So I went from about 10 years with basically no dates and a couple one night encounters to dating, hooking up with, grinding up with, sleeping with you name it several dozen women in the past year or so. Some of these are mostly pretty only in my eyes, but many are like the girl every guy is trying to get. Part of that was living in cities, working out, dressing better, but I defiantly credit knowledge as power. It's how you act more than anything. Plenty of trial and error and then success.
So where am I today? It takes a lot of effort to keep dating multiple women and there's one or two I want to attempt an actual relationship with. Okay guys before you bash me, I'm not thinking marriage. One step at a time, a 6+ month LTR would be great.
There's one girl I was seeing for about a month before a 2 month trip I made overseas. I came back and she told me she has a boyfriend now and that she was seeing him the whole time we were together and even before then.
But I can see she's clearly not happy or in love and she still seems quite attracted to me. And she just unlisted herself as being in a relationship. I'm playing hard to get and its worked to some degree. She invited me over and we hung out tonight, but I restrained myself from making any physical advances even though we were in the past, I left after an hour of listening to her kind of vent (I don't let her vent to me on chat, I act like I don't care) about her life, but I kind of acted like I cared a little when I saw her in person. I told her I had to leave for dinner and didn't give details, she's suspicious it might be a date. Which I was going for. And yes I could have played along and got dinner with her and gotten to sleep over I suspect. I had several times before. She's sad and lonely and sees me as being happy. I don't want to play around especially if she is calling someone else her bf.
But with that said, I played super hard to get and left having more important things to do. I want to build so much attraction with her that she can't stand it anymore and thus resisted tonight to try and win the war. I was willing to sacrifice the one nighter for better chances of getting something a little more serious out of her.
But what to do now? Texting wise I try to ignore her for a day or two in between when she contacts me. I keep myself busy with other things and people. But should I try to have a deeper conversation with her (I don't want to come on too strong or desperate, but maybe if I mention there's other girls, idk)? Or do I just take her out for a good time (I think this would put me in the friend zone though)? The showing you don't care tactics get girls attraction level up but it just ends up being play, no relationship... I mean I have a pretty good idea of how she feels inside I'm good at reading people, but I feel if I guess all it right it could throw me in the understanding friend zone or maybe she'd appreciate it, it's a tough call.
Advice is appreciated...
So where am I today? It takes a lot of effort to keep dating multiple women and there's one or two I want to attempt an actual relationship with. Okay guys before you bash me, I'm not thinking marriage. One step at a time, a 6+ month LTR would be great.
There's one girl I was seeing for about a month before a 2 month trip I made overseas. I came back and she told me she has a boyfriend now and that she was seeing him the whole time we were together and even before then.
But I can see she's clearly not happy or in love and she still seems quite attracted to me. And she just unlisted herself as being in a relationship. I'm playing hard to get and its worked to some degree. She invited me over and we hung out tonight, but I restrained myself from making any physical advances even though we were in the past, I left after an hour of listening to her kind of vent (I don't let her vent to me on chat, I act like I don't care) about her life, but I kind of acted like I cared a little when I saw her in person. I told her I had to leave for dinner and didn't give details, she's suspicious it might be a date. Which I was going for. And yes I could have played along and got dinner with her and gotten to sleep over I suspect. I had several times before. She's sad and lonely and sees me as being happy. I don't want to play around especially if she is calling someone else her bf.
But with that said, I played super hard to get and left having more important things to do. I want to build so much attraction with her that she can't stand it anymore and thus resisted tonight to try and win the war. I was willing to sacrifice the one nighter for better chances of getting something a little more serious out of her.
But what to do now? Texting wise I try to ignore her for a day or two in between when she contacts me. I keep myself busy with other things and people. But should I try to have a deeper conversation with her (I don't want to come on too strong or desperate, but maybe if I mention there's other girls, idk)? Or do I just take her out for a good time (I think this would put me in the friend zone though)? The showing you don't care tactics get girls attraction level up but it just ends up being play, no relationship... I mean I have a pretty good idea of how she feels inside I'm good at reading people, but I feel if I guess all it right it could throw me in the understanding friend zone or maybe she'd appreciate it, it's a tough call.
Advice is appreciated...
