I don't even follow this law of attraction stuff and I personally believe happiness is a choice. Either you choose to be happy or be negative and miserable as you have been. Your current world view is ridiculous, how is an unexpected tragedy supposed to be a consequence of negative thinking? Bad **** will happen to some people no matter what their personal philosophy doesn't change what you as an individual should be doing.Okay so then let me see you acknowledge that the "mind" of the people in the Charleston Church attracted Dylann Roof to the church that day to kill them.......because if the Law of Attraction theory is true, then that would be what happened.
Let me see you acknowledge that....or are you not going to acknowledge that? Are you going to just cherry pick the "good stuff"?
I am happy all the time and its very simple I choose to focus on the good things, think positively and focus on the things I can control. The people you are bringing as examples have no control in such scenarios and no one in such a situation would have it. They are justified to have negative emotions in such a situation but the big difference between them and you is you have total control over yours but you like to claim you're a realist and that you have too many stressful things going on.
You can literally drop every plate you have and start dating white, latino and asian women. You can MGTOW. You can get a new job. You can choose to change your perspective on the things around you and search for the positive aspects of it. I also have had a history of women and men spending money on me without me even requesting it and it's not cause I was broke at the time either. They just enjoy hanging out with me and I have no idea why they do it.
Things have been really bad for me but having a positive outlook and smiling all the time, cracking jokes and being a genuinely happy and fun person to be around costs nothing. These silly theories and counter arguments haven't helped you all these years. Just try to focus on the good things in your life and in yourself and **** everything else, work towards your goals and don't let people or situations affect your emotions, only you have that power.