But if you don’t confirm you run a high risk of being stood up in person.. which no one ideally wants as it’s a colossal waste of time
Doesn't matter. You have no chance with any woman until you go out with her. That's it. There's nothing else that matters. Your first date is the Super Bowl. If you never get the first date, you never get anywhere. Suck it up and get the date.
It's part of the game, and it's no riskier than confirming. If you never send the confirmation text, the ones that want to meet up actually text you to confirm. If you are really worried about wasting time and gas, double and triple book your dates.
When you say double or triple book your dates, do you mean like three in a row or three women all for the same time of that specific day and then bail on two of the women?
Either, or both.
They should, but most are so inherently lazy, they cannot even do that right. You need to take the initiative. If they shoot you down, you pass. If they reach out to you later, the only date you'll accept is for her to come to your place to cook and chill. Don't expect anything, but if the moon aligns up correctly with the stars, it may just happen.
Never go that far in advance Flow control. Between 2 - 4 days in advance. If you want to see the woman Tuesday or Wednesday, you call or Text Sunday. If you want to see them Friday or Saturday, you call or text Tuesday or Wednesday. When her interest is really high, you can call Wednesday or Thursday.
So let’s oretend I go to cafe at 6pm for a first date and she no shows. It’s now 6:15pm. Would you call/text? Or just leave?
That's you flow control. ;'p
Ok.......I'm just gonna be STRAIGHT UP honest with you about this text exchange.The date and time had already been planned she was just asking me questions.. here’s the actual texts.. and generally how I text with most women these days..
(Sunday)
Me: I’m still deciding where I want my adventure to be this year; I was thinking Portugal, Spain, and Morocco
Her: That's awesome, Barcelona is beautiful!! The Gaudi, Dali and Miro exhibitions are incredible. Do you go travelling often? Also, which area do you live?
Me:I’m in K—. You live in North (location) right?
Her: That's right! What do you want to do Thursday?
Me: With the bears (grimace text face and bear emoji)
Her: Yes, we have tea parties in the forest
Me: Ideally a walk on the seawall if the weather is picturesque. We shall see what that Thursday brings though
Her:Sure, it may be quite late though, around 8pm
Me: Twilight walks are my favourite
Her: haha okay! What's it like living in K—?
Me: That’s like asking an angel what heaven is like
Her:I see, so a fun place to live
Me: You will have to come experience it with me first hand
Her:What do you do for fun?
Me:Go on dates with English women
Her: So you do that often?
Me: Just on Thursdays
- - - -
(Wednesday 2:42pm)
Me: Good day! So tomorrow let’s meet at (location) at 8:15. We will go for a walk and see what happens from there
(11:05pm)
Her: Hey, I'm really sorry I'm not able to make tomorrow. Can we reschedule?
Me: Sure
—-end convo—-
She asked about Thursday,you say twilight walks are your favorite.Her: Yes, we have tea parties in the forest
Me: Ideally a walk on the seawall if the weather is picturesque. We shall see what that Thursday brings though
Her:Sure, it may be quite late though, around 8pm
Me: Twilight walks are my favourite
She asked what it's like living where you live.....
She asks what you like to do for fun....you say go on dates with english women.Her:What do you do for fun?
Me:Go on dates with English women
She asks how often you do that,you say only on Thursdays.......just one smart alek remark after another. Not only can she not get to know you,but she probably thought all the joking and kidding you do through text,that'd you'd likely be like that on the date as well. Women want A MAN...not a comedian. You need to use the joking like a spice,like salt or pepper......just a dash here and there. You just kept laying it on.
Act like A MAN who's attracted to a woman. You come off like you're trying to win a woman over like they do in the movies,or like an episode of "The Bachelor"....with rose petals,moon light walks,etc,etc.
Ok.......I'm just gonna be STRAIGHT UP honest with you about this text exchange.
When I read it......I CRINGED. I wholeheartedly agree with what EyeBRollin said to you. With that said....
Dude.....what are you doin' here with this girl? There's a couple of things you need to understand. For one,
You are A STRANGER to her. Just because you two connected and were in the process of trying to set up a date doesn't change that.
All those questions she asked....she was trying to get to know you better...to get a better sense of who you are,but you wouldn't be serious. Like every question she asked,it seems like you kept trying to come up with some "zinger" or witty remark. It's hard to get to know someone when every answer out of their mouth come off as a joke or a comedy routine.
Again....you're a STRANGER. She asked what you wanted to do Thursday,you sent her emojis WITHOUT a serious response. Then you mentioned going for a walk on a seawall,she said it'd have to be around 8pm,you said "Twilight walks are my favorite".
YOU ARE A STRANGER. You think she's gonna feel comfortable walking around ALONE........A NIGHT with some guy she doesn't know? She was trying to get to know you,but you kept playing around. When you do that constantly,it can make someone suspicious of you. That's NOT what you want. Look at this....
She asked about Thursday,you say twilight walks are your favorite.
She asked what it's like living where you live.....
You say that's like asking an angel what heaven is like...
She asks what you like to do for fun....you say go on dates with english women.
She asks how often you do that,you say only on Thursdays.......just one smart alek remark after another. Not only can she not get to know you,but she probably thought all the joking and kidding you do through text,that'd you'd likely be like that on the date as well. Women want A MAN...not a comedian. You need to use the joking like a spice,like salt or pepper......just a dash here and there. You just kept laying it on.
You kinda come off as if you've read too many cheesy novels,or seen too many romantic movies. You talk about "adventure".....talk about the weather being "pictureasque",twilight walks,say the town where you live is like "heaven"...tell her she should "experience it" with you.
Where's the MAN at here? You find her attractive? You flirt with her? Ask her what she's gonna wear on the date FOR YOU?
Ask her if she saw a quarter on the ground,would bend down and she pick it up. If she says yes,tell her if she wears a nice low-cut blouse on the date,you'll throw a whole round of quarters on the ground for her.
This ain't the movies...it's REAL LIFE.
Cringe? Ah it’s not that bad. I thought we were supposed to be ‘hard to get’ in a way. I guess I’ve swung the pendulum too far over to one side. I’ll bring try to steady it towards the middle for next time.Ok.......I'm just gonna be STRAIGHT UP honest with you about this text exchange.
When I read it......I CRINGED. I wholeheartedly agree with what EyeBRollin said to you. With that said....
Dude.....what are you doin' here with this girl? There's a couple of things you need to understand. For one,
You are A STRANGER to her. Just because you two connected and were in the process of trying to set up a date doesn't change that.
All those questions she asked....she was trying to get to know you better...to get a better sense of who you are,but you wouldn't be serious. Like every question she asked,it seems like you kept trying to come up with some "zinger" or witty remark. It's hard to get to know someone when every answer out of their mouth come off as a joke or a comedy routine.
Again....you're a STRANGER. She asked what you wanted to do Thursday,you sent her emojis WITHOUT a serious response. Then you mentioned going for a walk on a seawall,she said it'd have to be around 8pm,you said "Twilight walks are my favorite".
YOU ARE A STRANGER. You think she's gonna feel comfortable walking around ALONE........A NIGHT with some guy she doesn't know? She was trying to get to know you,but you kept playing around. When you do that constantly,it can make someone suspicious of you. That's NOT what you want. Look at this....
She asked about Thursday,you say twilight walks are your favorite.
She asked what it's like living where you live.....
You say that's like asking an angel what heaven is like...
She asks what you like to do for fun....you say go on dates with english women.
She asks how often you do that,you say only on Thursdays.......just one smart alek remark after another. Not only can she not get to know you,but she probably thought all the joking and kidding you do through text,that'd you'd likely be like that on the date as well. Women want A MAN...not a comedian. You need to use the joking like a spice,like salt or pepper......just a dash here and there. You just kept laying it on.
You kinda come off as if you've read too many cheesy novels,or seen too many romantic movies. You talk about "adventure".....talk about the weather being "pictureasque",twilight walks,say the town where you live is like "heaven"...tell her she should "experience it" with you.
Where's the MAN at here? You find her attractive? You flirt with her? Ask her what she's gonna wear on the date FOR YOU?
Ask her if she saw a quarter on the ground,would bend down and she pick it up. If she says yes,tell her if she wears a nice low-cut blouse on the date,you'll throw a whole round of quarters on the ground for her.
This ain't the movies...it's REAL LIFE.
Thanks for the perspectives man. I do appreciate your input.
Hahah why flow control.. Where did the ‘control’ come from?
Jokes do not come over well via text. Learn from me, unless you are a comedian, they do not want to hear your jokes. Don't laugh at them either. Looks bad. Did that two women ago. Damn shame too. She had a really nice ass, but a sh!tty apartment @ 36.
You are learning to control your flow. Thus, flow control.
Don’t laugh or joke; you mean just over text right?
