The Duke
Master Don Juan
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I was that exactly that guy years ago. 1.)I didn't believe my wife would cheat, my mind wouldn't even go there, no one in my extended family had divorced so it was foreign to me. Catholic families didn't get divorced. 2.)She wasn't into sex with me as much, and her interest in things that mattered to me faded away. 3.)I didn't have any friends or know anyone that I could talk to about marital problems. I didn't even really know I had marital problems. But I did have an older neighbor that had been with a few women and was on wife #2. He was the one that figured out she was cheating. He suspected it way before I did. One night we were sitting in his driveway and he laid it out and said why he thought what he did. He had been through all that before and saw the signs from far away. He definitely lit the fire in me that helped me figure things out.“Let us consider the author’s male interviewees and their reactions to these patterns of female behavior. Langley lists three obstacles to male recognition of the reality of female infidelity: (1) a kind of high- minded attitude that “my wife simply isn’t ‘that kind’ of woman,” which usually amounts to wishful thinking; (2) an invalid inference from the wife’s lack of interest in sexual relations with them to a lack of sexual interests generally; and (3) a failure to discuss and compare notes on marital problems with other men, as women routinely do with one another.