ChristopherColumbus
Master Don Juan
Actually, I had a similar experience. I thought it was about time I got this area of my life sorted out. So I went on a crash course with the 'pick up' stuff, but on another site. Once I got all those 'reference experiences' behind me, I decided to dial it down a bit, and 'make it my own'.Yeah, but I bet even these guys weren't like that from the start.
Speaking for myself, when I came on this board I sucked up all the PUA and redpill posts. I went out to clubs, even though I didn't like it much. I went out to the gym, even though I didn't like it at first.
I got some questionable experience, but point is I went out and walked the walk. I tried lots of game and saw some didn't work for me, but I've seen in work for others, and finally I've settled into my own style.
After all this time now I can filter the forum for what fits into my game, and be laid back about it. Even today I don't bash PUA advice, even though I dislike it, because I know it does work in its own superficial way.
Newbies got to understand that, no matter how good the advice, they have to put in work and experimentation before they have a right to discuss. There are too many unknowns, so you can't solve it by theory alone. This is, by the way, why going to the gym helps so much - it helps you develop a can-do attitude.
There are a few people here that do have experience and still post controversy - those are opinions that we can respectfully accept and discuss.
So I decided to frequent this site instead, which just seemed a bit more mature.