NoFap challenge for personal growth

[EyeOnThePrize]

I think everyone has their own reasons. I enjoy it for the challenge and benefits I see.

I have an addictive personality and am naturally an intense mofo so it had a strong effect on me. I tried not doing it out of curiosity and found it almost impossible to get over two days, so I figured I had a problem.

Couldn't sleep for the first 2 weeks, I was twitching like a recovering junkie and sweating my sheets up every night. Eventually broke through the withdrawal and filled out my frame, became an ox, got a better job, started working on some of the hardest projects on the planet in my free time, became a talented striker from boxing for hours every day, and had no problem being social and dominant af. But then over time cucked to some top shelf puzzy lol.

I used it for self discovery and introspection. I wanted to see what I was made of. Just like right now. I'm 11 days in and feel the exact opposite about my ex that I did a couple weeks ago. I couldn't give two sheets about her because I can literally feel my power and potential. ready to scrap at the drop of a hat. I feel like nothing can phase me and a relentless drive to conquer my life. I don't mean conquer it enough to get by, I mean fulfill my wildest dreams and beat the living sheet out of it.

I'll save all the details for my monthly update but you get the idea. Basically I like the dominance I exude when I abstain. I enjoy mastering the skill of containing a relentless drive and learning to use it efficiently.

 

[Blacksheep]

One problem I experienced with this is, the more we try to control something, the more it becomes a compulsion.

It's a pretty good idea, but I don't think it's as simple as saying to our mind not to do that. In my experience it only worse the problem with any addiction.

The only thing that get close to that goal for me was stopping caring about that and accept it's a desire to feel pleasure. If you exceed that then it may cause consequences (good and bad ones)... if you stop, also there will be consequences (good and bad). You're responsible to choose what is better in that moment.

Emotions will play a role on addictions... if you are sad, angry, depressed, you will be a way more prone to give in those high pleasure acts. Eating, faping, alcohol, and all kind of short term pleasure reliefs.

Another thing that worked for me was, when I started to understand this mecanism and found what triggers that, it also makes easier to balance decisions.

I would like to find a definitive strategy to quit all bad addictions, but I didn't find it anywhere than working on expanding the knowledg of myself... and I think if someone find a way to solve that puzzle, it will make this person really rich!

 

[Spaz]

Why are you so interested in the masturbation practices of random dudes on the internet?

And why do you seem to be leaning toward MORE masturbation by said anonymous dudes?

If you answer my question 1st, I'll tell you why.

 

[Spaz]

I think everyone has their own reasons. I enjoy it for the challenge and benefits I see.

I have an addictive personality and am naturally an intense mofo so it had a strong effect on me. I tried not doing it out of curiosity and found it almost impossible to get over two days, so I figured I had a problem.

Couldn't sleep for the first 2 weeks, I was twitching like a recovering junkie and sweating my sheets up every night. Eventually broke through the withdrawal and filled out my frame, became an ox, got a better job, started working on some of the hardest projects on the planet in my free time, became a talented striker from boxing for hours every day, and had no problem being social and dominant af. But then over time cucked to some top shelf puzzy lol.

I used it for self discovery and introspection. I wanted to see what I was made of. Just like right now. I'm 11 days in and feel the exact opposite about my ex that I did a couple weeks ago. I couldn't give two sheets about her because I can literally feel my power and potential. ready to scrap at the drop of a hat. I feel like nothing can phase me and a relentless drive to conquer my life. I don't mean conquer it enough to get by, I mean fulfill my wildest dreams and beat the living sheet out of it.

I'll save all the details for my monthly update but you get the idea. Basically I like the dominance I exude when I abstain. I enjoy mastering the skill of containing a relentless drive and learning to use it efficiently.

Well at least you're honest, which I can respect.

And yes, I was trolling ur thread since the start.

Because everyone was so focused on what they have already lost that they forgot what they had.

 

[Xenom0rph]

I've NoFapped before with mixed results. While it's true that aggression and s3x drive increases, for my situation this was not ideal because i work in a corporate setting and being overly aggressive and s3xual can get a man in trouble.

An alternative that works better for my situation is to do NoFap in 2 day intervals. This gives me the aggressive/s3xual edge but not so much that it becomes uncontrollable...

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Greek mode on....


Virtues lie in the mean... in the moderation of either extreme. So for example, bravery exists between cowardice on the one hand, and foolhardiness on the other. Frugality between the spendthrift and the miser. Etc.

Vice however admits of no moderation, and this is how you can tell it is vice and not virtue. Vice needs to be eradicated.

Virtue - virility - vir, for manliness.

 

[Spaz]

@EyeOnThePrize have you given some thought on my last post to you?

Others have made threads on nofap and each time I entered it was to ridicule it, frustrating the OP, the exception was this thread where I was just trolling, joking around, pulling ur leg so to speak.

It was because of ur potential.

Yes, I saw ur other threads and took note of ur potential.

Others might miss it but there's little that I miss.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

@EyeOnThePrize have you given some thought on my last post to you?

Others have made threads on nofap and each time I entered it was to ridicule it, frustrating the OP, the exception was this thread where I was just trolling, joking around, pulling ur leg so to speak.

It was because of ur potential.

Yes, I saw ur other threads and took note of ur potential.

Others might miss it but there's little that I miss.

Which post? The one about focusing on what we have rather than what we lost? Or do you mean a different thread entirely? I appreciate the encouragement. I promise not to let it get to my head.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

One problem I experienced with this is, the more we try to control something, the more it becomes a compulsion.

It's a pretty good idea, but I don't think it's as simple as saying to our mind not to do that. In my experience it only worse the problem with any addiction.

The only thing that get close to that goal for me was stopping caring about that and accept it's a desire to feel pleasure. If you exceed that then it may cause consequences (good and bad ones)... if you stop, also there will be consequences (good and bad). You're responsible to choose what is better in that moment.

Emotions will play a role on addictions... if you are sad, angry, depressed, you will be a way more prone to give in those high pleasure acts. Eating, faping, alcohol, and all kind of short term pleasure reliefs.

Another thing that worked for me was, when I started to understand this mecanism and found what triggers that, it also makes easier to balance decisions.

I would like to find a definitive strategy to quit all bad addictions, but I didn't find it anywhere than working on expanding the knowledg of myself... and I think if someone find a way to solve that puzzle, it will make this person really rich!

Its easier to replac3 it with another. Replace fapping with real sex. Replace partying with bettering your craft. Replace drinking with workouts.

 

[17 shots]

Anyone else have problems sleeping after going nofap? lol. I'll sleep like 2 hours and then I'm up again. My body doesn't want to stay asleep. It may just be a coincidence, but I don't want to jerk off and test it, because I love the on edge feeling it gives me

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Anyone else have problems sleeping after going nofap? lol. I'll sleep like 2 hours and then I'm up again. My body doesn't want to stay asleep. It may just be a coincidence, but I don't want to jerk off and test it, because I love the on edge feeling it gives me

The withdrawal symptoms of a junkie. Give it time, and you'll be sleeping like a baby~

 

[17 shots]

The withdrawal symptoms of a junkie. Give it time, and you'll be sleeping like a baby~

Yea I'm a dopamine junkie foreal lol. I slowed down my weed smoking to just the weekend also, so I'm probably going through double withdraw

 

[Mike32ct]

Anyone else have problems sleeping after going nofap? lol. I'll sleep like 2 hours and then I'm up again. My body doesn't want to stay asleep. It may just be a coincidence, but I don't want to jerk off and test it, because I love the on edge feeling it gives me

Yes, that's a normal temporary side effect. It will pass.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Month 1 is done. i succumbed to the begging of an old FWB twice(roughly 2 weeks apart) but never choked the dragon. i went to a couple events that she got me into for free as a means to work on social acuity but was turned off by her conditional giving and decided to not associate with her anymore. i have no problem finding events on my own. i started spending more time studying work related things to push for a promotion in lieu of dieting and working out. i've become somewhat complacent with my body because i'm in good shape but eventually always remember to push past the complacency as soon as i notice it. i've been going to coffee shops after work to study and the other night ended up chatting up a girl that sat next to me, i would say an 8. she was bubbly and asked tons of questions from the start so the interest was obvious. we grabbed dinner then hit my place. funny enough i forgot to exchange any details with her and she lives in another city that she was leaving for the next morning. i noticed some shiitty feelings the next morning and have started wondering if my own self neglect for pusssy in the past has caused me to have a negative guilt ridden view of sex in my current life. i seem to be holding on to some deep-seated resentment and guilt that i need to work through, nothing i can't handle. i'll push myself to go out to social things once or twice a month for now with the goal of having a good time and making good conversation. if an attractive woman shows high interest i'll probably enjoy myself as a gauge to see how i'm doing with overcoming the deep-seated guilt. i won't work to maintain a rotation for now.

i've started counting every dollar i make and devising investment baskets based on various risk parameters. i've also been constantly thinking exactly how to get to the position i want at my company and how to find time to work on my passive income endeavors. about to finish reading 'one less. one more.' by vorhaus and picked up 'fingerprints of the gods' by hancock. i've also noticed i become temporarily nearsighted at work from staring at the screen for too long. rather than reading on the way to/from work i've decided to listen to audio books and look out the window to help flex long distance focus muscles. currently listening to '48 laws of power' and constantly thinking how i can apply what i'm learning. i've been meditating more and am starting to get back into yoga to further offset all the sitting and stiffness. i've also remodeled a few rooms that had been bothering me for a while.

mentally and emotionally feeling much more grounded and solid than when i started this. thoughts of the ex come and go but they've become very rare lately and there is no longer any emotion behind it. i don't hate her, i'm apathetic and indifferent. if anything i chuckle and thank myself for dodging a bullet and the lessons the experience has taught me. i can say with certainty that she was one to play emotions heavily as a means to hook me, but only because i allowed it. i don't blame her because she's an emotional being and actually easily manipulated herself. i see through the veil of my own past confusion and understand these strong emotions were the result of a naive mistake on my part, one i'll be vigilant to never make again. that mistake was to neglect myself until i began to openly doubt my own convictions to an unhealthy degree by continuously giving her the benefit of the doubt when i should have checked and walked if it continued. i've also become quite comfortable with going into the unknown. i used to fear it and now i welcome it. this came about after repeatedly forcing myself into it and realizing that reality was much less scary than i imagined it to be. in fact it's pleasantly surprising. it's given me a newfound appreciation for my lack of responsibilities. no wife, no kids, no drug dependency, no expensive depreciating assets, no pets, the world is mine.

i think the comfort i'm feeling with the unknown is not something to sit with. i think i should continue to push my limits when i feel comfortable and push myself when i notice complacency. this seems to keep the testosterone flowing and helps me stay sharp. i'm not sure if i'll continue to divulge this much information in future updates, maybe i'll just be more ambiguous. let me know what you're interested in hearing about.

 

[DonJoel]

Here's a little biohack for when you're really having a hard time.

Take a small bowl and fill it with ice. Top it with cold water. Only fill it about two thirds because you need to account for displacement. Now, carefully dip your nads into that icey cups. Leave them in there for two minutes.

Not only will it take down your horn level, but it will also increase your T and sperm count.

Feels invigorating!

 

[speed dawg]

Here's a little biohack for when you're really having a hard time.

Take a small bowl and fill it with ice. Top it with cold water. Only fill it about two thirds because you need to account for displacement. Now, carefully dip your nads into that icey cups. Leave them in there for two minutes.

Not only will it take down your horn level, but it will also increase your T and sperm count.

Feels invigorating!

Hahahahahaha WTF

I've gotten in 50 degree water or whatever, and agree it increases T (due to survival mode) but I'm not icing my balls unless they are hurting.

 

[Spaz]

The delusions rises in tandem with the level of desperation.

I think I'd make a small fortune selling snake oil in Sosuave.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Fapping can be reduced to RUNNING AWAY from problems. An addictive self defeating COPING STRATEGY.

 

[speed dawg]

Fapping can be reduced to RUNNING AWAY from problems. An addictive self defeating COPING STRATEGY.

I'd agree with this.

I quit looking at porn and fapping a few years ago when I started to notice just a decrease in life in general. It tends to clear your mind up. Generally, like ChristoperColumbus said, moderation is the key, as usual. At this point I usually only fap if I get to the point that my libido and/or aggressiveness is at a boiling point, usually about every 5-7 days. This is why it's important for me to get laid every 2-4 days minimum, so I don't get into crazy territory. Hard for me to 'seduce' my wife when it's at that boiling point, because all I want to do is bust a nut and get her to bring me a sandwich.

 

[Poonani Maker]

So what is the endgame of this strategy?

To look good, feel good, and be attractive to not only the opposite sex, but people in general. If you fall off the wagon once every 2-3 weeks, then it's not going to hurt you, but 2 consecutive days will fvck you up, as well as once a week for a month or 2. If you've got absolutely NOTHING going on, the by all means, Fap.