Again.. why does it have to be one or the other?Bro, the issue is that the vast majority of people want to be seen as people. Not as a bankroll. Maybe you don't care if you are seen as such, but others don't want to have to fall back on it all the time because it is something external. Having something inward that people value you for reassures yourself that you as a person are wanted, not because of something you have. People who are desired just for being themselves tend to have very high levels of self esteem, i.e. they genuinely feel good about themselves for something that cannot be taken away. But something external such as money or assets gives someone a huge ego with little to no self esteem.
Compare two people, by themselves. One provides value to you just by existing, while the other only provides value because he/she has something you want. The thing is, the second person isn't ACTUALLY high value, it's their MONEY that is. The other person is high value with or without money. I amongst many others strive to be like the first person. I want to actually BE value, not just have stuff that are valuable. This is the issue with 'money matters-money doesn't matter' debate. It's just who you wish to become, which is all just a preference.
The person with money has the option to be valued for both who they are AND their money. The poor man is only valued for who is his (maybe) or not valued at all.
All these arguments are moot because everyone in this thread would gladly take a check for $5 Million dollars if it was offered to them. Ask yourself why everyone in this thread would take the money. Now what if everyone in this threat had to choose between the $5 million dollar check and having one girl they like value them for who they are? Most would still take the $5 million dollar check. I know I would.
Think about that deeply for a minute.
Money trumps any fleeting validation you get from people.