guru1000
Master Don Juan
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Yes Tenacity, you get it! I’m glad, as this is quite the deep subject.Free will is an illusion. We are "more free" in the US than most countries, but we aren't truly free in the US. We operate under laws, regulations, terms, and conditions that MOST of us don't even fully understand. Nobody is free, we are ALL just being allowed to participate in certain "activities" until the powers that be get tired of our participation and decide to snatch it away from us.
You touch on something else I've been wanting to touch on. Most of the shyt preached in the Manosphere don't even apply to certain types of women, i.e., black women. A lot of the Don Juan theories are coming from white guys, MANY of which live in a suburb/middle class area that doesn't involve a lot of inner city violence, poor schools, no jobs, racism, discrimination, etc.
90% of the shyt preached in the Manosphere and on Sosuave, about DJ principles, or PUA pick up tactics....90% of that shyt will NOT work on most black women as most black women come from the inner city where you have to bring forth a much more hyper masculinity based display (among other things).
So no, it's not the DJ theories that get you a.ss, it's going to be more your genetics, social constructs, and conditions. If you are looking to attract a particular TYPE of girl, hang out with a guy from that particular area and culture, who is already attracting that type of girl and begin to add aspects of his personality to your natural personality.
It's 100% up to me if I sign a marriage contract. I'll sign it if they change the laws. Basically if they change it to be where if the wife leaves, I leave, or we both leave....she takes her shyt, I take my shyt, we SPLIT what we built together....and that's it. No need for a long 3 year expensive a.ss divorce proceeding, no need for her trying to take my kids away completely, no false allegations, none of it. K.I.S.S., keep it simple and stupid.
But there's no way in hell the law will be updated like this in my lifetime (I'm 33 as of today) so there's no marriage for Tenacity. There's no legal relationship with women AT ALL, because I don't want my life or finances or FREEDOM tied to the Family Court at all.
"Free" Will
To reinforce what I said earlier, you make the “willful” decision today “I am not getting married.” And as you had stated, if the market condition were to change to one that was supportive of marriage with more to gain and less to lose, then you might get married. So your decision is based on outside conditions, and, accordingly, your decision not to get married is not entirely “free” but rather prompted as a response to your surroundings.
Let’s take this a step further, let’s say you were a strong “willed” person and stated, “Under no circumstance will I ever get married.” Then I came to you and put a gun to your head and stated if you don’t sign this marriage contract in front of you, I will blow your brains out. You, then, might change your mind and get married. But if you were strong “willed,” then you might respond, “Fvck you, I am free willed, kill me.” Even if you did respond in this manner, you were not entirely free willed, as for you to develop such a such “will,” would mean that you were given a genetic capacity to serve your convictions in spite of your life, or you had prior experiences/conditions which shaped your thinking to develop such a strong mindset to the degree whereas you would serve convictions in spite of your life. Either way, outside stimuli, genetic or conditions, shaped your decision in giving up your life, and thus, again, your decision was not entirely free. “Free will” is not entirely free, but there are degrees of freedom. In the US, as you had stated, you have more free will than other countries. Having broached, we’ll get back to this subject in a moment.
The 1%er
Earlier discussions equated finding a suitable partner to be approximately 5% of the population. I believe this % is much less. The 4-6 looks range comprises the bulk of the population, and single women in the 7-10 range likely comprise the top 10% (or less). Walk out onto to the street, and how many single women do you see in 7-10 range? Of course this is dependent on where you live. A metropolitan city will have more hot women than suburbs, but I do believe the true percentage of what men are looking for in the looks department is closer to the top 10%. Now if we were to adopt this 10% number (we can adjust later if we need to), then we are further looking for a woman with fewer sexual partners, good upbringing, respect, loyalty, feminine behavior, a good attitude, no/little divorces in the family. Now the 10% potentiality dropped to 2% or less. Then we further qualify for compatibility: “Do we get along?” “Do we have common interests?” “Do our conversations flow naturally?” Yes, we found her, but we are likely at a fraction of 1%! I will refer to this woman as the “1%er.”
Tenacity, I know you wrote this as a hyperbole, but it’s important to qualify the argument, because when hyperboles are parroted often, they can be imprinted and confused as the truth in our psyches. We (you, I, and other single men) are not looking for a unicorn. We are seeking a 1%er.Tenacity said:You mean to tell me you want me to pass on all of that in favor of trying to find some UNICORN that doesn't exist anymore?
Seems a bit overwhelming, right? Much easier to say, “Hey, fvck this, let me stay with the other 99% and just enjoy our time rather than pursue the seemly impossible? Right? This makes sense to me as well and I can totally understand this line of thinking. But …
Let’s go financial for a moment. The top 1% of America earns $380,000+. But, if you are not currently in the top 1%, should you state that the 1% is too difficult and accordingly you will just stay where you are--or--are you going to keep trying by positioning yourself to get there? For anybody who has reached the top 1% has made a decision somewhere along the line to say , “Hey, I‘m going to be the top 1% and no one will fvcken stop me!” This person then positions himself with the necessary Ivy League school education, networks, or business capital whereas to reach his 1% conviction. Now he may or may not get there, but most often the person who gets to the 1% income class made that decision to get there somewhere in his life and got there, as opposed to it just being a freak accident (which could happen, but not as likely).
My point is that to get to the top 1%, you have to make a willful decision to. Yes, there is no “free will” entirely, but there are degrees. So by adopting the philosophy that you are not going after the 1% (your true desire) and subjugating yourself to market conditions, you are less free! The man who shamelessly and unapologetically goes after the 1% against the market, whether win or lose, possesses more free will, and is thus freer, than you! Herein is my only objection to not going after the 1% as you initially desired.
As to the argument of “Should I disqualify all prospects until I find the 1%?” TO brings strong points as usual. Though, I find that “game” (as you know I don’t believe in game but rather just needs and whether you are or aren’t meeting those needs) is stronger in an abundant mindset. I’ve been with hundreds of hot women in my life and I consider myself to possess strong “game” overall as a result, but if I don’t have current relations with hot women NOW, my “game” will dwindle. Social acuity needs constant reinforcement. If you don’t use it abundantly, it wanes. Hence, the advice so often parroted here, “Spin plates.” Accordingly, if you choose to pursue the 1%er, I would recommend spinning 2- 3 plates, continue looking, and drop the lowest-tier plate when a more qualified contender steps up to bat.
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