Would You Marry A Bisexual Woman?

[Latinoman]

Sounds like you have a bit of bitter personal history still scurrying around.

Actually Francisco...I left my wife. If anything she should be the one having a bit of bitter personal history. Not me.

She was happy (still tells me this when we talk and ask me "why"). She was a very good mother to my kids and a very good wife to me. She did whatever made me happy and avoided doing whatever made me unhappy. In fact, I could have gone to War for 2 years and be 100% sure she would be waiting for me. And she was also intelligent, beautiful, professional, educated, and independent. And wanted me to sex her practically every day (which is something I am capable of doing). This woman would have been with me for the rest of her life. No doubt about that.

So, why did I leave? Because quite honestly, I lost appreciation for her...and that was making me unhappy. And I knew it was a matter of time before I would hurt her. So, I rather "hurt" her now and be able to look myself in the mirror (while allowing her to find a man that can appreciate her more)...than hurt her in the future and be unable to look myself in the mirror. This is a decision that I am willing to live with for the rest of my life. Yes, I am selfish when it comes to happiness. I am not happy having something/somebody that I cannot possibly feel the appreciation it deserves.

I have learned to accept that I came alone to this world and could potentially die alone. I love women. I love sex. And I love the challenge of a relationship (so, i prefer one instead of many). But when everything is said and done...I don't need A particular woman.

I have zero bitterness toward my ex or my former relationship with her. In fact, I have a LOT of great things to say about it. People were SHOCKED when the relationship ended. She still wants me to go back. She has lot of respect for me as a man (and professionally to, as she still ask me for career advice). Some people think that I'm going through a "mid life crisis" (that's some b.s. word that society invented to describe confused AFCs)...when at 38, I KNOW I'm still young and are a PRIZE.

You see? I knew how to keep a marriage that others envied. I knew how to make my woman happy. I just made a decision. And I am happy with it. That's life.

 

[Fantasy]

Well, I have thought about it and I won't go through with it. I guess I am just ready to get out of the dating game and marry someone where love was involved. I'm getting to old for this ***t.

But everyone who loves each other shouldn't get married. I hate to get back out there.

I told her I wasn't ready now she feels betrayed and all that stuff. She feels that I have pulled the rug from under her after saying that we would get married. I at least wanted us to date some more to make sure we were doing the right thing but she blew up. She told me that to next time to never discuss family and children with a woman unless I was 100% sure I wanted it. I do want it but I am not sure if she is the one to have it with just yet. Anyway, it look like this is it for us.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Well, I have thought about it and I won't go through with it. I guess I am just ready to get out of the dating game and marry someone where love was involved. I'm getting to old for this ***t.

But everyone who loves each other shouldn't get married. I hate to get back out there.

I told her I wasn't ready now she feels betrayed and all that stuff. She feels that I have pulled the rug from under her after saying that we would get married. I at least wanted us to date some more to make sure we were doing the right thing but she blew up. She told me that to next time to never discuss family and children with a woman unless I was 100% sure I wanted it. I do want it but I am not sure if she is the one to have it with just yet. Anyway, it look like this is it for us.

So would you have married her if she weren't bisexual?

 

[Fantasy]

So would you have married her if she weren't bisexual?

Thissituation is very complicated. After all that is happened, I do not think I would have married her even if she WASN'T bisexual. In the end, I don't feel that her bisexuality was an issue as much as other things. I think I could have lived with the bisexuality. Like I say, after much thought, the situation appears very complicated.

 

[Latinoman]

After all that is happened, I do not think I would have married her even if she WASN'T bisexual.

See? Came down to how would she be as a mother and as a wife.

Me? I would have kept her around a little longer...after all, we (men) are the ones that propose marriages. After months without an engagement ring...she would have realized what's the real deal.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Thissituation is very complicated. After all that is happened, I do not think I would have married her even if she WASN'T bisexual. In the end, I don't feel that her bisexuality was an issue as much as other things. I think I could have lived with the bisexuality. Like I say, after much thought, the situation appears very complicated.

This was exactly what I was getting at from the start. Glad that you took the time to look at the overall relationship.

 

[blueguy]

Personally, I don't find bisexuality too much of a problem, but a lot of girls base their entire lives around sexual variety which pretty much makes them not marriageable in my opinion. Because once they're bored with you... well you know. But they're pretty easy to spot I've learned because they basically just work, don't have hobbies and just mostly base their lives around sex. They're also boring as hell on the phone, "Hey, I just got back from working at xxxxx" and don't really have much to talk about other than food, clothes or something she did with some guy she dated way back in the past. That's because her entire life has been dating guys... several guys going to her place and staying over a few nights a week. But they are fun to keep around for awhile. lol

 

[( . )( . )]

Most girls are bi.

Bingo, not to mention homosexuality isnt really viewed by females as how it is to males.

" Bi " to a chick is on the same vein as tatts, piercings and wicka.

Which is why this entire thread is redundant and logically a non issue.

 

[Victory Unlimited]

Yo,


I am such a SELFISH guy that there's no way I could imagine CONCIOUSLY sharing a girl I'm married to with with somebody else...even if that somebody else is another WOMAN.


End of story.

 

[Latinoman]

Bingo, not to mention homosexuality isnt really viewed by females as how it is to males.

" Bi " to a chick is on the same vein as tatts, piercings and wicka.

Which is why this entire thread is redundant and logically a non issue.

The thread is NOT redundant and it is an issue.

You must be talking about Caucasian Western women. I have travelled all over the World and didn't see this fenomenom with Arabs, Latinas, African, and Asian women. Sure...there are lesbians. But there is a huge difference between lesbianism and this fascade called "bi"sexualism.

I think lack of MASCULINITY in Western Europe and North America (U.S./Canada) is the reason why we see "bi" sexual women in those areas.

 

[curtsnokc]

My girlfriend of 6 months is bisexual and wants to get married. She is super hot and I can't keep my hands off of her. She is the kind of woman that when she walks down the street, men start at her.

We have talked about having threesomes before and going to all female strip clubs but have never done it thus far. She had told me that she has been with about 5 or 6 women before and it has been about 1 year and a half since the last. She even had an all-girl threesome before. She claims that she can never actually date a woman but did get with them almost exclusively for sex.


Anyway, we do get along great and like to spend a lot of time together and I know I love her a lot and she seems to feel the same way but I wonder if she could be satisfied with only one part of her sexuality being fulfilled for the rest of her life. She told me that she just wants me and if she did want to sleep with another woman, she would ask me first considering that I obviously am not turned off by threesomes? I had a threesome with my ex before but this was during college and she didn't seem all that interested in sleeping with other women afterwards.

So she seems like she really does love me and care for me very much but If I wonder if I should follow my heart or my mind which is telling me that she would just want to sneak around with women to get that part of her fulfilled. Would you marry a bisexual woman if she was great in so many other ways
and seems to be crazy about you? Or would you just get all of the milk you can with threesomes and all while trying to find a good LTR with suzy homemaker?

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Ahhh. I have had much experience on this topic and it is a very intriguing one for sure. All I gotta say is you are one lucky man lol. After all I have been through on this topic in the dating and marriage scene, I would LOVE to find a wife that was bi-sexual and could agree to only be w/ another woman while I was also present. (most want their cake and eat it too) I would promise not to touch her gf however. So, it's more like a 2.5 vs a Threesome =)

You are there to only watch and/or touch your wife. Now, if she cannot agree to this and wants to be alone with women, why does she want to get married then? If she won't agree to YOUR terms, I would NEVER marry!
Now, if she can agree to these terms for marriage this could go a long way in creating one fun marriage! But I would add this to your marriage contract. There is a good book called "The New I Do" I highly recommend it - talks about getting all these things in agreement and making marriage contracts that match each ones needs....

Just curious how this one turned out?

 

[curtsnokc]

Personally, I don't find bisexuality too much of a problem, but a lot of girls base their entire lives around sexual variety which pretty much makes them not marriageable in my opinion. Because once they're bored with you... well you know. But they're pretty easy to spot I've learned because they basically just work, don't have hobbies and just mostly base their lives around sex. They're also boring as hell on the phone, "Hey, I just got back from working at xxxxx" and don't really have much to talk about other than food, clothes or something she did with some guy she dated way back in the past. That's because her entire life has been dating guys... several guys going to her place and staying over a few nights a week. But they are fun to keep around for awhile. lol

80% of all divorces in America are started by the women! Most women get married because of $ & security. Men do it for the sex and the # 1 porn category is Women on Women sex. So, what I tell chicks now is the ONLY way (at age 40) I would ever do something as risky as marriage again (if it's an American chic) is if she was bi-sexual and provided me some real life fantasy and fun!! So if yall know of any bi chics that would be willing to let me watch too that live in OKC area, let me know. That is what I call real marriage material lol

 

[dillj]

Pitt is supposedly bi-sexual. he'd lose 1/4 a billion $ in a divorce, and that much more in future income, due to reduced regard in the eyes of his female fans. Maybe he just really likes the kids. That happens, ya know. Especially with older guys,

 

[exhausted]

Actually Francisco...I left my wife. If anything she should be the one having a bit of bitter personal history. Not me.

She was happy (still tells me this when we talk and ask me "why"). She was a very good mother to my kids and a very good wife to me. She did whatever made me happy and avoided doing whatever made me unhappy. In fact, I could have gone to War for 2 years and be 100% sure she would be waiting for me. And she was also intelligent, beautiful, professional, educated, and independent. And wanted me to sex her practically every day (which is something I am capable of doing). This woman would have been with me for the rest of her life. No doubt about that.

So, why did I leave? Because quite honestly, I lost appreciation for her...and that was making me unhappy. And I knew it was a matter of time before I would hurt her. So, I rather "hurt" her now and be able to look myself in the mirror (while allowing her to find a man that can appreciate her more)...than hurt her in the future and be unable to look myself in the mirror. This is a decision that I am willing to live with for the rest of my life. Yes, I am selfish when it comes to happiness. I am not happy having something/somebody that I cannot possibly feel the appreciation it deserves.

I have learned to accept that I came alone to this world and could potentially die alone. I love women. I love sex. And I love the challenge of a relationship (so, i prefer one instead of many). But when everything is said and done...I don't need A particular woman.

I have zero bitterness toward my ex or my former relationship with her. In fact, I have a LOT of great things to say about it. People were SHOCKED when the relationship ended. She still wants me to go back. She has lot of respect for me as a man (and professionally to, as she still ask me for career advice). Some people think that I'm going through a "mid life crisis" (that's some b.s. word that society invented to describe confused AFCs)...when at 38, I KNOW I'm still young and are a PRIZE.

You see? I knew how to keep a marriage that others envied. I knew how to make my woman happy. I just made a decision. And I am happy with it. That's life.

I am not judging but merely asking why you would not appreciate and let go of a woman who is a good wife and mother? I would do almost anything to find a woman of such quality and here you had one and just released her.

 

[dillj]

many guys bore easily.

 

[parkthebus]

Actually Francisco...I left my wife. If anything she should be the one having a bit of bitter personal history. Not me.

She was happy (still tells me this when we talk and ask me "why"). She was a very good mother to my kids and a very good wife to me. She did whatever made me happy and avoided doing whatever made me unhappy. In fact, I could have gone to War for 2 years and be 100% sure she would be waiting for me. And she was also intelligent, beautiful, professional, educated, and independent. And wanted me to sex her practically every day (which is something I am capable of doing). This woman would have been with me for the rest of her life. No doubt about that.

So, why did I leave? Because quite honestly, I lost appreciation for her...and that was making me unhappy. And I knew it was a matter of time before I would hurt her. So, I rather "hurt" her now and be able to look myself in the mirror (while allowing her to find a man that can appreciate her more)...than hurt her in the future and be unable to look myself in the mirror. This is a decision that I am willing to live with for the rest of my life. Yes, I am selfish when it comes to happiness. I am not happy having something/somebody that I cannot possibly feel the appreciation it deserves.

I have learned to accept that I came alone to this world and could potentially die alone. I love women. I love sex. And I love the challenge of a relationship (so, i prefer one instead of many). But when everything is said and done...I don't need A particular woman.

I have zero bitterness toward my ex or my former relationship with her. In fact, I have a LOT of great things to say about it. People were SHOCKED when the relationship ended. She still wants me to go back. She has lot of respect for me as a man (and professionally to, as she still ask me for career advice). Some people think that I'm going through a "mid life crisis" (that's some b.s. word that society invented to describe confused AFCs)...when at 38, I KNOW I'm still young and are a PRIZE.

You see? I knew how to keep a marriage that others envied. I knew how to make my woman happy. I just made a decision. And I am happy with it. That's life.

You didnt come into the world alone, you would never had left your mothers womb had she not pushed you out so how could you have possible done it alone or have been alone?

 

[exhausted]

Marriage should be only committed if you want a ltr forever.
Why would you marry a bi girl who you now have to worry about not one sex but now two to contend with if things become difficult? Just sounds like more trouble

 

[logicallefty]

Marriage should be only committed if you want a ltr forever.
Why would you marry a bi girl who you now have to worry about not one sex but now two to contend with if things become difficult? Just sounds like more trouble

This is exactly what I was thinking too.. Twice the number of people she can cheat on me with. No thanks.

 

[exhausted]

This is exactly what I was thinking too.. Twice the number of people she can cheat on me with. No thanks.

Exactly. A marriage is a LTR with only you and her forever. If you want to spin plates then spin plates and dont get married.