@KokonutKrew
Do you know what you're avoided? I'll tell you. Personal emotional responsibility. In other words, self love.
And rather than take the time to learn to love yourself, you're desperately seeking validation from this girl and probably others. You identify with their validation so strongly because you're
neglecting your emotional self and expecting them to maintain it for you.
As others have said, you are seeking to be coddled like a child by his mother.
You're like a junkie looking for his next hit of approval and attention. What you fail to realize is the most fulfilling satisfaction and approval is yours, and it comes from within.
If you keep seeing girls with your current mindset then I would argue reform and maturity will be a long and tough road for you. The women you meet will help you along by treating you like the man-child you are. They will use you, and you may even grow to resent them for it, but that resentment will only stray you further from the path of masculinity. Then one day you'll hopefully realize you should have valued yourself much more the entire time and snap out of it.
Have you stopped to ask yourself
why you want to tie this or that girl down so badly? I have a feeling you don't have a good answer for this, and I'm willing to bet the real reason is because it'll make you feel more emotionally safe in life. In other words, out of fear.
Imo you are the epitome of the blue pill mindset. You are so lost from the path that you're not even asking the right questions. You're asking how to stray further from it. That is why it feels like games, and that is why you feel this is so complicated, and why you are contemplating posting on SC just to try and influence her, and why you made this thread to ask how exactly to play this. This is extremely childish and backwards.
What you need to do is stop everything and focus inward. Find hobbies you truly enjoy, work on your career, find what moves you, what you're passionate about in life(not women) and pursue that passion with all your might. In that pursuit you'll be challenged relentlessly, and in overcoming those obstacles you'll be reminded of your strength, your capacity to be successful.
That success will breed self confidence and that confidence will create conviction in your endeavors. It'll spill out into other areas of your life with your stewardship.
Call these challenges your dragons. Every day you slay them, and it's tough work, but you love it and find it extremely fulfilling and satisfying. Women are an optional joy in this state. Why would you seek fulfillment from them? Instead you will have fulfillment to share, to
give.
You will have value, and will be picky with who you choose to share it with. When a woman gives you trouble or games you won't have any trouble walking away because you will already be an overflowing cup from your passions. That may be it's own challenge, learning to say no, to guard your value.
You can reform yourself, you can do it. You can become a great man that never contemplates how or what to say in order to keep a woman. It'll simply flow out of you because your mind will be saturated with abundance. It'll feel so natural, and women will be trivial.
All you have to do is take responsibility for your emotions. They are simply feedback. You don't have to identify with them, simply use them to course correct, and you will prosper.
A woman's eyes can be on a man, but the man's eyes are set on the horizon, seeking the next challenge to overcome, the next dragon to slay.
