Guoy Darko
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 20, 2006
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Maybe I focus too much on the rules in stead of The Game but I've got the feeling there are some contradictions in DJing.
First of all I read many times on this site but also in letters from David DeAngelo that women are more emotional creatures then men are. You have to make her feel good! That's more important for women than looks and money. At least that's what I understood about it. This somewhat agrees with the 'rule' of giving a woman a good time and don't make things complicated. Make sure that when she thinks about you she feels happy.
I don't know but I've got the feeling that these two things contradict with some other DJ rules. First one: Be confident, independent and NOT an AFC, and two: Have your own opinion and don't be affraid to have a discussion with her. Don't always agree with everything she says!
Taking all these things into account I started making mistakes. This girl I'm dating now for a month and I were walking through Amsterdam last week just after a nice dinner. She said something I absolutely DIDN'T like. As a matter of fact, my opinion was exactly the opposite of her opinion. I could have agreed with her and gave her a good time and make her feel good about herself. Instead of that I showed her I had an opinion of my own and started having a discussion with her. After a while she stopped saying things and when I looked at her face...... It was the saddest face I'd seen in times. It broke my heart. I felt really bad and spend almost half an hour to make her smile again.
Second thing now. She's on a holiday now for 10 days. I really want to send her a text message telling her I miss her. But this isn't really DJ is it? And at the same time I'm scared it will scare her away. But on the other hand, I have to make her feel good about herself and her relationship with me. If I never tell her I love her or tell her I miss her I can never take things to a next level.
So........ I'm still pretty confused about the rules. Not a real DJ yet. If any of you can explain them to me and show me how they're not contradicting eachother.... That would be really helpful. And maybe give me some advice. And how I can do things better next time. And how about telling her I miss her. Still an AFC in heart.
First of all I read many times on this site but also in letters from David DeAngelo that women are more emotional creatures then men are. You have to make her feel good! That's more important for women than looks and money. At least that's what I understood about it. This somewhat agrees with the 'rule' of giving a woman a good time and don't make things complicated. Make sure that when she thinks about you she feels happy.
I don't know but I've got the feeling that these two things contradict with some other DJ rules. First one: Be confident, independent and NOT an AFC, and two: Have your own opinion and don't be affraid to have a discussion with her. Don't always agree with everything she says!
Taking all these things into account I started making mistakes. This girl I'm dating now for a month and I were walking through Amsterdam last week just after a nice dinner. She said something I absolutely DIDN'T like. As a matter of fact, my opinion was exactly the opposite of her opinion. I could have agreed with her and gave her a good time and make her feel good about herself. Instead of that I showed her I had an opinion of my own and started having a discussion with her. After a while she stopped saying things and when I looked at her face...... It was the saddest face I'd seen in times. It broke my heart. I felt really bad and spend almost half an hour to make her smile again.
Second thing now. She's on a holiday now for 10 days. I really want to send her a text message telling her I miss her. But this isn't really DJ is it? And at the same time I'm scared it will scare her away. But on the other hand, I have to make her feel good about herself and her relationship with me. If I never tell her I love her or tell her I miss her I can never take things to a next level.
So........ I'm still pretty confused about the rules. Not a real DJ yet. If any of you can explain them to me and show me how they're not contradicting eachother.... That would be really helpful. And maybe give me some advice. And how I can do things better next time. And how about telling her I miss her. Still an AFC in heart.