Semantics, Mr. P. By "allowed me", i meant she told me to feel her up AFTER i was already caressing her tits, which, of course, I never asked permission for. But this brings me to a further question. When a woman comes over and lies down chest-up on your bed, is that not an unmistakeable sign that she wants YOU to make a move right then and there to initiate sex? Seems to me a very open and inviting thing to do. This girl has done that numerous times and, while i certainly responded by touching her and kissing her, i did not actually make aggressive moves, such as positioning myself on top of her, undressing her, touching her sexually, feeling her up, etc. (I didn't want to "jump her bones", too soon without her getting warmed up first). The result has always been the same, after lying there for 5-10 minutes and NOT responding to caresses and kisses, she makes an excuse to leave and splits. The few times i was aggressively sexual with her, she responded positively and sex followed. Much of the time, she was the one to initiate sex. She did tell me that she responds best to clear, decisive signals. She wasn't necessarily referring to sex, but she did say that she wanted me to be more demanding, to plainly state what i wanted. But i couldn't say "Let's f*ck?" as you don't talk, you act. Am i being too passive, even if i AM kissing her? I mean, usually women will get turned on to kisses and touching, but not this girl, so i never crank things up further. Maybe she's not all that horny. I test the waters and if i don't get strong signals to escalate, i don't. That is why i concluded that this particular girl was just teasing me for attention, otherwise, she would respond or even initiate herself, right? Should i have not tested at all and just gotten overtly aggressive with her? Wow! Now that i think of it, i WAS aggressive when we first started having sex but then somehow, i misinterpreted signals, got paranoid, and lost that sexual leadership. I gave her the ball and played things lightly, passively. But i also thought that if she wanted sex, she would do everything possible to make that happen, and there were times when she definately made her desire clear.
