I'm not really sure what you're saying, but you're definitely overanalyzing this. A lot of chicks will not hit you up at all until after the 2nd or 3rd date. Sometimes their interest level isn't there yet, sometimes they are shy, or some of them simply refuse to chase men until they're smitten. These chicks can do this and still exhibit other more crucial signs of interests (i.e. Accepting and showing up on dates)
This gets to the most basic lead/respond interaction. I always say "Thank you" ON the date. Therefore I don't feel the need to send another Thank you via text. Granted I'm old school (according to
@bigneil since I am pre 1975 vintage), and was raised that ladies don't call men because that is pursuing a man, or pursuit, which is the man's role.
But I'm raising my daughters this way as well...and I surmise that some of the men here with daughters are raising them the same way.
Don't expect women to pursue. If you like a woman ask her out. And don't wait too long or she may go stale on you. If she wants to go out with you, she accepts. On the date observe her behavior. If she says Thank you on the date, that counts as appreciation, no additional text required.
I like to see initiative in a man. Show some.
This girl in the OP certainly busted his balls about not reaching out, & OP's response was a lame lie which she called him out on. A lady would simply respond without creating drama.
I'm with
@EyeBRollin here. Have some nads guys. Expecting women to pursue is passive. I don't like my men passive, so I sort for the men who reach out first. Then I respond and go on dates. This is what many feminine women do, even young ones, even in 2017.
Saying no more dates if she doesn't text is silly. Now if she wasn't thankful for the date at all in person?
That's different.
