No disrespect intended, but I think this explains why you're so socially stunted and awkward.
To an extent, however, I can't say that everything is the 90s, that's a make-it and break-it decade and I broke it so now I'm a prisoner of a fate made up in that decade. That could be an explanation of such going to a coed University after High School, but to extend that to 2020 after a marriage (2014) and intense relationship (2012), and other experiences before that, it is just hard to pin everything on that.
To the credit of the church in the 90s where I went, there was social interactions with adolescent girls going from 1993 forward. The high school did have dances held where people would mix there with girls from the other school. But that wasn't my cup of tea.
I don't believe that I don't have a gf because I'm socially stunted or awkward, otherwise, I wouldn't have had one in the past or have been married in the past and would have been a trucel. I just think allot of things have deteriorated that, according to
@stormrider theory, I do not have a social environment that's conducive to meeting women in an organic and natural way.
We have to remember, this thread is about online dating. If the only option to meet women is through online dating then we've already concluded there is a systemic problem with it otherwise you wouldn't have thirsty guys seeking out trans. You can't really say every incel has gone to an all boys school. It may not have helped me to go there, but it doesn't change my opinion that online dating is toxic, and that
@stormrider theory is more sound than online dating.
Xenom0rph said:
It is unhealthy for adolescent boys to not have social interactions with adolescent girls. It stunts their growth and they grow dependent on their mother because she's the only woman in their life.....
Girls can attend all girls school and grow up just fine, but boys cannot.
I agree that in my particular case, prior to 1993 and going to a co-ed church, it was unhealthy to some degree, and in fact, crippling to my success in University. I feel bad decisions of course selection were made in University because of thirstiness and oneitis which ultimately sank my grade point average. I would remember planning which girl to sit next to in a lecture or try to excuse myself to sit next to her, etc... That level of emotional maturity should not have existed in that type of environment or influenced any decision of what course to take (ie. if you stay longer in a particular course I'm not doing well at, then my exposure to a particular oneitis is increased, etc...) Or sometimes, if a "oneitis" is inside a room or class, I may wait a few minutes outside before working the nerve to go in, etc.... I would say the emotional process was just horrific and something went wrong in University.
