Mike: That's the hardest hurdle to overcome for most people. When you get rejected so many times, it kind of wears you out, and makes you feel unworthy. This is where a lot of people conclude that they're worthless, no one can ever like them, they don't need anyone, etc, and start pushing people away who ARE showing interest, and acting like jerks in general. It's a good thing you didn't do that.
That's why I always say you can't let rejection get to you. It says nothing about you as a person. There is ALWAYS someone who does or will like you. Gotta always remember that, and keep your head up high. Acting like a jerk and pushing everyone away just makes everything worse, and allows those fears to build up. That's why a lot of nice guys end up being such huge jerks - because they're consumed by fear, hate, anger, bitterness, and it all just keeps building up to unhealthy levels. That's no way to live.
OC: There's nothing I did wrong. Like I said, I was accepted / liked / wanted by these girls. I wasn't at the brunt end of their abuse. But I saw how they treated those they weren't interested in, and looked down upon - as I was dating them. Also, how they'd brag about all the guy friends they used, how everyone wanted them, etc. I got a first-hand glimpse of this by being with them - not as the nice guy doormats they treated like ****. I saw it as it was happening to others. It wasn't happening to me. All they cared about was looks and status. If I didn't have either - I'd be the one they were doing this to. They'd literally compliment me for being hot, asking for sex, etc - while saying another guy is ugly and stupid, and how they'd never date them for these reasons. They'd insult them to me - like I was supposed to be impressed.
As for your friend: again, strange. People here are very reserved and closed off. Women don't approach ****, and don't talk much, but they are friendly and pleasant. People in general aren't very social; there are no large crowds or anything. But with that comes very little to no drama. It's kind of boring, but peaceful. In the Midwest, women did a lot of approaching, but there were mostly players, *****s, and jerks. They were everywhere, as were huge social crowds. I'd prefer a woman not approach. They're usually not as aggressive, bossy, *****y, etc that way. Similar to how all the jerks approach women - all the *****es approach guys.
As stated in the very first response - I am not speaking from the bitter experience of being rejected and unaccepted. Women always approached me; I never had problems getting dates and having girls showing interest. At least, not once I hit 25 or so. I could go most anywhere and have women flirting with me - without doing anything. So its not that at all. It's the way they treated others that bugged me, and how they carried themselves in general. Not caring about anyone, using people, treating them like crap, jumping from one guy to the next, being shallow, only wanting sex, and all that stuff. I seen it happen constantly, and was mixed up in it a couple few times. Being hot and popular doesn't give you free reign to treat people like disposable garbage, and not have any decency whatsoever. Just because you can act like a stuck up ***** or ******* - doesn't mean you should.
Agreed on the bitterness and resentment, though. Everyone knows I'm not a big fan of women in general. Or people, really. I give off a lot of vibes, or so I'm told. I'm well aware of these things. Changing the kind of people you associate with helps a tremendous deal. There's a lot of nice, decent people here. Getting used to it and not jumping to conclusions is the hard part.
