Dominance is not the same thing as confidence though.If an ugly dominant guy and a good-looking submissive guy walk into a club, my money would be on the ugly dominant guy.
Dominance and submission is part of the masculine/female dynamic. Confidence tends to fall toward the masculine side, but a person might be confident simply because he is ignorant, or delusional.Dominance is what creates confidence. Confidence comes from positive reference experiences from dominating your world. It doesn't come out from the ether (unless you are Jesus and all knowing).
Yes, but imo it is not intelligence per se that is the problem, but a particular form of intelligence. Compare Rodin's stone statue of the philosopher sat down absorbed in thought with Plato's image of the mind astride rampaging horses. This second image has the mind naturally allied with the poetic state... this state is very successful with women. The first is the abysmal modern cogito/ ego. Many men need to be free themselves from what is essentially an ideological/ analytical state of mind.Dominance and submission is part of the masculine/female dynamic. Confidence tends to fall toward the masculine side, but a person might be confident simply because he is ignorant, or delusional.
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Which is why more intelligent men sometimes struggle with women - they analyze too much, and think about what might go wrong. Whereas a simpler minded man might just rush forward.
I'm not so sure. "Success with women" is not the end all, be all. It's the poorer, less educated portion of society that breeds the most.Many men need to be free themselves from what is essentially an ideological/ analytical state of mind.
I agree with you. Freeing yourself from an ideological/ analytical mind may involve holding the whole manosphere/ red-pill thing at arm's distance. Red-pill can become just another ideology insofar as people take it too seriously. When you have more going on in your life, you will be a lot less needy and screen women a lot harder.I'm not so sure. "Success with women" is not the end all, be all. It's the poorer, less educated portion of society that breeds the most.
I know guys who are dumber than boxes of rocks, but they can pick up women without a second thought. They see, they want, they go get. That's good in a "3 second rule" type of way, but I wouldn't trade places with one of them.
Agreed. I don't think women even understand what confidence is. They seem to see it more as a general trait. Which, again, makes me think that what they are attracted to is actually something other than confidence. Like dominance, bold action, a positive attitude, something along those lines.Confidence only applies to one particular skill. Would Tom Brady be confident ski jumping? Would a DJ here be confident rewiring the FAA's Air Traffic Control system?
Confidence is simply evidence of past success when attempting that particular challenge.
Yep... chicks are not going to jump on you no matter how good you look. The MAN has to make a move, and a confident ugly dude will ALWAYS win out over a good looking guy just standing in the corner. Sure the chicks will try and get the attention of the good looking guy, but if he doesn't take the bait and fvcking do something, nothing is going to happen.If an ugly dominant guy and a good-looking submissive guy walk into a club, my money would be on the ugly dominant guy.
I have to agree with this. I've never met a jacked good looking guy who wasn't confident. If you're getting validated every day it will lead to more confidence.When is the last time you met a good looking guy without confidence?
Its hard to test this theory because people generally treat good looking people better and it gives them more confidence.
Ugly people with confidence are attractive because they are confident despite being ugly, which suggests a level of strength and value that is higher than average.
Not only that, but women want a "prize" just like we men do. If the guy is not good looking, there has to be something about him that the girl can brag about to her friends: "He's the leader of the motorcycle club", "He owns the construction business downtown", "He's two time state mma champion", something.If they date an ugly guy their friends will make fun of them.