Women interested in married men with kids

[lamath]

New here

37yo with 2 kids and wife of 11y
I think things are sadly heading towards a divorce, wife as gotten seriously fat, treating me like crap we fight alot and i know i could do way better.


Lately
Hot women as been hitting on me a lot lately
.

Anyway Just a few week back i was at a friends bbq/party with wife and kids, when wife left with the kids that really hot younger women starting hitting on me hard.
Almost spent the night at friend house with her but i decided i could not do this to my kids.

Now im wondering wtf are those women thinking?
And ofc now thinking if i should try and get with a few of them

 

[AttackFormation]

I wish I could give solid advice, but when you have children together with a woman who has stopped caring there is no good option, just what you hope could be the least bad.

I see three options:

1) Mistress
2) Divorce
3) Stay

#1 has the benefit of satisfying you, and she doesn't care about the relationship so I don't really think it's a case of 'unfaithfulness' per se. But no matter what you could say, you can't morally justify adultery, and that is why if you did it then you would hide it from other people like your children for example. It could also come with more material consequences than merely conscientious, if someone finds out or snitches. So you take a guaranteed hit to your conscience, and you risk material repercussions.

#2 Could wreck the kids, but gives you a fresh start unless your wife manages to take you to the cleaners. So both your conscience and your finances could come out fine, or they could both be wrecked, or one of them is okay and the other not.

#3 The least risk. But also the least satisfying. The risks here are that your children grow up in a house of discord, and you are unsatisfied.

I can't say what I would do if I were you because it's not an easy choice at all. Many would say they would pick between #2 and #3 but not #1, however cheating is an impulsive act and it's easy to say you wouldn't while you aren't being tempted and aren't in a crappy relationship. I've never been in a relationship, let alone married with kids, so I can't say whether it's possible for her to change and you to have a good relationship again if you ever had one. Do what you feel would hurt the kids the least, enable you to tell your kids when they ask you why that you gave her a last chance, and satisfy your wish for a satisfying life.

 

[lamath]

Thanks for anwser

Im pretty sure divorce is only option now, i hope i wont screw my kids too much.
Fighting atm is too much.
I am still in very good shape and decently good looking so i know dating wont be that hard, for her its an other story.


But my question was
now im looking at possible dating options and lately ive been hit on by hot younger women and i wonder wtf are they thinking and what kind of women does that.
Are the possible options for the future?

 

[highSpeed]

Don't kid yourself, there's always a willing guy. She may have let herself go according to your standards but believe me, it's like putting the trash out for women until they get really old, someone will always pick it up.

 

[Billtx49]

lately ive been hit on by hot younger women and i wonder wtf are they thinking and what kind of women does that?

A woman that doesn’t register very high on a morals scale which can affect her right and wrong decision making process…

 

[btownbuck2012]

I wish I could give solid advice, but when you have children together with a woman who has stopped caring there is no good option

Is a woman who stops caring about her children even a woman?

 

[btownbuck2012]

Don't kid yourself, there's always a willing guy. She may have let herself go according to your standards but believe me, it's like putting the trash out for women until they get really old, someone will always pick it up.

Thread. Actually, forum.
Lmfao

 

[bmp2cpm]

What you are asking is possible, but it comes with many strings attached.

Women like to steal men. They are hardwired to do this. You are pre-vetted and show you can commit enough to have/raise children with a woman.

An exit affair can give you lot’s of fun and a divorce.

Unfortunately, it will come with a lot of drama too. Worse than you can imagine. Plus, your affair partner will push for you to marry her after the divorce. She picked a pre-vetted guy for very specific reasons. She wants what your wife has.

You can get divorced and then date, but honestly, you become less attractive to women when you are divorced. And the s*x is amazing when a woman wants to steal you. But it’s a short term gain for long term commitment. Out of the frying pan and Into the fire.

Choose wisely. Good luck!

 

[AttackFormation]

Thread. Actually, forum.
Lmfao

Yeah the guys in the red pill sphere are laughably clueless about how many suitors women of all kinds can have. There are men who are into everything, fat women, slim women, tall women, short women. All of them - including fat women who even have their own porn category, model sites, dating sites and apps where as ever the men outnumber the women - have so many suitors through real life and particularly OLD and social media that they become desensitized to males as human beings. And the sexual marketplace doesn't completely invert at 30 or whatever like they think it does with women suddenly having zero men after them. This bullsh!t really needs to go.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

What you are asking is possible, but it comes with many strings attached.

Women like to steal men. They are hardwired to do this. You are pre-vetted and show you can commit enough to have/raise children with a woman.

An exit affair can give you lot’s of fun and a divorce.

Unfortunately, it will come with a lot of drama too. Worse than you can imagine. Plus, your affair partner will push for you to marry her after the divorce. She picked a pre-vetted guy for very specific reasons. She wants what your wife has.

You can get divorced and then date, but honestly, you become less attractive to women when you are divorced. And the s*x is amazing when a woman wants to steal you. But it’s a short term gain for long term commitment. Out of the frying pan and Into the fire.

Choose wisely. Good luck!

110% true! This is how the world works. Often times the theft was her priority once youve submitted and becomes hers she will lose interest. Im not even sure "love" was part of the consideration. They want to "win" against your wife. This story happened to me and has happened to others

 

[highSpeed]

Yeah the guys in the red pill sphere are laughably clueless about how many suitors women of all kinds can have. There are men who are into everything, fat women, slim women, tall women, short women. All of them - including fat women who even have their own porn category, model sites, dating sites and apps where as ever the men outnumber the women - have so many suitors through real life and particularly OLD and social media that they become desensitized to males as human beings. And the sexual marketplace doesn't completely invert at 30 or whatever like they think it does with women suddenly having zero men after them. This bullsh!t really needs to go.

True, even the grannies have someone who'd do that and probably more than one. Even the most disgusting cow will have guys falling all over themselves to get at them. And it's only going to get worse in the states, europe and canada. you think the marketplace is bad now? wait 10 years when we're overrun with immigrants who will literally lay down with goats. you think they wouldn't take your b*tchy wife in a second? they'll settle her hash real quick and then have their barefoot, pregnant and shackled to the kitchen woman who will do whatever they want. that time is a coming fellas, enjoy Babylon now.

 

[AttackFormation]

True, even the grannies have someone who'd do that and probably more than one. Even the most disgusting cow will have guys falling all over themselves to get at them. And it's only going to get worse in the states, europe and canada. you think the marketplace is bad now? wait 10 years when we're overrun with immigrants who will literally lay down with goats. you think they wouldn't take your b*tchy wife in a second? they'll settle her hash real quick and then have their barefoot, pregnant and shackled to the kitchen woman who will do whatever they want. that time is a coming fellas, enjoy Babylon now.

Lmfao, spinned around laughing at the bolded parts particularly the second. Too much truth.

I have an account on a site for fat women (that's what I'm into, hence how I know what I'm talking about), I long since stopped using it along with the rest of OLD but it's still there. The women there have hundreds, thousands of followers. Each picture and the most trivial status they post gets likes and supplicating and validating comments. Their profiles have men begging to talk to them. Their inboxes are flooded over with men validating them, trying to stand out, impress them, fvck them. They can pick and choose which men they want to fvck. They publicly joke and disparage with each other about the men who message them.

You guys will think I'm making this sh!t up, so here you go. This is just a random girl's profile - not a celebrity, not a model - on the site. It's literally the first random profile I clicked on to take a screenshot, and here is the result so you can see for yourselves:

 

[Billtx49]

An exit affair can give you lot’s of fun and a divorce.

Unfortunately, it will come with a lot of drama too. Worse than you can imagine.

Not only drama, but possibly a more expensive than usual monetary settlement and/or child support decree in divorce court if it’s revealed to the judge that a married man with kids was cheating…

 

[lamath]

Not only drama, but possibly a more expensive than usual monetary settlement and/or child support decree in divorce court if it’s revealed to the judge that a married man with kids was cheating…

Yeah i do want to avoid the drama.
I dont want to screw up the kids more

She is the kind of person that cry alot and can get depressive at time so got to make it as ez as possible for her.

Divorce is mostly my choice here, im just tired of how she treats me.

 

[Billtx49]

Yeah i do want to avoid the drama.
I dont want to screw up the kids more

She is the kind of person that cry alot and can get depressive at time so got to make it as ez as possible for her.

Divorce is mostly my choice here, im just tired of how she treats me.

Then that’s a healthy fresh start mindset to have…

 

[lamath]

Lmfao, spinned around laughing at the bolded parts particularly the second. Too much truth.

I have an account on a site for fat women (that's what I'm into, hence how I know what I'm talking about), I long since stopped using it along with the rest of OLD but it's still there. The women there have hundreds, thousands of followers. Each picture and the most trivial status they post gets likes and supplicating and validating comments. Their profiles have men begging to talk to them. Their inboxes are flooded over with men validating them, trying to stand out, impress them, fvck them. They can pick and choose which men they want to fvck. They publicly joke and disparage with each other about the men who message them.

You guys will think I'm making this sh!t up, so here you go. This is just a random girl's profile - not a celebrity, not a model - on the site. It's literally the first random profile I clicked on to take a screenshot, and here is the result so you can see for yourselves:

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Funny stuff
Its always been easier for women either way.


Whatever happens im at a point where idgaf

 

[AJ84]

Yeah i do want to avoid the drama.
I dont want to screw up the kids more

She is the kind of person that cry alot and can get depressive at time so got to make it as ez as possible for her.

Divorce is mostly my choice here, im just tired of how she treats me.

Sounds like a crappy situation for you and I don’t think it’s in the kids’best interest for you or your wife to stay in an unhappy marriage.
If you are attracting younger hotter women it’s mostly you, not the fact that you’re married. The married thing just shows to them that you are capable of making a commitment which may be seen as a bonus. Even if you get divorced it’s still seen as you being capable of commitment because you had been married. I know that sounds weird but past LTR or marriage, even if it failed, is still seen by many women as better than never having been in a serious relationship at all past a certain age.
Oh, and hot fit Dads....it’s a thing for a lot of women.
Own and embrace it all as a free and single man .

 

[AJ84]

Don't kid yourself, there's always a willing guy. She may have let herself go according to your standards but believe me, it's like putting the trash out for women until they get really old, someone will always pick it up.

Also, a lot of women transform themselves into something more attractive post divorce when they decide to re-enter the market. Not all, some do the complete opposite, but it’s not unusual for a woman to change her hair, lose weight, dress better and increase her sexual vibe post break up. Esp at the prospect of new and exciting sexual experiences.
A lot of men do the same thing, new beginnings and all.

 

[lamath]

Also, a lot of women transform themselves into something more attractive post divorce when they decide to re-enter the market. Not all, some do the complete opposite, but it’s not unusual for a woman to change her hair, lose weight, dress better and increase her sexual vibe post break up. Esp at the prospect of new and exciting sexual experiences.
A lot of men do the same thing, new beginnings and all.

Sadly main reason for me leaving is not her look or weight.
But ofc it does not help

 

[resilient]

Before you initiate a divorce, I would first suggest trying marital counseling. See if you both can come up with solutions to resolve the discord and communication issues that have lead to the constant fighting.