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Does it still apply even if you'e exit text was "hit me up if u change ur mind?" Like what if I contact her in three weeks if she still hasn't? I want one more opinion and I promise I'll let this go
 

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Forget about this and focus on other things? it's hard but you can't bend a human being by force.
 

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I wanna forget about it but I also wanna know the door could still be open one day in spite of that text and that I could be the one to knock on it
 

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I can't forget. My thoughts are torturing me and I can't do my schoolwork or anything for that matter.
 

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Its in place for people who act desperate and who are lazy in their attempts to get other women.

Go date other women and dont worry about her. If you want to shoot her a text in a few weeks then do it.
 

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Two choices, stay no contact and be miserable wondering what you already know or call her up, no text, CALL her up, express how you feel and what you think and receive the bad news immediately and start to deal with it. Unless she is a cluster b who comes and goes she is most likely done if you dont hear from her.
 

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Two choices, stay no contact and be miserable wondering what you already know or call her up, no text, CALL her up, express how you feel and what you think and receive the bad news immediately and start to deal with it. Unless she is a cluster b who comes and goes she is most likely done if you dont hear from her.
I know this old. Why do you say call instead of text?
 

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There is no rule. You can write in this forum and still be sneaking "behind our backs" texting her. The point is, you told her "if you change your mind, hit me up". In this case, if you want to be a man of your word, go on with your life. Things look and feel ****ty right now, but that will change soon depending on how well you handle this. If you feel low and bad right now, feel it, it's OK. Life has its lows, too. But then, go for it. Not simply women, but everything else.
 

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There is no rule. You can write in this forum and still be sneaking "behind our backs" texting her. The point is, you told her "if you change your mind, hit me up". In this case, if you want to be a man of your word, go on with your life. Things look and feel ****ty right now, but that will change soon depending on how well you handle this. If you feel low and bad right now, feel it, it's OK. Life has its lows, too. But then, go for it. Not simply women, but everything else.
ugh that message was so ****ing stupid. And just to clear this up, I'm not trying to seek approval here. I'm just voicing my thoughts and if I get some insight, great. I know how I'm coming across but hey I'm online right now and I dunno you guys so I think it's alright...
 
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She didn't hit you up which means she didn't change her mind. The same obsession and desperation that blew it for you before it will blow it for you again. If you need to make the same mistake one more time to realise that then knock yourself out. Something in you obviously needs to nuke this thing for good.
 

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She didn't hit you up which means she didn't change her mind. The same obsession and desperation that blew it for you before it will blow it for you again. If you need to make the same mistake one more time to realise that then knock yourself out. Something in you obviously needs to nuke this thing for good.
so you think I'm better off leaving it alone? Like in the long run, my chances will be better if there is any?
 

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I think you are better off leaving alone for your sake rather than for hers. Every decision you make has got to be for your sake. When you make the necessary changes to be the best version of yourself, this probably won't be the girl you give two ****s about anyway. With Improvement comes better options.
 

Well I'm here to tell you there is such a magic wand. Something that will make you almost completely irresistible to any woman you "point it" at. Something guaranteed to fill your life with love, romance, and excitement.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I wanna forget about it but I also wanna know the door could still be open one day in spite of that text and that I could be the one to knock on it
she has forgotten about you. She is riding new ****. You need to do the same. Find new women.
 

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Didn't you say that this bird was yiur first girlfriend?

Don't expect to be properly over it right away. But do expect that on moving forward with some other girls, you'll be completely over it soon enough. Maybe a year or two.

Just some growing pains. You'll be alright.
not getting over her. Sorry. Ever. I ****ed up with her and I'll make it right. I can make her laugh, smile, wet, everything.
 

At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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