sangheilios
Master Don Juan
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I do, I just have to be in the right circumstances to do so with the right women. Earlier this evening I initiated a conversation with a hot girl at my gym, just briefly spoke to her and introduced myself.Since you like to approach - basically what I am telling you is use your social skills to join social circles with hot women. Expand your horizons. You don't have to view everyone as a target. Network. And expand your social circles. Talk to guys who have access. I know the words "social circle" is a trigger word for a lot of "seducers" here. They look at it as a crutch. But I look at it as using a net and catching 50 fish all at once instead of catching 1 at a time. Plus it's the best way to learn as a newb. You have built-in status.
There here been times where I have found the right social circles and stopped going out for an entire year. Sometimes these 9's and 10's would take a MONTH just to warm up to me and invite me over. Imagine the amount of work I would have to put in if I was a stranger at a bar? Some of the hottest women I have ever known are hidden in mazes.
Don't get me wrong - I love going out and hitting on women. But it's more like the icing on the cake. The quality of women I meet in the clubs are like 1/10th the quality I meet in social circles where you need to know some gatekeepers just to get into.
I do have friends that are good with women, but there are a few issues I have. 2 of them, my closest friends, are very busy with their lives and really can't go out all that often. Also, one of them is a huge player, whose vibe is kind of apparent, and while it can be good as an opener it also can be problematic, which I'm sure you know why. Another friend of mine I had to stop going out with, as he is too aggressive with women and can be far too touchy and feely with them. The last time I went out with him he ended up getting banned from one of the bars we like to go to. I was talking to a woman there one on one and he went off on his own, what happened exactly then I'm not sure but he supposedly touched a woman inappropriately.
As for what you mentioned in regards to social circles, I've found it far easier to meet and interact with women when I had all of my friends now compared to when I was a loner, which wasn't that long ago. I think when you have a good social circle you appear to be more competent, as people can see that others do in fact accept you instead of being a total outcast. I can and do meet women, I just have a very difficult time going beyond that.