Young guys and older women

[Wyldfire]

Originally posted by seabreeze
Well, I guess I asked because this is something that I had never experienced before now. It's not about bragging Quest. Geesh, some of you guys really are pessimistic and cynical!

Hi WildFyre, I can see that you have had much more experience in this area. Please feel free to PM anytime.

Thanks for your answers guys. I still don't exactly know what to expect, but you guys have made things a bit more clear for me. I just wondered why this guy would make a hour drive out to my town without expecting something sexual in return. But, I'm probably wrong about that.
SB

Yes, I'm pretty experienced with the older woman/younger man dynamic. Since I divorced my ex a decade ago I've only gotten involved with younger guys. I usually am not attracted to older guys at all...unless they look younger. I just turned 39 last month and the guy I've been most "into" the last few years is 8 years younger than I am. The last relationship I had was with a guy 10 years younger than me. My ex husband was the only "older man" I ever got involved with, and I'm repulsed by him, so it's possible that my ver bad experience with him could have pushed me more towards younger guys. However, before I got married I had a thing for younger guys even back then.

 

[thefonz]

Originally posted by ER!C L!VE
Yea, but those MILFY bodies are kinda saggy, wrinkly, and soft and squishy. I don't know if you've been with a woman of that age, but their boobs are really "floppy" feeling - kinda gross even.

One of the main reasons why I love younger women is because of their tight tight bodies.

Eric

www.tenderz.net/forum

Not all of em.....there are plentyof heffers out there, I once had a one night stand with a 18 year old fat chick (more chubby than fat) and believe me, they are floppy......decided (after about 10 beers, i was skinny at the time) that it would be a good idea to go down on her after we had been walking around all night.....talk about bad ideas, just to give you an idea of how bad it was i drove home the next day with my right hand hanging out the window

 

[A-Unit]

Re:

Seabreeze,

Why are you thinking so much and not just enjoying it? It's life. Go with the flow.

I'm 24.5 dating a 27 year old and a 34 year old. Women tend to mature PROFESSIONALLY much later in life. They don't take up easy to talk about topics on dates, nor do some become as mature sexually with themselves until later on. Sure, you look good doing it, but like riding a bike, it takes some years to be comfortable enough you can do jumps.

On both cases, I've flat out asked them about games and when a guy should call and all that fun stuff. They're more into the time you're spending, than the whole psychological battle behind it.

The only downside is the amount of baggage they begin to collect. Much like their closets, they fill up fast. So some are not dateable LTR.

There's no 'logical' reason. You just do it if you enjoy it.



A-Unit

 

[seabreeze]

Thanks A-Unit, and I think you're right. It's not a date, but I just wondered what the young fella might want from me. Regardless, I look forward to talking to him about books, school, teaching, etc. So, I think we should have a good time.
SB

 

[seabreeze]

Okay. We met last night. He was absolutely adorable. I could tell that he really wanted sex but was trying to be so polite about it. We spent a total of four hours together talking about books, sports movies, school, relationships, etc. Then he told me that he was practically erect the whole time...bless his little heart. He wanted to get a room, but I wouldn't do it. Maybe I will when we meet again, I'd like too....But, I really enjoyed his company and we agreed to always remain friends. No matter what.

Here's a pic:

http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v512/redbayce/100_0428.jpg

SB

 

[Tazman]

I'll tell you what he wanted...SEX!!! Some men will do whatever it takes to get into your pants. If you think a guy is pursuing you for just a platonic relationship after you told him nothing would happen, you are very mistaken. If he feels even a glimmer of hope that you will give in he won't stop. How do I know? I'm a guy.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

What's more shocking is that picture appears to be a black woman with a white man.....



Since when does that happen, I always thought black women hated us honkies?

 

[seabreeze]

Don Juanabbe,

Um.....you're frickin joking, right???
SB

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Maybe it's just me, but I have had nothing but negative reactions from black women in my dealings with them in a romantic fashion.

 

[Tazman]

Actually it isn't all that uncommon, when is the last time you've seen a black woman with a white guy? Atleast where I live it is a VERY rare sight indeed. Some aren't really into white guys, others might shy away because of how they may be percieved dating a white guy.

 

[seabreeze]

Guys, c'mon, you're kidding me right? Okay, okay, maybe where you guys live people just keep things more undercover, but when have black women and white men NOT had sex with each other? Seriously. I'm in Cali, it's, um, no big deal out here....Anyway, I like all types of guys, I always have. Black men, white men, asian, hispanic---all men are beautiful to me!
SB

 

[Luveno]

Seabreeze,

You are wondering why a younger man is interested in an older woman such as yourself...there are many reasons: the maturity, the self-confidence, the integrity, and not to mention the sexiness factor of a sexy woman who is older....a mature woman who can carry themselves in an alluring way is definitely a turn on for ANY man, regardless of age.

However, you seem to have some taboo about not getting involved with a younger man. I'm not sure where that stems from, so could you please elaborate?

Additionally, you met with this guy to talk and be all platonic. The thing is, guys do not set up dates with girls to be platonic. They set up dates with girls so that they can get involved physically. Some guys have more patience - for instance, I will stop dating a girl if there is no sex after 3 dates, whereas other guys can go for months without it. However, no guy is out for platonic friendship with sexy women. We have guys for friendship.

My logic is telling me that even though you denied any physical involvement on your last date, he is of the patient type and will try to woo you into bed eventually. This will continue unless you either:

Go with it

or

Part ways with him permanently

It seems like you're either jerking him around for attention, or you are slighly genuinely interested in him but put off because of the fact that he is 19. As I asked above, please elaborate on the reasons why you feel that way towards younger men, and in particular this younger man.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by seabreeze
Guys, c'mon, you're kidding me right? Okay, okay, maybe where you guys live people just keep things more undercover, but when have black women and white men NOT had sex with each other? Seriously. I'm in Cali, it's, um, no big deal out here....Anyway, I like all types of guys, I always have. Black men, white men, asian, hispanic---all men are beautiful to me!
SB

I'm serious, I don't think I've ever had a black woman show me one slight bit of interest in my entire life, and I live in a very cosmopolitan city.

And the thing is, it's not like that would be something I would be unhappy with, there's alot of very attractive black girls out there.

 

[seabreeze]

Hey Luveno,

I wouldn't describe the way I felt as put off at all! I was just curious as to why in the hell he would be so interested in me when I'm so much older. I mean, I don't really care about age, I just thought guys did. I'm learning more about guys as I go along. So, I'm very attracted to him and certainly not opposed to a physical encounter when the timing is right. So, I think that sex with him would be good.

D. Ronny,

I would say that a black woman will not really assertively show you that's she's interested unless you make the first move. More than likely. Some blacks girls feel the same way that you feel, and that's why they may seem aloof. I don't think that you should EVER let race be a barrier to approaching a woman that you are attracted to. EVER. Just go for it with confidence. Black women LOVE confident men no matter what race he is.
SB

 

[AverageFC]

I think seabreeze just wants some fresh meat.

Black women LOVE confident men no matter what race he is.

Strangely, I've found black women to be highly attracted to me. Unforunately these women didnt resemble Gabrielle Union or Halle Berry.

 

[Luveno]

Seabreeze,

there. You said it yourself that you don't care about age. Therefore, you would have no problem getting physical with this guy. As far as age is concerned, its nothing but a number. Confidence and maturity are things that cannot be measured with age....

For instance: adolescence is said to begin when one hits puberty. However, there is no date for the end of adolescence. You could be 56 and still an adolescent.

So next time he brings you out, go to dinner, talk, get to know each other, and if the mood is right, have sex.

It's not rocket science.

 

[The Rake]

I knew a 39 year old married blonde named Kelly with a 19-year old son Anthony. Her son's best buddy Mark (also 19) made a pass at her and flirted with her like crazy (behind Kelly's son's back). Mark would tease Kelly about making out with him. She was very taken aback that a dude her son's age would want to get into her pants and bury his pr*ck deep inside her mature c***. But, she responded little by little and eventually unzipped his pants, grabbed his throbbing c*** and gave Mark the best BJ he's ever had. Kelly never went to bed with him though. She was completely turned on that someone would want to f*** a woman his mother's age. She later learnt that Mark's fantasy was to get physical with his mother (a real looker in her own right; 5'-2" and 100 lb).

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by seabreeze
Okay. We met last night. He was absolutely adorable. I could tell that he really wanted sex but was trying to be so polite about it. We spent a total of four hours together talking about books, sports movies, school, relationships, etc. Then he told me that he was practically erect the whole time...bless his little heart. He wanted to get a room, but I wouldn't do it. Maybe I will when we meet again, I'd like too....But, I really enjoyed his company and we agreed to always remain friends. No matter what....
SB

See what happens when you pull an AFC move like telling a woman that you've been erect the entire evening... She describes you as "adorable" and she "blesses his little heart!" I guess because he was trying so hard.

These guys turn themselves into little puppies and are led around by the women they are chasing. Don't believe me? What did Seabreeze say, "...maybe I will when we meet again..." No offense but that's like deciding to throw him a biscuit if he's a good boy and you're in the mood!

I'm not putting you down SB, I'm just pointing out how women perceive 'nice guys' who are in AFC mode.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Don Juanabbe
What's more shocking is that picture appears to be a black woman with a white man.....



Since when does that happen, I always thought black women hated us honkies?

"Honkies??!!" You've been watching reruns of The Jeffersons on TV LAND????

 

[seabreeze]

Francisco,

I don't think that he was AFC! Trust me, he made it very clear that he was NOT desperate for sex! I let him know very clearly that I was attracted to him sexually, but I wasn't prepared to have sex with him that night. My "maybe" reflects me not knowing for sure how the night ended because we didn't have sex. He seemed a little abrupt and I wasn't sure if he wants to see me again that way (I sent him a message, but I haven't heard from him yet). How disappointed do you guys think he is since I'm older and we didn't have sex and he wanted to really badly? What should I expect?
SB