Women & Sex

[Blue Phoenix]

Has anyone ever read this book:

Why Women Have Sex: Understanding Sexual Motivations from Adventure to Revenge (and Everything in Between)

http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0805088342/ref=ord_cart_shr?ie=UTF8&m=ATVPDKIKX0DER

It´s very recent.

 

[zekko]

Perhaps im strange, but i don't walk around all day thinking about sex. I rarely think about it....

I have to admit it crosses my mind an awful lot. Yesterday I was around a bunch of women at work and for some reason almost EVERYTHING seemed sexual to me. It's not always like that though. There are definitely other things in life besides sex, and I think if a guy can't control his impulses he has some self discipline problems.

How many of you have seen a woman in such a horny state that it's just absurd???? (hopefully a lot of you).... How many of you have been in such a horny state that you felt it could compare to the state she was in??? (not me! i've never been in such a state that i shudder when being touched and orgasm just from being whispered too.)

This is similar to a point I made in another thread about women and their multiple screaming orgasms. Do men have screaming orgasms? Not as often as women do.

Women can experience sexual desire, and sexual ecstasy on a level I CANNOT comprehend or explain.

Careful, bukowski, you're liable to get called a white knight for suggesting that women have sexual desires. Don't you know they only fake interest in sex in order to manipulate men?

Are you guys going to sit here and tell me my desire for sex is 17Xs that of a woman????

Perhaps it is not a linear scale.

If you believe women don't desire sex as much as you - that is putting her desiring you sexually on a pedestal! No?

That's a pickup theory contradiction (one of many).
If man is the desirer, and woman is the object of desire (as Pook says), then doesn't that make her the prize to be won?

Also, if women aren't driven by sex, then what is the point of Being Sexual, of being the Sexual Guy?

 

[Poonani Maker]

Also, if women aren't driven by sex, then what is the point of Being Sexual, of being the Sexual Guy?

Because this is how quick sex happens. Women can Most Definitely tell if you're having sex. They react Instantaneously to seeing you, EVEN If, they've Never seen you before in their life! This happened to me yesterday after a total fvcked out weekend.

Sure, their End Game may be to Land the Rich mofo who is socially adept to show off to all her girls, but I don't want to be her show-off pony. I just want to fvck her, and be done with her.

 

[initiatorhater06]

whatever, **** it

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

The Myth of Sexual Peak

This is a very good breakdown of the sexual peak myth as well as being pertinent to this discussion. Have a read.

 

[Powerlifter]

Yeah and sadly that is properly the biggest reason.

Thanks Iggi.

Powerlifter

Mental illness and sexual abuse comes to mind.

 

[Powerlifter]

Rollo,

Kudos. I read the entire article very insightful and makes one think long and hard on the subject that is those with a mature mind who care to listen to the truth.

Powerlifter

The Myth of Sexual Peak

This is a very good breakdown of the sexual peak myth as well as being pertinent to this discussion. Have a read.

 

[maqnetik]

The Myth of Sexual Peak

This is a very good breakdown of the sexual peak myth as well as being pertinent to this discussion. Have a read.

great post... and its pretty much common sense if you think about it

 

[Rollo Tomassi]

Bump to Archive.

 

[Nutz]

The Myth of Sexual Peak

This is a very good breakdown of the sexual peak myth as well as being pertinent to this discussion. Have a read.

Just want to restate how important it is you guys read this. Do not allow yourself to be fooled.

 

[CuriousGirl]

The Myth of Sexual Peak

This is a very good breakdown of the sexual peak myth as well as being pertinent to this discussion. Have a read.

I agree and disagree:

Also, on the "women's sexual peak at 30/40/etc" I believe that's less to do with hormones, and more to do with confidence and experience and learning about your body, being comfortable in your body and in the bedroom. That's why the age is changing/decreasing, because women are more open about sex than they used to be and much more open to masturbation, they will peak quicker because they are getting confident quicker and learning to orgasm at earlier ages etc. And it doesn't just stop at learning to orgasm, there's more and more! I've always taken 'sexual peak' to mean more than just being horny and stuff, I've been masturbating for about 5 or 6 years and I'm still learning more and more about my body and my arousal etc, and that's not even with sex so imagine how it can develop when I'm in a relationship and getting lots of sex? It's quite exciting knowing you're not at your peak and there's more to come.

- I do agree there is a completely wrong comparison, the female sexual peak of 30ish is usually compared to the male sexual peak of 18, the latter being based on much more biological performance/fertility/being able to keep getting it up after ejaculation etc.
...also I would add there's not so much of an emphasis on a man's sexual peak, when you ask someone why they would say 18 it's probably with what I just mentioned in mind and that's all.
- personally I think there is a sexual peak with women but when you ask what is the sexual peak it's different things. I firmly believe it's what I've previously mentioned, not a biological change in hormones but purely a much more experienced understanding of her body/orgasm/sex, and this gives you confidence in the bedroom and outside the bedroom.
-I think body confidence is quite an issue in sex for women, and as women become more comfortable in their own skin they let loose in sex too.
-On top of this I think it is somewhat linked in with the confidence in who you are, where you come from and where you're going in life that is again acquired by age and experience.
- I think women's sexual peak will depend on the individual and can be changeable, but generally is around the late 20s early 30s for in the former and present generations because of all of the above and particularly what I mentioned in my previous post about the open-ness of sex and masturbation. I also think for women it's got a lot to do with the development of her sexuality in relation to her confidence and the rest of her life experience.

 

[C-quenced]

I agree and disagree:


- I do agree there is a completely wrong comparison, the female sexual peak of 30ish is usually compared to the male sexual peak of 18, the latter being based on much more biological performance/fertility/being able to keep getting it up after ejaculation etc.
...also I would add there's not so much of an emphasis on a man's sexual peak, when you ask someone why they would say 18 it's probably with what I just mentioned in mind and that's all.
- personally I think there is a sexual peak with women but when you ask what is the sexual peak it's different things. I firmly believe it's what I've previously mentioned, not a biological change in hormones but purely a much more experienced understanding of her body/orgasm/sex, and this gives you confidence in the bedroom and outside the bedroom.
-I think body confidence is quite an issue in sex for women, and as women become more comfortable in their own skin they let loose in sex too.
-On top of this I think it is somewhat linked in with the confidence in who you are, where you come from and where you're going in life that is again acquired by age and experience.
- I think women's sexual peak will depend on the individual and can be changeable, but generally is around the late 20s early 30s for in the former and present generations because of all of the above and particularly what I mentioned in my previous post about the open-ness of sex and masturbation. I also think for women it's got a lot to do with the development of her sexuality in relation to her confidence and the rest of her life experience.

You're gonna sit here and tell me a male hits his sexual peak at 18? I began mine at 12 and it stayed the same ever since. I'm ALWAYS wanting to **** something.

 

[CuriousGirl]

You're gonna sit here and tell me a male hits his sexual peak at 18? I began mine at 12 and it stayed the same ever since. I'm ALWAYS wanting to **** something.

You're only 26 though. But I think (correct me if I'm wrong) for a lot of guys it can start to go downhill in terms of amount of time you can get it up after ejaculating etc, completely biological (and different for different guys)..I think that is what a lot of people define male sexual peak as, the male body's prime for being able to have as much sex as possible (quantity over quality). Whereas a female's sexual peak is maybe more quality over quantity, it's more of a reflection of being in the prime of her life rather than the prime of her body. With the female sexual peak there's a much bigger relation to being good and confident in bed.

 

[SoliCat]

Interesting points from all but I feel I should let you guys in on a couple of things you may or may not have been aware of.
While you guys are easier to turn on the longer you've gone without, a woman is different. It takes us longer to get going the longer we've gone without. So like a car that's been garaged for a long time it takes a while to get the engine purring. Better to take it out for a drive each day. Use it or lose it as the saying goes.
Another point is this, someone above in one post said something about sex being less important as we get older. For a substantial number of women entering peri-menopause this could not be farther from the truth. Sad to say just as things are falling to bits/drooping/drying up etc...lol....many of us want it more than ever. Hormones are surging and we feel like randy teenage boys trapped in a middle aged woman's body...hahaha...I guess there are those of you men who might say 'oh well sucked in, bad karma for all the headaches your pretended to have', I might even agree with you there.
But I would also say that if you are at all inclined give us older girls a go and you might be surprised. Some of us have stayed in pretty good shape and at least we're past the stupid game playing. Unless it's games of the fun kind...

 

[don't]

SOME women experience lust as we do, but the % of such gals is not high, most have to have a committed relationship with the guy, THEN they are often hot for HIM, but him only.

 

[betheman]

...
Another point is this, someone above in one post said something about sex being less important as we get older. For a substantial number of women entering peri-menopause this could not be farther from the truth. Sad to say just as things are falling to bits/drooping/drying up etc...lol....many of us want it more than ever. Hormones are surging and we feel like randy teenage boys trapped in a middle aged woman's body...hahaha...I guess there are those of you men who might say 'oh well sucked in, bad karma for all the headaches your pretended to have', I might even agree with you there.
But I would also say that if you are at all inclined give us older girls a go and you might be surprised. Some of us have stayed in pretty good shape and at least we're past the stupid game playing. Unless it's games of the fun kind...

now what type of guy would you 'gals' be interestedin or attracted too? you are never too old for the 'stupid' games

 

[Blue Phoenix]

This thread is funny. If women were as horny as men are, we'd be living on a porn film set right now. Men and women would be copulating everywhere non-stop. The fact that men have to do all this other stuff to get laid (get game, get rich, study PUA material, acquire material status symbols like expensive cars, learn to dance, fly overseas, pay for it, get married, go on dates, etc. etc. etc.) proves the point.

I agree! That relates to this: "Getting turned on overrides women's natural disgust response to sex making them more willing to do things they otherwise wouldn't."

Great article:
http://healthland.time.com/2012/09/1...?iid=obnetwork

You´ve got to sex her up first before going for sex, otherwise it´s called rape!

 

[Nutz]

Basically you need to amp up buying temperature. Do that, get her so turned on, and her own attraction will override her own logical "no script".

 

[goundra]

now that birth control, female condoms, and abortion are readily available, things are improving, but women have many thouands of years of being trapped with kids, they are hardwired to be VERY careful who they risk having a pregnancy by, and rightly so. also, they are much smaller/weaker than us, make less money, etc, etc, so of course they have absorbed the need to be careful, sneaky, and so on. However, i have heard that studdies show that men typically think about sex dozens, if not hundreds of times a day, while a typical woman thinks about it not at all, or at most, a very few times a day. My experience backs that up, for women who are not 'involved" with a given man. however, one who is living with you, really digs you, or really wants to get pregant, can often be jumping your bones several times a day.

 

[christie]

I think women who are in their 30 and 40's are just more desperate and are willing to please more. not that complicated to figure out really

you are a 33 year old stock trader, no debt, you take care of yourself, no real baggage, afer that 37 year old has ****ed her way through her 20's, getting drunk and having fun, she might even have a kid now becuase of it, what ****ing (no pun intended) choice does she have but to **** your brains out if she wants to keep you? she's competing with women in the early to mid 20's for this man. she has to **** her way into your heart. literarly. What other card does she ahve to play but the experience card? she knows (usually) she's not as hot as the 24 year old girl at starbucks that keeps flirting with you with the perfect ass

my fiancee is 34 and I'm 27. WE have sex about 3 times a week, i actually turn down sex quite often from her, as if I know for instance I have to get up early in the morning I won't do it if it's late. I'm quite sure we don't **** as much as we do, becuase she's just that horny, while I'm good looking I don't give myself that much credit.

She knows, if we aren't ****ing, i'm gone lol. I'm eligible enough and she knows it, where I can find someone who will **** me.

I wouldn't call it desperation, I would call it ensuring your assets. A man has needs, it's your womans job to make sure they are met. the fact that she is horny or not is of no real consequence, women cut it on when they need to, that's all you need to know.

There are a few times I mean often but not like every other day, like a few times a month when I can tell she is just really, really actually, horny. But more often than not it's maintence ****ing. good maintence****ing, but maintence****ing never the less

I knew that guys could tell when a girl maintenance ****s.
It seems dishonest of the girl, doesn't it?