Wants to be just friends. What should I say?

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
Yes.

Clear enough for you?
I honestly don't feel I gave her much. I didn't prattle on with her about some random $hit and I did my best to give the impression I was preoccupied with someone or something else.
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
I would just like to know what you would have said, given the messages she sent me? I can't really say "gotta run" to a text message, it's not like she called me.
 

Tictac

Banned
Joined
Jul 28, 2009
Messages
3,689
Reaction score
1,256
Location
North America, probably an airport
What part of "and asks to see you" didn't you understand?

She likes your attention. And that's all she likes. Unless she asks to see you, say that you are busy, that it was great to hear from her, that you need to go, that she should keep in touch and goodbye.

What you said or what I would have said doesn't matter. It's what you do now that does.

I'm done here
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
What you said or what I would have said doesn't matter. It's what you do now that does.

I'm done here
Well, I'm trying to learn for the future. She and I are both millennials, even when we are out and preoccupied with this or that, we look at our phones. The fact that I respond with one word or short answers really conveys neediness? Really gives her the attention she is allegedly seeking?
 

Channel your excited feelings into positive thoughts and behaviors. You will attract women by being enthusiastic, radiating energy, and becoming someone who is fun to be around.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

Von

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2016
Messages
2,221
Reaction score
1,235
Age
35
You are passing for a troll.... hence the goat in the username ?

We all had this one experience.... but all you doing is killing yourself in her eyes.... soon she'll be making out and sleeping with guys and talk to you all about boyfriend issues.

You'll be nowhere in her thoughts
 

kenpiffyjr

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 3, 2011
Messages
267
Reaction score
146
I would just like to know what you would have said, given the messages she sent me? I can't really say "gotta run" to a text message, it's not like she called me.
What you say doesn't matter!

It's your frame with her and you do not have it! It's like two people talking on the phone saying they are going war with each other. One person on the phone is 6-3 280 and the other person is 5-7 130. You can talk tough and say all the right things about how tough you are, but the 6-3 beast is going to laugh! Later Go out and whip a 6-4 300 pounds monsters ass and watch how your Sh!t talk sounds a lil more convincing.
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
You are passing for a troll.... hence the goat in the username ?

We all had this one experience.... but all you doing is killing yourself in her eyes.... soon she'll be making out and sleeping with guys and talk to you all about boyfriend issues.

You'll be nowhere in her thoughts
My friend has a situation like that and he seems to be everywhere in the girls thoughts.
 

kenpiffyjr

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 3, 2011
Messages
267
Reaction score
146
I don't think what you said was bad at all...but like I said, what you said doesn't even matter.

All you are getting in return is her showing you what she thinks of your frame, so like 98% of this thread has replied, get off this girls nuts...go improve and go chase other tail.
 

Von

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2016
Messages
2,221
Reaction score
1,235
Age
35
My friend has a situation like that and he seems to be everywhere in the girls thoughts.
Did he get anything?

If not .... than she wants to feel your her dog

If yes.... than she's into him


You are in the '' IF NOT''
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
Did he get anything?

If not .... than she wants to feel your her dog

If yes.... than she's into him


You are in the '' IF NOT''
Well, my friend is getting action, as much as I don't envy his situation (hearing about one of her exes she still fancies and crap).
 

Von

Master Don Juan
Joined
Jan 23, 2016
Messages
2,221
Reaction score
1,235
Age
35
Well, my friend is getting action, as much as I don't envy his situation (hearing about one of her exes she still fancies and crap).
You want that girl ? OP girl ?

I'll give you the answer... and its my last comment on this troll post.

You want the GIRL? YOU HAVE TO BANG ANOTHER GIRL AND SHE MUST KNOW IT!
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
I don't think what you said was bad at all...but like I said, what you said doesn't even matter.

All you are getting in return is her showing you what she thinks of your frame, so like 98% of this thread has replied, get off this girls nuts...go improve and go chase other tail.
Yes I agree, but what I got in return from her last night didn't suggest anything bad about what she thinks about my frame at the given moment. The fact she is reaching out to me more since we last saw each other may indicate I left a good impression on her. I carry myself with confidence and believe I could rekindle her interest with the way I dress, look and behave in her presence. It's the rest of it which kills me.

She also doesn't have "nuts" for me to get off. If she did, no such thread would exist.
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
You want that girl ? OP girl ?

I'll give you the answer... and its my last comment on this troll post.

You want the GIRL? YOU HAVE TO BANG ANOTHER GIRL AND SHE MUST KNOW IT!
I know. I told her I was dating another chick last time I saw her (which is true). Last Saturday, I was hoping to encounter her at a bar while I had my tongue in the other girl's mouth.

I also don't see why this is such a troll post. I came here legitimately seeking answers. Am I troll for being set in my ways, perhaps?
 

kenpiffyjr

Senior Don Juan
Joined
May 3, 2011
Messages
267
Reaction score
146
Yes I agree, but what I got in return from her last night didn't suggest anything bad about what she thinks about my frame at the given moment. The fact she is reaching out to me more since we last saw each other may indicate I left a good impression on her. I carry myself with confidence and believe I could rekindle her interest with the way I dress, look and behave in her presence. It's the rest of it which kills me.

She also doesn't have "nuts" for me to get off. If she did, no such thread would exist.
Yes it does...because here's the thing you subliminally are denying...

You want this chick to be on your nuts! A simple text to show she's interested is not good enough for you. You want her physically and virtually throwing herself at you and that's what's killing you inside. The thing is women who do that...those females are in a guys frame and have high interest. You might have a frame with her, but she's on the outside looking in tilting you back and forth because that's what attention seeking females do (who have low enough interest to not step in)..they give enough interest to see how they can affect the position of your frame.

Are you satisfied with that? If you are not...your best move at this point as it has been stated so many times is to stop giving a damn and spend time improving and search for women who actually want to step inside your frame. If she text you...if you wanna reply...reply. But know that it does not matter. She's doing it outside your frame.
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
Thx. One of my friends said when she texted "I hate being home alone" I should have asked if she wanted to me to come there instead of playing games.

I don't think it would have helped my cause.
 

casanova_goat

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Feb 23, 2016
Messages
204
Reaction score
35
I really wish I didn't say the last bit and left her at "I seeee"

She never responded to the last portion.
 

Dingo

Master Don Juan
Joined
Feb 17, 2014
Messages
1,180
Reaction score
983
I'm gonna face this soon... I can feel it.... In our complicated relationship I totally understand.

I just hope I can keep calm and say something "suave"..... to possibly keep us as FWB.
 

Tictac

Banned
Joined
Jul 28, 2009
Messages
3,689
Reaction score
1,256
Location
North America, probably an airport
I'm gonna face this soon... I can feel it.... In our complicated relationship I totally understand.

I just hope I can keep calm and say something "suave"..... to possibly keep us as FWB.
You are not obligated to 'totally understand' anything about her.
If the LJBF speech comes, you need simply say no. And that you are not interested in anything like that.
 
Last edited:
Top