Strictly out of curiosity I find 5. strange. You are in your 40s or 50s right? You've started seeing people around you pass away in all liklihood. As I've reached my 50s, lost my parents, other relatives and some friends, I've reached the conclusion that "stuff" or "things" don't matter and you cannot take them with you when you die.
Based on the above I have arrived at the conclusion that the important things in life are the relationships you build, the experiences you have or share with others, and the quality of those 2 things. A distant 3rd for me are achievements/accomplishments.
While I agree that someone who travels to party is one thing, it's quite something else if someone is traveling to see certain cultural, regional or geographic things. Many people work for years to have the means to go on safari in Africa or see Antartica for example. So if someone is into travel for enrichment in their lives, that's dfferent in my view than going to Tomorrowland or Ibizia, although there are those who find that enriching too I suppose.
I do not buy the mantra of work your ass off all your life, accumulate things/stuff and then die leaving whatever you have for your heirs to sort out or fight over.
I'm already giving things to my kids while I can see them grow & enjoy the things I pass along.
Perhaps its a slightly different philosophy and 5. is very specific to you. I don't find experiences like I mentioned above "stupid." And so much the better if you can share those experiences with those you love.
Just a few musings as the old lady occassionally does.
I turn 57 this week!
Good question... and I should clarify though analogy. If someone has the means and ability to travel... great. Travel. But I know a woman who lives to travel. She is 40... she finds a job, works for 9 months... quits, then takes 3 months off traveling overseas, comes back... gets another job... rinse and repeat. She is getting to the point where she knows this is not sustainable.
I know a couple of other women I used to date, who did the same thing, both these women... before their attractiveness hit the wall, found men with money, willing to marry them taking on their massive debt... and messy finances. They both reach out to me occasionally, of course I do not know what is going on in their minds, but I never take the bait. I am not the morality police, but I know the dangers and emotional chaos that would result in being involved with a married woman. They married these men for reasons other than true love.... I do not know why any man would settle for this.
I suppose it really isn't fair to single out 'travel', I suppose anyone that obsesses over anything expensive to the detriment of the future is a red flag. I have a male friend that obsesses over his collection of baseball cards, visiting MLB parks like he is visiting shrines. I love baseball... but if I let baseball dominate my life the way he does... well I would be miserable, and if a woman didn't want to have anything to do with him because of this obsession, I would not blame her.
I travel but I'll take maybe a couple of weeks, then it's back to the real world... no one except my close friends and family know I do this... and where I go is definitely NOT some exotic cool place... my idea of a great vacation is to go to places that no one would ever think to go... (Ice fishing in Finland, camping on glaciers in Greenland, horseback riding in Mongolia) but mostly I just travel in the US to do hiking and camping in National Parks. Nothing goes on social media, IMO I am not trying to impress anyone... I do these things to completely unplug and will only look at my smart phone to check if there is an emergency.
So I'll modify my position and say anyone that spends too much time obsessing over any ONE THING, is a red flag. But in my experience, many women are obsessed with travel as a mechanism for garnering attention and flaunting their ability to do this... if you try to build a life with them, as a man you better make d@mned sure you can afford to do this because you are going to have to spend to maintain her travel fix... most men can not do this.