Circumcision conversation

[sazc]

It’s already sorted out. He gets it.
Trying to solve a problem already active and caused by his frame only sinks him more into girl world.

So you're taking the woman's side and blaming him for being circumcised and causing her irritation issues?

Wow

 

[Ranger]

So you're taking the woman's side and blaming him for being circumcised and causing her irritation issues?

Wow

Ok. For a silly girl spin like that I may have to pull the head off your favorite Barbi doll and flush it or give your teddy bear to the dog and let him rip the stuffing out of it.

Handling all the yack yack yack of a failed frame problem is a sinking mass of psychological warfare girl stuff.
This is a frame issue here and it’s his frame. The girl has no value in the discussion.

 

[sazc]

Ok. For a silly girl spin like that I may have to pull the head off your favorite Barbi doll and flush it or give your teddy bear to the dog and let him rip the stuffing out of it.

Handling all the yack yack yack of a failed frame problem is a sinking mass of psychological warfare girl stuff.
This is a frame issue here and it’s his frame. The girl has no value in the discussion.

It’s already sorted out. He gets it.
Trying to solve a problem already active and caused by his frame only sinks him more into girl world.

Uhh, you said it, not me

 

[Ranger]

LMAO

 

[Ranger]

When there's an opportunity to shame a man they will take it every time lol

It was a total left field alteration of what was said. Lol
It’s like talking to a jack-in-box.

 

[flowtheory]

Everything she’s said is out of self preservation of ego. She’s lashing out because I’m not fulfilling my role sexually. It’s on me. The circumsicion issue is her using something concrete to connect to to justify her maybe fleeing if it’s an ongoing issue. It’s silly yes. This is why this board is important. Let’s us see through the smoke of women’s words

If I was fulfilling my role sexually, NONE of this would have happened. And if it did, THEN that would be a red flag on fire

 

[Ranger]

Everything she’s said is out of self preservation of ego. She’s lashing out because I’m not fulfilling my role sexually. It’s on me. The circumsicion issue is her using something concrete to connect to to justify her maybe fleeing if it’s an ongoing issue. It’s silly yes. This is why this board is important. Let’s us see through the smoke of women’s words

If I was fulfilling my role sexually, NONE of this would have happened. And if it did, THEN that would be a red flag on fire

Yep. You understand. Your frame influences her from before hello. You should now be learning what you should be thinking within the framework of your personality.
What you think = what you do. A very seductive, powerful man can be made from a feeler. It’s out there. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself upon the alter of a woman. That’s like dunking your head in a bucket of sh!t.

 

[lamath]

Everything she’s said is out of self preservation of ego. She’s lashing out because I’m not fulfilling my role sexually. It’s on me. The circumsicion issue is her using something concrete to connect to to justify her maybe fleeing if it’s an ongoing issue. It’s silly yes. This is why this board is important. Let’s us see through the smoke of women’s words

If I was fulfilling my role sexually, NONE of this would have happened. And if it did, THEN that would be a red flag on fire

You might be right with this assumption, and thats why its sometime very hard to understand for us men

 

[flowtheory]

The woman in question lacks tact.

Any sexually experienced woman should know that critiquing a man's sexual performance can be a touchy subject, and she should be fully aware that doing so in a manner in which the man has no true control over is in extremely poor taste and inconsiderate, never mind the fact that her circumcision claim is questionable to begin with.

I am a huge proponent of sexual communication. I highly encourage it with the women I'm sexually active with. But such communication should always be productive, exploratory and experimental in nature. Problems should be addressed with suggestions and solutions, not blame.

It should be a fun process.

@flowtheory, your discussion with this girl should be focused on how this woman communicates such issues. You must let her know you do not approve in the manner in which she approaches it; that you will expect her efforts to reflect the nature of communication I described above. If she cannot do such a thing, there is little reason to carry on with the relationship, as there would be no fun in it.

Regardless of who is to blame here, the communication sucks and must be corrected.

I agree. When I asked her if she was seriously saying what she was, she stated it’s her being honest. But like others mentioned, at that point I should have said ‘ok wel then we’re not discussing this’ and hung up. Showed her I was insulted, instead I listened and took it personally. It’s my frame that isn’t guiding her properly; but I do believe she lacks tact and is less sensitive than she may believe.

Yep. You understand. Your frame influences her from before hello. You should now be learning what you should be thinking within the framework of your personality.
What you think = what you do. A very seductive, powerful man can be made from a feeler. It’s out there. You don’t have to sacrifice yourself upon the alter of a woman. That’s like dunking your head in a bucket of sh!t.

I never understood it before. But such is life to give us a giant slap across the face to really understand. I’ve been way to feely feely; like a woman. And it’s disrupting the balance. She’s lashing out overtly now to offset the polarity.

 

[flowtheory]

You might be right with this assumption, and thats why its sometime very hard to understand for us men

Only one way to see if my hypothesis is true. Implement a new way of being with her. In and out of bedroom. Keep planning dates and leading, but less talking about us and all that sensitive stuff (which is good and part of my nature) but just lessssss. Or wait for her to broach the topic of feelings.

I’ve been too ‘emotionally’ minded for the last few weeks.

Also. When I’m in the bedroom and I have the desire to make a move or change positions, I often ignore my true impulses. And I’ve always done this. I think this is hindering me in my sexual prowess when the clothes are off and in turn make me not as exciting which has ripple effects towards erectile issues.

 

[Chi Town]

Why?
“Men should express their feelings to a woman.”
Feminine Imperative.

I was thinking the same thing,

OP, wassup with This?

You're all in ya head about something you're gf said to you, me? I would have laughed it off and teased her about it in a playful way.

You are doing a lot in a situation where you should be doing very little......relax

 

[Murk]

Turtle neck gang in the building representing suwuuuu

Not read the thread, shower twice a day, wash ur **** and balls, never had an issue or comment ever other than how hygienic I am.

This is a non issue play the hand you’re dealt and stop sweating the small stuff ffs.

 

[RickTheToad]

Flow, just be careful. Have you read The Rational Male? Rollo highly recommends NOT to trust a lady on birth control and suggests a man still wraps it up or gets a vasectomy. Just be careful, unless you're looking to become a daddy right now. I know plenty of co-workers and friends who've been in your position.. Guess what happens 6 - 8 months down the line? An accident.

 

[flowtheory]

Flow, just be careful. Have you read The Rational Male? Rollo highly recommends NOT to trust a lady on birth control and suggests a man still wraps it up or gets a vasectomy. Just be careful, unless you're looking to become a daddy right now. I know plenty of co-workers and friends who've been in your position.. Guess what happens 6 - 8 months down the line? An accident.

This is terrifying.

That would be a hell of a move to be having sex with a woman, no rubber, for 2 months. Then all of a sudden tell her ‘we’re wearing condons from a now on’; that would be the end of the relationship.

 

[RickTheToad]

This is terrifying.

That would be a hell of a move to be having sex with a woman, no rubber, for 2 months. Then all of a sudden tell her ‘we’re wearing condoms from a now on’; that would be the end of the relationship.

Which is more terrifying, being sperm jacked and becoming an unsuspecting father or upsetting her feelings? Perhaps, just say I found these skyn elite non latex condoms. They are supposed to be amazing and feel like nothing is there. Let's try them out and see if they help with the circumcision issue. She'll agree unless something is up and just stick with the condoms moving forward. You can pick them up at any drug store. Here's a link on Amazon to see what they look like - https://www.amazon.com/LifeStyles-S...0895&sr=8-2&keywords=skyn+elite+large+condoms

So now you have a non-latex condom which can protect your boys and perhaps solve the issue with the circumcision as well. It's just too risky dude not to use condoms. Rollo even stated that there are more oops baby "accidents" because a woman forgot or missed taking the pill, intensional or not, then prior to the pill being available. Just be careful. I mean, if you are using not condom and ejaculating in her after only a few months of knowing her, I'd be highly suspicious, but that's just me.

 

[lamath]

Which is more terrifying, being sperm jacked and becoming an unsuspecting father or upsetting her feelings? Perhaps, just say I found these skyn elite non latex condoms. They are supposed to be amazing and feel like nothing is there. Let's try them out and see if they help with the circumcision issue. She'll agree unless something is up and just stick with the condoms moving forward. You can pick them up at any drug store. Here's a link on Amazon to see what they look like - https://www.amazon.com/LifeStyles-S...0895&sr=8-2&keywords=skyn+elite+large+condoms

So now you have a non-latex condom which can protect your boys and perhaps solve the issue with the circumcision as well. It's just too risky dude not to use condoms. Rollo even stated that there are more oops baby "accidents" because a woman forgot or missed taking the pill, intensional or not, then prior to the pill being available. Just be careful. I mean, if you are using not condom and ejaculating in her after only a few months of knowing her, I'd be highly suspicious, but that's just me.

Rick is right go read
The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage

By Dr. Shawn T Smith



Many horror story in there, here in Canada our law are a bit more men friendly, but some story in this book are really scary.

This book also help greatly identifying the red flag and what to do to protect yourself.


This book is a must and way more important than Rollo's imo

 

[RickTheToad]

Rick is right go read
The Tactical Guide to Women: How Men Can Manage Risk in Dating and Marriage

By Dr. Shawn T Smith



Many horror story in there, here in Canada our law are a bit more men friendly, but some story in this book are really scary.

This book also help greatly identifying the red flag and what to do to protect yourself.


This book is a must and way more important than Rollo's imo

Yes, good book. I read that one too.

 

[Spaz]

This book also help greatly identifying the red flag and what to do to protect yourself.


This book is a must and way more important than Rollo's imo

Too much effort and focus is placed on red flags in almost every thread. Why ?

Your girlfriend keeps giggling and smiling on her phone, is she cheating? Is that a red flag ? - one possibility out of hundreds of other possibilities. And yet the man focuses on that one possibility - a reaction on a mere probability.

The masculine frame is always geared towards a proactive rather then a reactive approach.

Constantly looking for red flags whilst in a relationship could do more harm then good.
You'll start to second guess everything she does.

And in the end, what does that actually do ?

Can you not predict the outcome ?

A paranoid mind is a stubborn mind - remember that guys.

And isn't it already the women's job to be the paranoid one ?

 

[RickTheToad]

Too much effort and focus is placed on red flags in almost every thread. Why ?

Your girlfriend keeps giggling and smiling on her phone, is she cheating? Is that a red flag ? - one possibility out of hundreds of other possibilities. And yet the man focuses on that one possibility - a reaction on a mere probability.

The masculine frame is always geared towards a proactive rather then a reactive approach.

Constantly looking for red flags whilst in a relationship could do more harm then good.
You'll start to second guess everything she does.

And in the end, what does that actually do ?

Can you not predict the outcome ?

A paranoid mind is a stubborn mind - remember that guys.

And isn't it already the women's job to be the paranoid one ?

Perhaps, but one has to take everything in consideration Spaz. We cannot all be southeast female Asian killers like yourself.

 

[Spaz]

Perhaps, but one has to take everything in consideration Spaz. We cannot all be southeast female Asian killers like yourself.

You and other like minded men are most certainly welcomed to that frame which you speak of. That's your right.

But then they are others who wishes to transcend into another frame and take a different path with a different trajectory - one with an almost limitless possibilities.

That too is their right.