This is a beginning to be a pretty toxic thread.
OP: I’d like to hear more about the first date. And it’s already been stated; way too much texting. I was shocked at the level of chest puffing and chasing.
Set up the date, use a bit a humour if needed, then go from there. No need to have long discussions or try your darndest to get her in that hot tub or out your way. The texts read as desperate and scarcity mindset.
Plus, getting a woman in a hot tub is always better when it’s not planned also. Think spur of the moment
I asked her out a few days after I got her number and she immediately tried to have long convos with me. Was texting me way too much...I tried to minimize it and use texting to strictly set up meetups. This is when I am most successful. She on the other hand was calling me the night before our first date in her Uber on the way back from the club on a Friday night....I am not big on this becsuse sometimes too much talk before a date kills the mystery.
As for the actual date I took her to dinner at a nice lounge. Her body language was positive and I felt us connecting, and was going to game her at the bar afterwards. Unfortunately, her stepmom called her on the date and said her dad and her were fighting at home. She said she needed to leave soon and I saw her start to get anxiety. She said that her dad has ptsd....she lives at home with them.
I was frustrated obviously but tried to be as nice as possible. I did not try to make a move on her because the whole issue with her parents killed the vibe. I could see the anxiety she had in her face. The ride back was quiet because I was legitimately thrown off but I made some casual smalltalk
After the date I texted her “is everything good?” Out of Common courtesy And she said “everything is fine thankyou”
Up until the phone call, the date was going great...she was leaning into me, her body language was positive and I saw room for escalating that night.