to learn more about myself.So what is the endgame of this strategy?
Why just settle with cope?Whatever helps you cope in life
ah but fapping IS the coping method.Whatever helps you cope in life
I don't think that talk is cheap for you here. This thread seems to be an effective accountability for you.ah but fapping IS the coping method.
in these monthly updates i'm going to start including at least one important thing i learned in the last month.
Another month of debauchery. Smoking, fapping, some drinking, the works. and the month FLEW by meaning i challenged myself very little. I developed what i think is a slight pinched nerve in the neck. i believe it's primarily induced by my recent sedentary lifestyle due to sedating myself with smoking/fapping mixed with a stressful desk job. it was quite painful and debilitating with pins and needles shooting up and down my arm to my fingertips. i've been neglecting my body and am paying the price.
it was a bit of a wake up call. i committed to doing yoga every morning before work and within a week the pain began to subside. i started going to the gym again and was shocked at how weak my arm was as a result of the impingement. i was struggling to push half the weight with the affected dominant arm that the non dominant arm could push without issue. it seems my body will complain if i'm in anything but impeccable shape.
the older i get the more i realize that the i can't bounce back as well anymore and that eventually i won't bounce back, i'll die lol. the physical reality of self neglect manifests just as easily as that of self mastery. neglecting the self is not plateauing or taking a break because every minute spent not refining the self is a minute the self weakens. everything in this context can be analogous to a muscle. any practiced train of thought or mindset will be reinforced and come easier, any neglected will be forgotten and lost.
one important thing that i've re-learned in this last month is to listen to my inner voice with a rational mind. i know it seems like common sense but i believe a lot of people lose their ability to listen to this inner feeling rationally and eventually forget how to, like a neglected muscle. they stumble through life frustrated and drowning their sorrows with their vice of choice, simply doing what feels good in the moment and being reactive to their inner voice rather than respectfully listening and meditating on the ideas diligently before making a proactive decision. for example those who have forgotten are the men here that get laid but complain about feeling empty.
my gut voice seems to have very high standards for everything(money, respect, property, attire, knowledge), and it seems that it's the duty of my rational brain to manifest those feelings. that gut voice, that drive, that ambition, is what i've numbed with all the distractions in the world for over a decade because i seem to have conditioned myself to think not only do i not deserve those things, but that i'm shallow or not well in the head for wanting them in the first place. luckily i began the mental work to break this conditioning a few months ago. despite smoking/fapping, i've maintained and even strengthened my resolve and sense of emotional self control(or at least it feels that way).
rather than promise i'll stop doing anything i'll let my actions speak for themselves and always write about them in post. talk is cheap right?
What I mean by 'talk is cheap' is that talking about what I plan to do is a form of mental masturbation. I get the feel good chemicals rushing through my brain for talking about all the virtuous things I plan to do as if I'd already done them. I see this sort of talk everywhere and it's everyone's undoing. It's much better to simply keep those things to myself. It's less pressure on the self and people are that much more surprised when they see my results. It's also humble and comes across graceful and effortless if I never play it up. After all praise is the goal of weak minds and the spur of noble ones.I don't think that talk is cheap for you here. This thread seems to be an effective accountability for you.
Wow. I whack and I don't feel myself losing motivation to want to bang. Again, I'm younger than you though.I lose all motivation to bang chicks if I masturbate. It takes roughly a week to heal myself.
Now if I get laid, I want to keep getting laid many times throughout the week. It's a different feeling and you release triple the sperm when doing the real thing.Wow. I whack and I don't feel myself losing motivation to want to bang. Again, I'm younger than you though.
I will say like if I don't whack before bedtime that I feel much more energized in the morning to get going and more motivated to get stuff done.Now if I get laid, I want to keep getting laid many times throughout the week. It's a different feeling and you release triple the sperm when doing the real thing.
Men frequently err by talking too much. They often monopolize conversations, droning on and on about topics that bore women to tears. They think they're impressing the women when, in reality, they're depressing the women.
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