I'm spending hours a day on OLD. Is that an issue? Obsessed?

[backseatjuan]

This might not be true if you got mediocre looks, hello won't cut it. But as far as one message per day, good advice. I'd even ration it to one message every other day.

 

[user43770]

OP has no life. Why would a chick want a guy with no life or purpose?

I keep hearing about having a life "purpose." It's become such a gay cop out. Just find a life purpose, and everything will be ok.

Sure, buddy. Let me just find my life's purpose...

 

[biggoal]

That’s pretty much everyone online dating lol. It attracts all the people pretending to have a life but that don’t actually. Sounds like OP has some confidence issues and nothing destroys a man’s confidence quicker than burning hours online trying to get a date lol.

OP needs to get out doing ****. Build some confidence. Develop some hobbies. And meet some people IRL.

That’s my two cents anyway.

But these chicks on there for like 12 hours a day look and sound like they have a life based on their profiles. Assuming these HB9s are real profiles.

 

[user43770]

But these chicks on there for like 12 hours a day look and sound like they have a life based on their profiles. Assuming these HB9s are real profiles.

You're judged by different standards, bud. Welcome to the world.

 

[biggoal]

This might not be true if you got mediocre looks, hello won't cut it. But as far as one message per day, good advice. I'd even ration it to one message every other day.

So what do you supposed you say if you message someone every other day but they don't log on for awhile and your message is never seen because it's 10 pages down in their mailbox? Wasted message. Especially if you're paying for the service and only sending 15 messages a month you're wasting money.

 

[backseatjuan]

What do you suppose to say if you are there 24 hours a day and they log on once in a while?

 

[biggoal]

What do you suppose to say if you are there 24 hours a day and they log on once in a while?

Well some days I'm bored so I'm checking in a lot seeing if someone new in the region will show up. Usually not within 60 miles of here.

 

[backseatjuan]

As if you will be the first to message her. That's bull sht, there are plenty of beta men just like you sitting there, stocking these chicks. They show up, or register, and it's a sea of spam. All she has to do is pick a guy she likes.

 

[Dash Riprock]

OP u r creating multiple threads abt OLD, sure it's with different titles but it's the same shiet.

You are starting to sound like a nut job.

I can just imagine the vibe you're generating over to women all over the OLD app.

1st they'll view you as nerdy cute then with ur obsessive texting they'll view you as the creepy guy then when you get more desperate they're gonna start thinking that you just might be that scary looney AFC guy who stalks women to torture, rape and finally murder them.

Agreed.

OP has already posted 200+ messages in just a few days and they're lengthy. Like a kid with a new toy.

Part of me senses "psycho" (key the shower scene music, his SS pic is weird looking too) and part of me feels bad for him that someone could be that clueless.

His biggest problem--and proven natural chick repellent--is how he slices, dices, regurgitates, analyzes, and over-analyzes everything on a subatomic level. I mean, what's he like IRL?

OP needs to post (far) less and read more.

 

[backseatjuan]

@OP
Antone does it differently. He picks a girl he likes and writes hi, she always replies. Most of the times he gets a number.

 

[bario]

So I tried last night..Signed up on OKC and free trial Match. Not the best looking women, especially OKC. Looks very time consuming too. Will cancel the accounts and just do real life stuff.

 

[biggoal]

So I tried last night..Signed up on OKC and free trial Match. Not the best looking women, especially OKC. Looks very time consuming too. Will cancel the accounts and just do real life stuff.

Location means everything. OKC in this region of FL flat out SUCKS. Mostly ugly. However, once in awhile on OKC you will come across a pretty person and in my experience it's actually easier getting a reply there. I think it's because less people use OKC and the messaging format they see the message easier. I've gotten some numbers off OKC but the chicks were kinda flaky and I didn't match up with them well on personal issues so I never went far enough.

Match has the best looking ones but they have a lot of expectations those women. As you can see a few HB9 and 10s but they're so flaky and snobby. They should not be needing that site to find a date based on their looks. Most of them has issues going on and baggage.

But yea, Match and Eharmony have the best quality ones. All depends on location. Eharmony gives me matches mostly in Tampa. Just too far away. Christian Mingle has hardly any active users online within a 80 mile radius of me so that's also a no go. So match it is for me. All suck but Match has given me the best results getting replies.

POF is a total waste of time. Don't even bother.

 

[Black Widow Void]

This may also be true, but I have been around enough to know that even if such a caliber of women may not be in abundance in rural areas, there is very rarely ever such a gap so wide that a man must settle for 40 yo+ women with children or starve himself.

I do not have a low standard of attraction.

LIC, some friendly advice: I'd suggest that you invest your time competing for women; rather than attempting a 'measuring contest' with another man.

No charge for my counsel.

 

[Black Widow Void]

Part of me senses "psycho" (key the shower scene music, his SS pic is weird looking too) and part of me feels bad for him that someone could be that clueless.
His biggest problem--and proven natural chick repellent--is how he slices, dices, regurgitates, analyzes, and over-analyzes everything on a subatomic level. I mean, what's he like IRL?

OP needs to post (far) less and read more.

A distinguishable difference between man and woman:
Women will talk unfavorably about someone in the 3rd party.
And
Men will lift another person out of their funk by speaking directly and offering constructive criticism.

My constructive criticism is that you ("Riprock" ) apply some introspection and decide which side of the fence you're on.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

OK, so I'm a short middle-aged man with grey hair, and if I can get a date with a woman in real life, so too can you.

Walk into Starbucks.
Select your target.
Sit next to her, and go about your business.
Do not strike up a conversation too soon.
Sense if she's interested.
Carry on with your business.
Now strike up a conversation nonchalantly - 'Hi! how are you doing?' with a smile should suffice.
Continue conversation... not too long, not too short... the goldilocks zone.
Say good bye.
Hand her your card.
Reply to her message.
Toward the end of the next week, message for a coffee or something.
Meet again.

This does not take too much effort, and beats hours of time wasted online with delusional women.
I am meeting a lovely woman in her thirties this afternoon from said method above for a coffee.
Simples.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

OK, so I'm a short middle-aged man with grey hair, and if I can get a date with a woman in real life, so too can you.

Walk into Starbucks.
Select your target.
Sit next to her, and go about your business.
Do not strike up a conversation too soon.
Sense if she's interested.
Carry on with your business.
Now strike up a conversation nonchalantly - 'Hi! how are you doing?' with a smile should suffice.
Continue conversation... not too long, not too short... the goldilocks zone.
Say good bye.
Hand her your card.
Reply to her message.
Toward the end of the next week, message for a coffee or something.
Meet again.

This does not take too much effort, and beats hours of time wasted online with delusional women.
I am meeting a lovely woman in her thirties this afternoon from said method above for a coffee.
Simples.

Edit.

This should not be done overly consciously ala 'cold approach' [this can come across as creep mode especially for an older guy like me]. It should happen in the normal course of your day, where you spontaneously act given a set of circumstances. I call this warm approach.

 

[biggoal]

Edit.

This should not be done overly consciously ala 'cold approach' [this can come across as creep mode especially for an older guy like me]. It should happen in the normal course of your day, where you spontaneously act given a set of circumstances. I call this warm approach.

How does this girl you're meeting rank on the HB scale? I see this a lot though. Guys, who are older, or overweight, look like greaseballs or just plain sloppy and nasty looking and yet I see them with HB 7 and up all the time in public! btw I'm not saying you're a greaseball lol just using examples or older guys like that. And here I am, younger, full head of hair that isn't grey, and I dress presentable in brand name attire and yet here I am using OLD because I can't find these girls IRL. Maybe these dudes I described use OLD too and have a secret method they use in their messages, I dunno. Should I put on 40lbs and get a beer gut and quit working out? What's wrong here?

Oh, and I was thinking about a different approach. Like I do own a lot of brand name nice shirts I just don't wear a lot. I mean like I wore a shirt on that HB9 date that retails for over 90 bucks. One of those Ralph Lauren shirts with the big polo logo plastered on it and an expensive pair or blue jeans on the date. Dressing in expensive shirts instead of a tshirt will that help with appearance?

When I get the money next year after I buy the new car I want I also want to buy a nice watch like a Breitling or maybe even a used Rolex. Would that increase my chances too wearing watches that cost $3,000 to $7,000 along with wearing more expensive polo shirts rather than a tshirt? Would throwing money at the problem work when it comes to getting girls IRL?

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

The 'HB scale' is part of the problem. When your radar is set for 'the hottie' you probably miss out on the more worthwhile ones.... what they may lack [a little] on the HB scale, they tend to make up for in character, i.e.; not so vain and narcissistic etc.

That said, this lady would be probably HB 7 at first impression... but I found in the course of the conversation my attraction level to her rose a little [no doubt due to no longer projecting the HB scale onto her/ or screening through it]. I've found before that often these first impressions [no doubt reflecting an over-emphasis on image and also 'pornification' of our culture] don't really equate with attraction. Over time, attraction tends to increase toward the right kind of woman, where, if I'm reading this site right, attraction tends to decrease over time toward the 'hottie'. Something to consider if you're looking for a decent relationship.

I wonder if you're joking about in your last two paragraphs....

 

[biggoal]

The 'HB scale' is part of the problem. When your radar is set for 'the hottie' you probably miss out on the more worthwhile ones.... what they may lack [a little] on the HB scale, they tend to make up for in character, i.e.; not so vain and narcissistic etc.

That said, this lady would be probably HB 7 at first impression... but I found in the course of the conversation my attraction level to her rose a little [no doubt due to no longer projecting the HB scale onto her/ or screening through it]. I've found before that often these first impressions [no doubt reflecting an over-emphasis on image and also 'pornification' of our culture] don't really equate with attraction. Over time, attraction tends to increase toward the right kind of woman, where, if I'm reading this site right, attraction tends to decrease over time toward the 'hottie'. Something to consider if you're looking for a decent relationship.

I wonder if you're joking about in your last two paragraphs....

No, I'm not joking at the end of that post. I was just thinking trying a different approach to it by using money. Oh and Hb7 is solid. Depending on what your definition of HB7 is since you're older in your 50s so your standards might be lower.

I'd rather have an HB9 who's a snob and a brat but is hot as hell and I get to bang rather than an HB6 with a good personality.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

No, I'm not joking at the end of that post. I was just thinking trying a different approach to it by using money. Oh and Hb7 is solid. Depending on what your definition of HB7 is since you're older in your 50s so your standards might be lower.

I'd rather have an HB9 who's a snob and a brat but is hot as hell and I get to bang rather than an HB6 with a good personality.

You seem quite immature for a 35 year old. lol