You know dam well the only thing that will resolve the discord in her mind is him doing all the changing. Why waste time on such nonsense. It's like falling down a rabbit hole, trying to get into a woman's mind and make it make sense.
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mrgoodstuff
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You run the risk of insanity trying to do that.
lamath
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That is exactly why i think i got no choice.
Most of our fights are mostly her getting mad at me for stupid stuff and me getting madder because she is mad at me for stupid stuff and thats the only time i get her mad at her.
You would think that after 11y she would stop that non sense.
mrgoodstuff
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She wants to "win"
The true red piller's r magnanimous, we leave the above 30, fatties, fugly's, single mom's to the rest of mankind
OP, marriage takes a lot of work.
I'm always of the view that men should take the lead and accept responsibility when a marriage breaks down then does his best to try to salvage what's left of it.
It's only workable when the wife is not a cheater.
Find ways to keep the family intact.
It starts by not blaming the wife and taking the lead towards creating a more harmonious family environment, then gradually lead the wife to join you in some diet and exercise program. The family that plays together sticks together.
I'm always of the view that men should take the lead and accept responsibility when a marriage breaks down then does his best to try to salvage what's left of it.
It's only workable when the wife is not a cheater.
Find ways to keep the family intact.
It starts by not blaming the wife and taking the lead towards creating a more harmonious family environment, then gradually lead the wife to join you in some diet and exercise program. The family that plays together sticks together.
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AttackFormation
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Women do this when they resent you/their life but are too complacent to change, and also when they consciously or not want to provoke you to make the first move for them.
lamath
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Im at a point that i dont enjoy doing anything with her and i dont want to do anything with her. i think she resents me for it.
But what can i say the only thing she likes to do is shopping and dinning out to me thats boring af.
Overall i feel that she is a boring person that is too often in a bad mood and i always have to walk around egg shell around her.
However i know i got to take some blame also, i am not an attentive person, everytime she tells me something i get defensive(prob conditioning over the years), i am not helping much around the house and i cba to make any effort towards her
lamath
Master Don Juan
Nailed it!
That constant resentment because of my ambivalence towards her is prob our main problem.
Also im always the one at fault and the one who needs the compromise, never admits wrong doing
Time for me to stop taking the easy road, i have been way too easy going and agreeable.
I feel like i have way higher SMV than her and still get no credit or appreciation.
If she's loyal as a wife then she deserves to be led into a more productive life.
Being the husband, you automatically assume the leadership role towards her and to ur kids.
If u r not leading them, then everything will unravel.
Call it quits after trying for 6 months. Plan it out, assign no blame but be firm and assertive in ur leadership as a husband. They'll toe the line once they realised that u r assuming the leader role in all seriousness.
After doing so, if you still feel the same then by all means divorce ur wife.
Being the husband, you automatically assume the leadership role towards her and to ur kids.
If u r not leading them, then everything will unravel.
Call it quits after trying for 6 months. Plan it out, assign no blame but be firm and assertive in ur leadership as a husband. They'll toe the line once they realised that u r assuming the leader role in all seriousness.
After doing so, if you still feel the same then by all means divorce ur wife.
Spitful homewreckers with a history of doing it. You'll be seen as lower than dogsh!t if you jump ship to one, even if your wife eventually concedes you were mad for staying as long as you did.
lamath
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This i think is a good advice, but what i fear is trying for an other 6 month is just gonna be me doing all the compromise.
She never admits her fault and cant take any constructive criticism.
For example:
She nags me for about 1 year asking me why im not much into sex with her, telling me i should go see a doctor because its not normal. I know what the problem is and i try avoid telling her because i know its gonna hurt her.
Finally after being told i have a medical problem i tell her that she let herself go ( she had gain idk maybe 75 lbs and thats before the kids)
After that instead of trying to improve herself, she shuts down, cry for a week and become really cold towards me.
She nagged me for a year and not in a gentle way and now im the *******!!
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
After they wreck your home theyll wreck the rest of your life. Its what they do. The lesson is to be more careful, to have self worth and stop doing stupid things many men do.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Glad i never did the deed, had many opportunity but stopped it before it got there.
However after 1y+ without sex ( her fault not mine) i think id be justify.
I have now stop trying to get it.
mrgoodstuff
Master Don Juan
Im somewhat religious but worldly enough to know cheating on your spouse if youve been STARVED for a long time is a good interim process to follow before bailing. Often when your spouse sees the world wants you they will too. Also if they are cheating and you do it back to meet your needs they know u will take care of u if they put out or not so it diminish power they have over you by holding out or cheating.
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Interesting site, many of the stories, other woman descriptions, and character revelations are posted by spurned wives and it definitely reveals their current attitude and revenge driven mindset…
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DEEZEDBRAH
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Your being "unavailable" is attractive. Art of seduction 101. Coupled with the fact that, men like myself, old enough to be considered mature and at thirty, able to deem oneself as young.
Women meet enough "commitment phobia" characters like myself who won't marry, won't do a LTR, no cohabitation, and no meetings with family or friends.
You are married, with kids, provider male which in this world and given female logic and retardation, is a stupid move. Thus far, you aren't divorced raped. Not yet.
It portrays a man who plays by the rules or do you women think.
Regardless of sex appeal, top form SMV, I want to beat the brakes off and repeat more then once. Then, next set.
Women want what they cannot have. It's not shocking good sir.
Play these skanks off. Let wife know, you got options. Not in the mood means, dome other girl is.
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If you stay and continue as is, it’s only a matter of time before BOTH of you cheat. Because BOTH of you are not fulfilling the sexual and emotional needs of the other person. You said she won’t have sex but you also admit that you don’t want to have sex with her because she let herself go so it’s not one sided here.
What seems like a mess now will be a mountain of crap for you, your wife and your kids to have to wade through if you and your wife let this fester until one of you is caught cheating.
From what you are saying, it sounds like both of you have checked out and are hurting each other, her by blaming you for everything and you by being distant. Honestly your kids are going to pick on the negativity if they haven’t already.
If you stay and continue as is, it’s only a matter of time before BOTH of you cheat. Because BOTH of you are not fulfilling the sexual and emotional needs of the other person. You said she won’t have sex but you also admit that you don’t want to have sex with her because she let herself go so it’s not one sided here.
What seems like a mess now will be a mountain of crap for you, your wife and your kids to have to wade through if you and your wife let this fester until one of you is caught cheating.
lamath
Master Don Juan
Good advice and i know its not 1 sided
Kids are indeed picking up the bad vibe
Yep, when mommy and daddy fight enough times they’re going to catch up on the Southbound drift…
Then before you know it everything starts going to hell in a handbasket for Everyone involved.
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