Before You Go No Contact Forever - Read This

[Maggsgsr]

You vet, so you have some sort of expectation. I just find it hard to believe that if she cheated, then it's all La Di Da Di. "If an exclusive girl cheats on me, she's doing me a favor". It's like if I laid small bills around my house, when new acquaintances would come over to see if they're trustworthy or not. It didn't cost me much, but I would still wish I had that money back.

Of couse.. You invest time, energy, money ect into an exclusive relationship. I'd be a little upset.. But would move on swiftly. At that point trust is out the window and it's a wrap

 

[Macaframalama]

I vet to mitigate, not eliminate.

It's two-pronged:

• Prepare best;
• Expect worst.

It's simply a matter of adjusting your expectations. Kind of like taking a jungle tiger and training him to be domesticated. One day, the tiger bites your friend's head off. Did you really think this tiger was not susceptible to such as act which is congruent with its nature? Who's to blame: your expectation or the tiger?

It's not the nature of human beings to be sexually loyal. Loyalty is a man-made convention.

I can see this. That's a good analogy. For the record I'm not trying to bust your b*lls. Rather sharpen my teeth. I have been on both extremes of blue/red pill in the past. At this point in my life I am seeking more balance. Be neither red, nor blue, but also be red or blue, depending on the situation. Fluidity. I appreciate your perspective.

 

[NoLimitDJ]

OK, and? Is her cheating supposed to hurt my feelings? It would be laughable to me, quite honestly, as I didn't expect her faithfulness--even though we agreed on exclusivity. Does this make any sense?

Meh. Nothing to get all defensive about guy. You should find better things to do with your time management in healing rather than arguing in long drawn out posts with other posters.. She hurt you. The posters giving you advice didn't. So your ex cheated on you with a higher value Chad. Move on.

Question though, do you think she will ever take you back? And if so would you settle for being her plate?

 

[guru1000]

I can see this. That's a good analogy. For the record I'm not trying to bust your b*lls. Rather sharpen my teeth. I have been on both extremes of blue/red pill in the past. At this point in my life I am seeking more balance. Be neither red, nor blue, but also be red or blue, depending on the situation. Fluidity. I appreciate your perspective.

Fluidity is what I always solicit. But in terms of dating, women, and people in general--your emotion in the "game" should be "black." Once you understand and have experienced the true nature of both men and woman repeatedly, you will be desensitized to it all, and nothing a women, or any person in any context, could do to you that will phase you. It's never personal; it's just people being people. This is the epitome of emotional balance.

She hurt you. The posters giving you advice didn't. So your ex cheated on you with a higher value Chad.

LOL. What are you talking about?

 

[NoLimitDJ]

LOL. What are you talking about?

The woman you cared about enough to enter an ltr with that cheated on you with a guy she found to be better.

You say you don't care but you do trying to defend yourself being defensive and filling up your weekend schedule to avoid feeling alone by her walking out on you.

It happens.

 

[guru1000]

The woman you cared about enough to enter an ltr with that cheated on you with a guy she found to be better.

You say you don't care but you do trying to defend yourself being defensive and filling up your weekend schedule to avoid feeling alone by her walking out on you.

It happens.

I'm not in an LTR nor cheated on. You're reading out of context.

But you shouldn't be posting to men who were cheated on as your advice is neither constructive nor relevant.

 

[NoLimitDJ]

I'm not in an LTR nor cheated on. You're reading out of context.

But you shouldn't be posting to men who were cheated on as your advice is neither constructive nor relevant.

So why do you keep arguing with other posters giving you good advice and acting like you were cheated on in an ltr if you arent in an ltr?

If you were in an ltr do you think she would ever take you back? And if so would you settle for being her plate?

 

[Macaframalama]

Fluidity is what I always solicit. But in terms of dating, women, and people in general--your emotion in the "game" should be "black." Once you understand and have experienced the true nature of both men and woman repeatedly, you will be desensitized to it all, and nothing a women, or any person in any context, could do to you that will phase you. It's never personal; it's just people being people. This is the epitome of emotional balance.
LOL. What are you talking about?

Not sure I ever want to get to the point that I'm numb to it all. Seems too robotic to me. You have to embrace a little pain to learn what joy is imo.

 

[beforeimgone]

My man, I have 8 dates this weekend, had 12 last weekend, had to rain-check most of them. The last thing I need is another girl who wants to bang. My problem is time management, and I certainly would rather bang those troopers who fight the hardest to win me, and those who don't, well they can get in the back of the line, a place I will probably never get to.

@guru1000 I don't doubt you. That's the definition of abundance mentality. I just don't understand why youve chosen to be the main antagonist of this post

 

[guru1000]

@guru1000 I don't doubt you. That's the definition of abundance mentality. I just don't understand why youve chosen to be the main antagonist of this post

Actually, I like this thread; hence why I posted in it. I rarely take sides (in a serious way other than to provoke) as I'm a fluid, and throw out counter-arguments to test the strength of conjectures/ ideas.

My approach has been generally to challenge all adopted conventions, rules, theories, modes of thinking and show counters that can work equally or even more effectively. I'm not adverse to any theory, and have eliminated most of my knee-jerk reactions to any lines of thinking. That's why I enjoy your contributions pal.

 

[nismo-4]

Terrible.

Why supplicate? Considering how much attention she gets in a span of a week, you'll be soft nexting her and she'll be on her knees with a hard dik in her from the next guy.

How many women have helped you make more money? Not very many. You'll reach that next level when you cut her out. She won't help you get further in your career, nor grow your business.

The LTR ended because you fell out of first place. Second place is first loser. Losing to Chad and Tyrone hurts.

Why fall in love anyway? Always be emotionless. When a woman sees your emotions, she'll try to use it against you. You can teach yourself how to be emptionally numb.

I prefer to say go ghost, or even better, erase and replace. When things don't go well with a woman, her number is deleted. It's even blocked if she was trying to abuse me.

I work 6 days out the week due to short-staffing. I make money. If a girl comes along, cool. If not, whatever. The women I work with are mostly married and not that attractive anyway. I don't pay them any attention.

I do use online dating and I use the one strike rule. If she ghosts on an escalation or denies it, automatic out.