried to verbally retaliate with telling you that she banged someone two days ago. You saw it for what it was and said it was totally fine because you two are not exclusive. She probably went to the bathroom and rethought about what you said to her and your honesty aroused her.

Women want a Man that have OTHER Women. So what your attitude was essentially telling her is that "Yes, I am fcvking other Women and if you don't like it... no worries.. you can just leave" however she DIDNT leave and desired you to fvck her more. I know how powerful this is because ive experience it many times myself. Women sexually desire a Man when his attitude says "Sure I enjoy your pvssy but I absolutely dont need your pvssy" <--- Very powerful attitude to have.

I actually have not heard from her for the last couple of days -- but I don't care. I have dates lined up for Thursday and Friday already with two women who are hotter than (and not as manipulative as) she is. Her behavior was a huge turnoff to me and I don't plan to reach out to her again. If she reached out to me I would want an apology before we hung out again. I completely understand that she isn't going to apologize and that is perfectly fine. On to the next.

 

[Velasco]

I actually have not heard from her for the last couple of days -- but I don't care. I have dates lined up for Thursday and Friday already with two women who are hotter than (and not as manipulative as) she is. Her behavior was a huge turnoff to me and I don't plan to reach out to her again. If she reached out to me I would want an apology before we hung out again. I completely understand that she isn't going to apologize and that is perfectly fine. On to the next.

what should she apologize for? for being born a girl? as you say these new girls you have lined up are not as manipulative as this girl (how do you know this for certain if you have not hung out with them as long as this girl?). "not as" -> still indicates the behavior is still there (manipulative). so you say as soon as these new girls do something manipulative, you will drop them too?

as igetit said in a recent thread,

I also don't just throw in the towel after one or two minor issues. I mean what should I have done,go....."You want your son to come? Forget it...I'm not interested. Good luck,hope everything works out for you"....?

If people just gave up on others the first time an issue arised,no one would be dating.

it's just their nature.

 

[Barrister]

what should she apologize for? for being born a girl? as you say these new girls you have lined up are not as manipulative as this girl (how do you know this for certain if you have not hung out with them as long as this girl?). "not as" -> still indicates the behavior is still there (manipulative). so you say as soon as these new girls do something manipulative, you will drop them too?

as igetit said in a recent thread,

it's just their nature.

I know you keep trying to challenge how I handled this - I simply don't agree with your mindset. If you want to put up with that type of behavior for some pVssy then knock yourself out. It isn't for me. And to answer your question, if these other girls do something I am not OK with, yes I will drop them. It is just as I told @Pan87 - I understand that this overall lessens the amount of vagina I am going to get - but I just don't have the time or energy to put up with this from a plate.

You can keep trying to poke holes in what I did but I really don't care. We will just agree to disagree.

 

[Bigpapa]

I know you keep trying to challenge how I handled this - I simply don't agree with your mindset. If you want to put up with that type of behavior for some pVssy then knock yourself out. It isn't for me. And to answer your question, if these other girls do something I am not OK with, yes I will drop them. It is just as I told @Pan87 - I understand that this overall lessens the amount of vagina I am going to get - but I just don't have the time or energy to put up with this from a plate.

You can keep trying to poke holes in what I did but I really don't care. We will just agree to disagree.

if you are genuinely tired of bullsh1t from women then kudos to you

but if you are actually feel disrespected or felt that she wounded your ego , and trying to reframe it as this , then it is not cool . You are only lying to yourself

 

[Barrister]

Dang. Guys are still challenging you on this.

A lot of insecurity hanging around this thread.

Unfortunately, I feel like a lot of threads end up just being who can beat their chest the hardest behind their keyboards.

 

[Barrister]

if you are genuinely tired of bullsh1t from women then kudos to you

but if you are actually feel disrespected or felt that she wounded your ego , and trying to reframe it as this , then it is not cool . You are only lying to yourself

@Bigpapa - come on brother. Nothing in any of my posts should make you think that this chick wounded my ego and I am trying to cover for that. If that was the case why would I even post it on here? It's just sh1t I am not going to put up with from a plate. It's tiresome (and I have rarely had this kind of situation with the negative reaction) so I was curious what others' opinions were.

 

[Bigpapa]

@Bigpapa - come on brother. Nothing in any of my posts should make you think that this chick wounded my ego and I am trying to cover for that. If that was the case why would I even post it on here? It's just sh1t I am not going to put up with from a plate. It's tiresome (and I have rarely had this kind of situation with the negative reaction) so I was curious what others' opinions were.

I was just saying that 1 thing is cool , the other not , not implying anything

 

[King Lion]

Never talk about a female to another female - Unless it's to say that one or the other doesn't measure up to the one you're talking to at the time!

 

[manfrombelow]

I actually have not heard from her for the last couple of days -- but I don't care. I have dates lined up for Thursday and Friday already with two women who are hotter than (and not as manipulative as) she is. Her behavior was a huge turnoff to me and I don't plan to reach out to her again. If she reached out to me I would want an apology before we hung out again. I completely understand that she isn't going to apologize and that is perfectly fine. On to the next.

This mindset is the difference between Happiness and Suffering for a guy. Congrats bro!

 

[TheKid]

I make a distinction.

A playboy is a man who openly spins plates and makes no bones about it.

A player on the other hand uses deception and tap dancing or other lack of disclosure to play women by letting them think things are different than they actually are. Players dupe women to one degree or another because they think deception is necessary to keep the woman engaged.

A playboy realizes deception is not necessary and in fact can be adverse.

Both types end up hurting women but the mechanics are different. Players hurt women worse in my view because the premise of the interaction is an illusion. With playboys it is the women who decieve themselves...and get hurt in the process.

I’m neutral about the getting hurt part, by the way. People get hurt all the time in dating dynamics, so my comments are not meant to cast bad juju on men regarding women who get hurt.

Playboys are unapologetic and in my experience are without exception more mature and more secure than players.

So just say the truth?
But the other guys thing about mystery and connecting the dots made me feel something. Im confused now?

 

[manfrombelow]

Buddy of mine: I'm not sure what to do about this girl.

Me: I would just tell her how you feel.

* competition control * -

"You should confess your inner feeling to her. Girls love it when men be emotional and not afraid to show their vulnerable side."

* Laugh in competition control *

 

[BeExcellent]

So just say the truth?
But the other guys thing about mystery and connecting the dots made me feel something. Im confused now?

Depends on your style and your comfort level in how you conduct your business. My post that you quoted cites the difference between a playboy and a player. Some men find transparency to be more congruent with how they handle non-exclusive dating situations, some men think a “don’t ask/don’t tell” policy is best, some outright lie or deflect or obfuscate how they operate.

Transparency is best in my view (provided you have the balls) because when you are transparent you are acting with integrity and therefore are beyond reproach in that respect.

That doesn’t mean your plates are going to LIKE what you are doing...you may have some elect not to be your plates over it. This is why abundance is key.

 

[Willie Naylor]

 

[Bokanovsky]

Last night I met a woman for some drinks. We hadn’t hung out in 2.5 weeks or so. We went back to her place and she proceeded to want to know why I hadn’t texted her in that time. I said we had texted and she said “yeah because I reached out.” Then she wanted to know if I was sleeping with other women. I said I was. She then told me she had slept with someone two days prior. I said “ok - we aren’t exclusive so no big deal.” She then got really sh1tty and wanted to know “how many” I had slept with. I told her I slept with two different people in that timeframe. She then started going on and on about how she wasn’t going to sleep with a “wh0re” so if that’s what I wanted then she couldn’t see me anymore. I said “that’s fine - but I am not ready to exclusive with anyone. So if we’re done that’s OK.” She said “I don’t know I’m going to think about it.”

Then she went to the bathroom and came back and her entire demeanor was different. Suddenly she was feeling me up and was definitely DTF. However, I was completely turned off at that point. I told her it was late and I was going to be getting back. So I got up and left. She was stunned I was leaving I think. I think the plate is broken.

Maybe dumb since I could still sleep with her if I hadn’t left. It’s just exhausting having to even deal with that sh1t. Are you other DJs just not honest about seeing others and give the impression you’re only seeing them when this happens? I don’t have the energy for it.

Your mistake was having a frank conversation with her. Women are just not capable of having completely frank conversations on this particular subject matter. I mean, she called you a “wh*re” for sleeping with someone else even though she did the very same thing herself. You should have told her that because the two of you are not exclusive, it’s none of her business. This would have avoided much unnecessary awkwardness.

 

[Bokanovsky]

I always prefer the truth, however distasteful I might find it, because it is better than deception.

This is the most anti-game advice I’ve ever read. Women prefer deception, even if they will never admit it. This is especially true of women you’re seeing casually. They know that you’re probably sleeping with other women but they don’t need to hear it directly.

Rule #1 of interacting with women is to never be direct. NEVER BE DIRECT. Women are indirect creatures by nature. That’s why they send “signals” and hope you’d pick up on them, instead of asking you out directly. That’s why they bid their time and stab you in the back instead of confronting you immediately, like a man would. If women were responsive to direct communication, “I like you, let’s go fvck” would be the most popular pick up line. The inherent indirectness of the female nature is the reason why the concept of game exists in the fist place.