MoreThanSmooth
Master Don Juan
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Yeah, materialist hangers-on are usually quite easy to spot and that's a good thing at least. But I'd also argue that most of them have less to offer than those aren't basing their relationships off their wealth. They tend to be more toxic than the average people in your social sphere.Most people you do associate with are in your sphere because you meet a particular need of theirs. This status/wealth dynamic is just a more overt and superficial way of dealings. I’d rather it be this way with honest motivations (of why they are there) rather than the reverse “honest dealings” yet contrived/hidden motives.
Maybe my other friends hang out with me because I validate their self-worth or because they like the attention I give them, but they also have personality traits or skills I admire too. Perhaps they are intellectual, or very loyal, or brave. These are all important intangible assets that make for good friendships.
These people can't scheme to take away my sense of humour or my personality, either.
Whereas some guy who just likes you for your money most likely values wealth and assets above all else, and that likely means he is selfish, shallow and greedy. He might aspire to do tangible damage to your wealth or assets for his own gain. Those are negative traits to have in your sphere, even if these people's motivations are clear.