Feeling like my girl is cheating?

[MountainSlide]

Always judge a woman by her actions, not her words. Talk is cheap!

Your approach should be determined by how committed you are to this woman. For example, if you view it as a short time thing, you may be best served by just distancing yourself a bit (make her initiate, hang out to fvck, etc.). If it is something serious, you would want to take the other approach for dealing with women. Treat her like a little sister until you get information from her.

I was just having this conversation with my girl last night. How do you know when to cut the cord or when to keep pushing? Not an easy choice.

From the little detail you presented, some of it sounds suspicious, but some of it sounds like insecurity. The main thing is whether or not this is an actual change in her behavior, or your just overthinking?

I get what you’re saying, but I’m not typically insecure. I’m not worrying too much in relationships prior to this one. But in this one, things just aren’t adding up; it doesn’t make sense. She is either stupid to be throwing red flags all over the place or she is a cheater. Guess what, I don’t date stupid people and I don’t date cheaters. So problem solved. I’m going to unwind the relationship and if she’s available for sex that’s fine, if she isn’t then that’s also fine, because I’m going to get some other things going on and quit letting this dummy rent space in my mind. It kept me up late last night worrying and that doesn’t work for me. And it’s a change in her behaviour. Hands down.

 

[MountainSlide]

Once another episode of "I wanna believe in monogamy so hard but everything in the world proves me it's unreal but I'll keep hoping for it"
Dude, you are fckin golden here man... you have your own place, she has her own... it's CLEAR what she wants. She wants YOU, but also other dudes! No biggie with that........ don't tell me you don't want other chicks.
Get out there, spin plates and let her be one of your plate! Simple as that..... You are slowly turning her off with all the insecurity and the neediness... I don't blame you. You clearly hoping for something serious with this chicks and I hate to say it won't happen so you got 2 choices. Keep her spinning or drop her. I'd keep her spinning and bang other chicks on the side... if she's not cool with that well at least you'll have some other chick lined up Hell, she doesn't even need to know what you're doing and if she ever gives you **** for it, just put on big smile and tell her that she's got quite some balls to accuse you of exactly what she's doing too. Be nice, explain you enjoy spending time with her and understand she enjoys other dudes too and that you're cool with it, you just don't wanna know and hear about it? "Let's keep this on the downlow and just keep our relationship respectful and simple... if you don't wanna do that I'll understand and not hold grudges and we can just part ways"

Fact is... it doesn't seem like she's trying to suck money out of ya, or sperm jack you or anything malicious. It really seem like she's hoping for you to be a side plate for her and she's just completely oblivious how to proceed with that because open relationships are just frowned upon, too many guys with insecurities issues out there calling other dudes that do that, cucks.

The thing is with her is she doesn’t just want me to be a side plate. She gets insanely jealous, and makes me feel like I can’t hang out with my friends, because there could be women there. I agree with almost everything you’re saying except for her intentions.

 

[Alvafe]

so she is a controlling ***** and want to to have a place to hide because is too ghetto for you? come on, only for that ghetto thing would mean she find you a weakling, you know what you should be doing but or you are afraid of losing her or going out again for the hunt.

if she is that jealous its high time to make her up her game, and only way to amke taht happen is start to look for more plates

 

[MountainSlide]

Ok she just texted me. First thing in the morning “hope your having a good morning <heart>”. So I tested it and tried calling her immediately after she sent it. No answer.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

This girl must be really hot and good at sex for you to put up with all these unknowns.

She seems like she is preparing to branch swing but also stringing you along in case it doesn't work out with the new guy.

Regardless, this is not the behavior of a girl who is committed to a healthy relationship. I would bail on her but only you know the situation best.

 

[RangerMIke]

You don't need 'evidence'. This chick isn't fun anymore... just dump her and go find better women.

 

[MountainSlide]

Btw I have other plates in standby.

OP I dont mean this personal weve all been there and we all help each other sometimes were quite blunt........

have you ever read and RE-READ your Original post and realised what YOU sound like, she may aswell stick her hand up your ass and move your mouth

I don’t talk to her like that. I pretend all is good all the time, not phased. The only time I ever brought any of this up was when she was accusing me of cheating. That’s the first moment I started caring about it, and haven’t been able to get it out of my mind since

 

[MountainSlide]

I personally find jealousy and insecurity as one of the most unattractive qualities. And someone accuses me enough times I’ll do it and not stop.

 

[derby1]

OP reread my post im saying shes the organ player your the monkey grinder

 

[MountainSlide]

OP reread my post im saying shes the organ player your the monkey grinder

Gotcha, I’ve only been in this state for about two days now, and need to get out of it immediately. I’m thinking the best thing to do is to hang out with some friends and girls tonight, flirt, and have a good time. I’ll only communicate with her over text. She did call me back this morning but seemed like she had gone outside to talk. She was all <everything is normal> with me on the phone and I just played along. She offered up all the excuses for not answering my calls last night but I didn’t ask. One good thing is that she doesn’t know she has her hand up my ass lol.

 

[Von]

Gotcha, I’ve only been in this state for about two days now, and need to get out of it immediately. I’m thinking the best thing to do is to hang out with some friends and girls tonight, flirt, and have a good time. I’ll only communicate with her over text. She did call me back this morning but seemed like she had gone outside to talk. She was all <everything is normal> with me on the phone and I just played along. She offered up all the excuses for not answering my calls last night but I didn’t ask. One good thing is that she doesn’t know she has her hand up my ass lol.

Just dump her.

She's jealous and insecure ? It means she guily of cheating on you... she's projecting HER EMOTIONS of HER ACTIONS on YOU.... like all girls

All these unknowns aren't BF material for a girl

Eject, go out tonight, get a ONS

 

[Asasione]

Gotcha, I’ve only been in this state for about two days now, and need to get out of it immediately. I’m thinking the best thing to do is to hang out with some friends and girls tonight, flirt, and have a good time. I’ll only communicate with her over text. She did call me back this morning but seemed like she had gone outside to talk. She was all <everything is normal> with me on the phone and I just played along. She offered up all the excuses for not answering my calls last night but I didn’t ask. One good thing is that she doesn’t know she has her hand up my ass lol.

Stop being an idiot and dump her, there's tons more actually good women to be struggling with this suspicious character.

 

[lizardking82]

She gets insanely jealous, and makes me feel like I can’t hang out with my friends, because there could be women there.

Implies you cheat...it is a projection cheaters make when they are cheating. They try to make you feel guilty. Get out of there.

 

[MountainSlide]

Yeah, seems like this stunt **** is trying to put me into a nice little orbit, separate me from my friends, and use me to generate her own self worth along with the rest of her victims, which I’m sure exist. Definitely seems like she’s trying to monkey branch. That being said, she is uncertain if she wants to monkey branch because guaranteed I’m the highest value male she’s ever been with, in every way. I feel quite confident I could end this nonsense and make her mine, but she already ****ed up too much. I’m not even going to give her the closure of a break up. I’m just going to move on with an assumptive break up in my own mind. Although she has a key to my apartment, should I change the lock or try and get that back? She could just secretly cut another key.

 

[lizardking82]

Yeah, seems like this stunt **** is trying to put me into a nice little orbit, separate me from my friends, and use me to generate her own self worth along with the rest of her victims, which I’m sure exist. Definitely seems like she’s trying to monkey branch. That being said, she is uncertain if she wants to monkey branch because guaranteed I’m the highest value male she’s ever been with, in every way. I feel quite confident I could end this nonsense and make her mine, but she already ****ed up too much. I’m not even going to give her the closure of a break up. I’m just going to move on with an assumptive break up in my own mind. Although she has a key to my apartment, should I change the lock or try and get that back? She could just secretly cut another key.

Move on, change the lock.

 

[MountainSlide]

Pretty sure that she’s figured out that I’ve caught on now.

 

[derby1]

you seem more emotionally invested than her , weve all done that! women are very good at "leaving the relationship 6 months ago" but still be in it.....stop hanging round with her go low contact perhaps??... you my friend are a high value man, dont rub other women in her face on fb etc it will backfire and look obvious to soon unless there HB10's then do it ......be warned she will be back but not for the reasons you think or she tells

 

[lizardking82]

Pretty sure that she’s figured out that I’ve caught on now.

Go out and spend some time alone, my man. It is none of your concern whether she has caught up or not. This woman is misbehaving and she is not even misbehaving with stuff related to you two, she is going places and not telling you where she is and that sorta thing.

 

[MountainSlide]

She’s been more emotionally invested than me up until now, but something switched the other day. I think it’s what you call triangulation in psychological circles. I’m not worried about her catching on but now she’s trying to be sooo nice, significantly more nice and caring than usual. I haven’t even indicated to her that I know what she’s up to, but I can almost sense that she’s figured out my suspicions. She knows she’s going to lose me and is trying to prevent that.

 

[MountainSlide]

I’m just trying to be productive at work for ****sake