And what happens if despite all your screening the man ends up just wanting sex and a FWB relationship? You gonna say you won't go for that if the sex is mind blowing and he is giving you more orgasms than anyone ever has before?
Perhaps but let me define what that looks like when practically applied. I'm going to build the friendship part however long before the sex part gets started. There is something to be said for sexual tension and the build up of sexual tension over time as two people discover they actually enjoy one another. If a man waits & gets to know me over a period of months and many dates/outings and he sticks around & wants to spend time (his most precious asset) with me, then if I fancy him I'm happy to invest the time in him also. This increases the delight when and if the sexual conquest eventually happens. It is something the man has sought & attached a value to. I do not disappoint if reaching that point. And he is always free to go if my way of doing things isn't satisfactory. I will let him go without chasing him...he isn't for me in that case. But if I date someone I have already decided I'm interested in him sexually, otherwise why bother? But I may drop him if I don't like the way he kisses or his physical interactions with me, or if he fails to lead. By the way that does happen a lot. I know what I like and I know how to screen for it and I have self restraint to see what else is there beyond sexual chemistry. There has to be more than sexual chemistry. The only way to ascertain that is to hold off on the sex, while knowing it is likely to be very good.
I'm emotionally stable and have high self esteem and understand my value & what I bring to the table. I'm atypical in this way and have been for many years. If I choose to love I do so from a place of choice. If I choose to have a lover I also do so from a place of choice.
When you have two people who choose to love from abundance & who understand their own value as well as the other person's value then you have potential for something amazing. To me the best marriages are committed FWB type relationships. Think about it. Great sex, friendship and the loyalty & freedom that real friendship entails (trust), and the company of someone you enjoy. No need for restriction or rules or drama. If each person's needs and desires are met there is a turning toward each other for intimacy rather than a turning away from one another for novelty.
The thing I hear more often than anything else from high powered self assured men is this desire to connect, to have intimacy, to build something meaningful. These are men for whom novelty is easy, abundance is a given. Pretty girls are everywhere. And yet they tire of it after a while. It's shallow and it isn't meeting their deeper desire.
It has been my experience that men are actually pretty upfront about that if they sense a woman has the capacity to understand that deeper desire. Finding a woman who can understand it is rare. I am equally upfront that although I have sexual desire I am patient and expect to see what develops before sex happens. Men understand this and continue to push toward sex, which builds the sexual tension further, but they cannot do so without the emotional investment.
Obviously everything hinges on my possessing enough value for a man to consider worthy of his investment. Not all men see it, and that's fine. They are free to go elsewhere without having sex with me. Why would I pine for a man who doesn't realize my value? I know how to uplift, support & treat a man well in and out of bed. I demonstrate that value prior to giving up sex. Only men who invest in me and appreciate my value have a chance to recieve my sexual favor.
This is how the best women choose lovers & life partners since forever. It's what my grandmother (born before WWI) taught me & it's what I teach my daughters. It's largely genetic luck that my appearance started off with great beauty. It's been a high priority to maintain that beauty through life long healthy habits.
I share all this not because I'm so awesome but so that men who might desire something deeper or even something life long get a peek into how a woman worth having sizes up her options in the marketplace. A woman worth having knows she is content with ONE man, so long as he is the correct man for her. Because she only seeks one, she exercises patience and self restraint (self respect) in vetting the suitors who show interest in her.