The no contact rule

[Monster DJ]

not getting over her. Sorry. Ever. I ****ed up with her and I'll make it right. I can make her laugh, smile, wet, everything.

get out of this forum please.. you're corrupting this place with your trolling.. you only want to hear what you want to hear? why not talk to yourself then.. i wonder why mods won't lock this annoying thread smh this is becoming annoying and I might stop contributing on sosuave @Desdinova

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Most people don’t come here for real advice. Just for affirmation for what they already believe and what they’re gonna do anyway

What kind of advice is go date other women? Well yeah obviously. That's not advice. Advice is a suggestion to help me get what I want and if the best you could come up with is move on, just don't reply. I honestly dunno why I came to this forum. I feel like a pathetic moron because of what I posted here. I should have resolved this conflict with the person who knows best, myself. Go ahead and ban me if you want

 

[lizardking82]

Most people don’t come here for real advice. Just for affirmation for what they already believe and what they’re gonna do anyway

You are right. I did this the first time I came here, not in this cringy way, but I will justify myself LOL saying that I had a 2 year girlfriend that ended suddenly and I was quite traumatised.

A lot of the guys coming here are not simply in beta mode, they are in cringy beta mode. Takes some time for reality to kick in and for a lot of them, it never really does.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

You are right. I did this the first time I came here, not in this cringy way, but I will justify myself LOL saying that I had a 2 year girlfriend that ended suddenly and I was quite traumatised.

A lot of the guys coming here are not simply in beta mode, they are in cringy beta mode. Takes some time for reality to kick in and for a lot of them, it never really does.

**** you. Ban me. You ****ing faggot. Don't call me beta you *****. You don't know the situation. Eat a ****

 

[Monster DJ]

**** you. Ban me. You ****ing faggot. Don't call me beta you *****. You don't know the situation. Eat a ****

lol.. i pity any girl that will love such a weakling like you... damn you're not even beta you're a lowlife.

 

[marmel75]

Does it still apply even if you'e exit text was "hit me up if u change ur mind?" Like what if I contact her in three weeks if she still hasn't? I want one more opinion and I promise I'll let this go

Why would you be the one to text when you let her know to hit you up if she changes her mind? That's weak AF bro...
If she changed her mind she would contact you. You are simply showing you have no other options and are making it MORE likely nothing happens, regardless of how small the chances are currently.

Stop being lazy and go meet and date other women.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Why would you be the one to text when you let her know to hit you up if she changes her mind? That's weak AF bro...
If she changed her mind she would contact you. You are simply showing you have no other options and are making it MORE likely nothing happens, regardless of how small the chances are currently.

Stop being lazy and go meet and date other women.

I'm not being lazy. I am meeting other women but I want this particular girl. I think you're wrong about me seeming desperate if I contact her. The "hit me up if you change your mind" was a mistake I know though...

 

[marmel75]

I'm not being lazy. I am meeting other women but I want this particular girl. I think you're wrong about me seeming desperate if I contact her. The "hit me up if you change your mind" was a mistake I know though...

Ok well then do what you like them and you'll find out for yourself. No idea why people post on here asking what to do when they've already decided what they are going to do and are just hoping we validate their decisions.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I can't stand that I said "hit me up if you change your mind." I am retarded and listened to that ****ing piece of **** corey wayne. She still hasn't answered by the way cause it was a stupid ****ing thing to say.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

Even if she hits me up I set myself as a backup plan like wtf. I dunno what to do guys...

 

[lizardking82]

Dude, enough already, OK? You are here whining like a little ***** about the way you led the situation. Leaders don't hang around worrying about their decisions, they make them and they learn as they go.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

But I want her

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I must change this situation. This is bull****. Im bipolar and that's why I ****ed it up. Im ready to try again now. AND IM TIRED OF LEARNING FROM MY MISTAKES CAUSE I DON'T ****ING LEARN

 

[Billtx49]

CAUSE I DON'T ****ING LEARN

Then that’s the first thing that needs changing above and before anything else.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I dunno how I'm gonna accept that I said "hit me up if you change your mind." I'm in therapy and my therapist doesnt know what to say

 

[Thorninmyside]

An interested girl would have hit you up regardless of how much you want to take that last message back.

It isn't the message that dried up her vagina, it's everything you did before that.

You accept things when you tell yourself that things are the way they are regardless of how you feel about it. Your feelings or your wants and desires have no bearing on what is and what isn't.

You screwed up the whole thing and are blaming it on one silly text message. It's like blaming a whole crappy movie on one line in the script.

Just remind yourself that how you feel about the end of this thing changes nothing about the facts of the case.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

The no contact thread is pinned right at the top of this forum for many good reasons.

Two points as is TMKs way.

- No amount of you 'wanting her' is going to change her mind. The only thing that might make her change is seeing that you can change for the better. With respect, she's simply not attracted to the person you are at the moment.

-I have had several exes showing interest again after I went no contact. That has been a matter of months though, rather than weeks. And it must be said, it is by no means garunteed. Depends how badly you've fcked up so far.

Lastly, if you are applying n/c properly, you will very likely meet someone new in a few months anyway. When my exes have come back, I have mostly lost interest by that point myself. N/c is not about the other person; it's about you. Work on your mental and emotional self control, becuase it will continue to haunt all your relationships if you don't. Take that as the voice of experience talking.

 

[B0redandl0nely]

An interested girl would have hit you up regardless of how much you want to take that last message back.

It isn't the message that dried up her vagina, it's everything you did before that.

You accept things when you tell yourself that things are the way they are regardless of how you feel about it. Your feelings or your wants and desires have no bearing on what is and what isn't.

You screwed up the whole thing and are blaming it on one silly text message. It's like blaming a whole crappy movie on one line in the script.

Just remind yourself that how you feel about the end of this thing changes nothing about the facts of the case.

"Hit me up if you change your mind" set me up as a backup plan. And that's not what I wanted to do. I actually did something that I didn't want to do when I had a choice! Wtf?! Wtf is wrong with me? Oh well, I hear what you're trying to say thorninmyside but it just don't cut it. I know how much I ****ed up with this girl and that's what makes it painful. Itd be one thing if we were incompatible but that wasn' t the case. I'm talking with other women now and as I am I keep thinking "I don't want this *****. I want what I had."

 

[B0redandl0nely]

I'm thinking of just telling her how strongly I feel at some point. Moving on is for homosexuals

 

[DownUndaDazz]

Dude, get a copy of Swingers with Vince Vaughn and watch it 10 times. You're young, everything you need to start with is in that entertaining movie