Women having sex to get attention. Why?

[wayword]

She can get attention plenty of other ways besides sex and those many other ways don't involve penetration...

BS - why is ALL your attention focused on HER right now then...instead of any other of the millions of girls out there?

I mean, she has you sitting here OBSESSING about her on some messageboard! Giving her tons of attention - when she's not even around! And why?

Just admit it - it's the PUZZY. If she hadn't stroked your joystick with it - you wouldn't even be thinking about her right now. Fact is, her puzzy is SO POWERFUL, you don't even realize it! :crackup:

As Prince said...PUZZY CONTROO-OOL!!!

She can manipulate you with it because she doesn't desire it as bad. So, she can turn it on or off at will - leaving you like a hungry rat waiting by the pellet dispenser! :crackup:

 

[blueguy]

You can't be serious?! This is just absurd.

That's why I stand by what I said in the first reply. They LOVE sex. But only when it is from a guy they find attractive emotionally and physically. And again, they don't find a guy emotionally attractive if he's giving away his attention for free.

Attention is second string for them... BEHIND sex. Behind satisfying sex with a guy they find both emotionally and physically attractive -- That is 'love' to them... there's nothing more powerful.

 

[tmpgstx]

Here's the key though. She doesn't get the jerk's attention without sex. He makes sure of that. Not to mention she is competing with other nappy headed hoes for the same jerk lol. When she lets him blow a nut in (or on)her, she is validated against the other women.

 

[GtarPlayr73]

Just admit it - it's the PUZZY. If she hadn't stroked your joystick with it - you wouldn't even be thinking about her right now. Fact is, her puzzy is SO POWERFUL, you don't even realize it!

Oh, believe me, i have become fully aware of the incredible power of the pus*y...

women appear harmless because its in their interest to appear that way.

the weaker of any two organisms will always adapt and use the weaknesses of the stronger organism against it. its the old sumo (push pull) strategy - if you aren't strong enough to move it, then use its own weight against it to toss it down.

women are masters at this, which is why a woman can only hurt you to the extent that you allow her to use your weaknesses against you. and she will quietly catalogue those weaknesses and attack them when needed.

men always say they can't understand women, and the reason is that women behave in irrational manners as a sumo strategy - and it works!

its mind boggling how the more dominant of the species has been brought to its knees by the weaker of the species - all through leveraging mental weaknesses in the male psyche.

By the "weaker sex" you mean physically. But why would they need to overcome our physical strength by being manipulative? What does physical strength have to do with a relationship? Are you implying that women fear sex literally being forced on them by their boyfriends/husbands? The sumo strategy would only be relevant if we men brought our strength to bear, but when would we ever bring our physical strength into the equation? No man who valued and cared for his woman would overcome or control her with physical strength, so why would she resort to manipulation then?

Perhaps a better equation would be this: the man's desire for sex is balanced against the woman's desire for attention. It is not a man's physical strength that the woman fears, it is his attention. A man's attention is just as attractive and beautiful to a woman as her body is to the man. To lose the man's attention would be the equivalent of the man losing access to the woman's body. She balances her body against his attention for it is his attention that she wants and the lack of that attention that she fears.

 

[joekerr31]

you are underestimating the role physicality brings in human relations.

trust me, the fact that men could (even if they don't) beat the cr*p out of a woman does weigh on their mind.

ever go to a bar and there's some hulking dude in the corner. i bet you behave differently than you would if the place was filled with computer geeks.

in both scenarios you likely dont have to worry about a confrontation, but in the later you could care less because you know you can defend yourself.

women know they aren't going to get attacked, but trust me, they are always aware of that when you get down to the brass tax they are always vunerable SHOULD the man decide to get physical.

and im not talking about 1:1 relations here. im talking about the 'world' women live in that conditions their minds.

theres a reason why women like physically strong men - its the inherent desire to have a protector in this big bad world.

when you walk through a rough area you worry about getting mugged. women worry about getting mugged and raped.

its a different world that women live in. i found this hard to believe, but i've had WAY too many of them acknowledge to me that they are always on their guard. its not to say they freak out and are paranoid all the time, they are just cautious until they know they can trust who they are dealing with 100%.

anyway, in this world women have to evolve different defensive tools other than physicality - so they develop the ability to read the person they are dealing and to manipulate their behaviors.

men inherently recognize this in women which is why so many men have the 'save a ho' mentality. because they instinctively know that 'saving' a woman should be one of the quickest ways in to her pants (because every woman needs a male protector they think).

 

[GtarPlayr73]

And also, she can insure the man will protect her by keeping him on the hook with sex. If she gives him too much too soon, he might take her for granted and not stick around and she's on her own again, defenseless?

 

[STR8UP]

Interesting, wayword. That explains a personal experience of mine where the girl was all about having sex with me and then didn't want any for indefinite periods of time. I could never figure that out. She clearlly enjoyed it, having initiated it herself, and she knows she can get more of it whenever she wants, but she never does! I mean, she DID orgasm from oral sex every time we had sex. And this same girl that complained that sex took too long. She's not into foreplay! That makes her the only one on the planet, right?! Other women i have been with were much more sexual. So different behavior for different women. Each relationship is different.

If a woman is off and on with the sex thing it usually means she's got something else going on the side. If she's not fukking YOU, she's fukking SOMEONE.

The flakey chick I was sexing for awhile was like this.

The thing with her is that she likes girls too, so I wonder if she's hot/cold with me cause she can get her pu$$y licked by one of her girls whenever she wants. She even showed me a pic of a chick she fukks sometimes.

Is the chick in question bisexual?

The reason I ask is because she sounds a lot like the one I described. I have found that women who like other women play a little different game and it can throw you off.

On and off with the sex? Check.

Not into foreplay? Check.

Doesn't need to be banged upside down hanging from the rafters for three hours to feel satisfied? Check.

I'd say she's a switch hitter, whether you know it or not.

 

[STR8UP]

its a different world that women live in. i found this hard to believe, but i've had WAY too many of them acknowledge to me that they are always on their guard. its not to say they freak out and are paranoid all the time, they are just cautious until they know they can trust who they are dealing with 100%.

Hence, this is a big qualifier women use to judge you as a potential mate.

That's why social proof is a shortcut to getting into a woman's pants.

It's SOOOOOO much easier to get a chick attracted to you (much less get her back to your bedroom alone) if you have mutual friends. The next best thing is having a woman at least see you interact with other women who aren't afraid to get huggy/kissy and touchy/feely with you.

 

[GtarPlayr73]

Is the chick in question bisexual?

The reason I ask is because she sounds a lot like the one I described. I have found that women who like other women play a little different game and it can throw you off.

On and off with the sex? Check.

Not into foreplay? Check.

Doesn't need to be banged upside down hanging from the rafters for three hours to feel satisfied? Check.

Well, well, well. Incredible that you should mention this. The girl i've been sexing (the landlady's daughter) had a conversation with me one night out about how its possible to have a sexual connection with someone of the same sex! She talked about how she thinks young people today don't approach sex from the traditional way, that there's no such thing as strict hetero or homo love, that young people are moving beyond that and are open to whatever happens, that things can just happen with the same sex when the connection is there. Free love, etc...Sh!t if that ain't a bisexual outlook! Hmmm...girl with father issues likes to switch hit...Mind you, i have never, ever seen any of this girl's female friends come over. She only seems to have guy friends lately. Maybe that's perfectly fine for a bisexual? She doesn't have to be a lez, just go for the muff when she's up for it. She definitely does have female friends, most of whom are fiery, controversial, crazy, etc.

On and off sex: check
Not into foreplay: check
Not into hours of sex: check
No traditional hetero-emotional capacity with men: check

And she's not the softest, most feminine of women. She's a bit hard, cynical, edgy, ARTSY, and very liberal. She dresses mainly in dark colors, dark jeans, dark T's etc. But make no mistake about it, the girl can look absolutely model-beautiful with make-up, etc. She's definitely a hetero-woman, but is "open-minded" and jaded enough to be getting some vage on the side, as you suggest.

 

[STR8UP]

There are very few women I have known who have genuinely confused me, even after KNOWING the nature of the female beast.

One of them was openly bisexual, liberal, artsy, just like you mentioned. She wasn't masculine, but she wasn't as feminine as I prefer. When it came to sex and anything sexual she was more like a man than a woman. No need for a bunch of foreplay, no pouting if she didn't get a sex marathon, and when it was done she would roll over on her side of the bed and give me my space.

The latest one also openly admits to having sexual relations with women.

She was pretty much a fukk buddy for a few weeks, not even a relationship type thing. But the time I did spend with her allowed me to confirm some of the things I suspected about bisexual chicks.

This one was all over the map with the sex. One minute she's putting my hand down her shirt so I will rub her t!tties in the middle of a store, the next she's driving home when I expect her to spend the night. Sex? She let me know when she was satisfied...time to roll over and go to sleep.

Any chick who "forgets" to put away her big purple dildo the first time she has you over to her place is in a different whole different realm sexually.

 

[mrRuckus]

You really need to find a new way to make your point. A "Woman" is nothing more than a female human; its not a reference to any status or moral honor. Some women are hors, all hors are women. In short, you're correcting these men when you're the one that's in error.

If you misuse the English language, even given your slang, then how can you reasonably expect anyone to take your advice? It might stand to reason that maybe your advice is also in error.

And a man is no more than a male yet we all run around saying "be a man" all the time though it makes no sense since we already are. I don't see you correcting these people, Mr Literal.

 

[wayword]

things can just happen with the same sex when the connection is there. Free love, etc...Sh!t if that ain't a bisexual outlook! Hmmm...girl with father issues likes to switch hit...Mind you, i have never, ever seen any of this girl's female friends come over. She only seems to have guy friends lately. Maybe that's perfectly fine for a bisexual? She doesn't have to be a lez, just go for the muff when she's up for it. She definitely does have female friends, most of whom are fiery, controversial, crazy, etc.

On and off sex: check
Not into foreplay: check
Not into hours of sex: check
No traditional hetero-emotional capacity with men: check

And she's not the softest, most feminine of women. She's a bit hard, cynical, edgy, ARTSY, and very liberal. She dresses mainly in dark colors, dark jeans, dark T's etc.

One of them was openly bisexual, liberal, artsy, just like you mentioned. She wasn't masculine, but she wasn't as feminine as I prefer. When it came to sex and anything sexual she was more like a man than a woman. No need for a bunch of foreplay, no pouting if she didn't get a sex marathon, and when it was done she would roll over on her side of the bed and give me my space.

The latest one also openly admits to having sexual relations with women.

This one was all over the map with the sex. One minute she's putting my hand down her shirt so I will rub her t!tties in the middle of a store, the next she's driving home when I expect her to spend the night. Sex? She let me know when she was satisfied...time to roll over and go to sleep.

Girl with gaping daddyhole ==> bisexual AW who tries to act "like a man" (playa who numbs her emotions).

Check.

BTW, this type is very prone to cheating, too.

I had called this from the jump. It's such a common syndrome in our single mama society today that it's entirely consistent and predictable.

 

[wayword]

I bet you're 16 and a virgin to not know that 'drilling' her with a massive dong for half an hour is not the surest way to make any woman ***...

Uh, and what praytell is your method for getting ALL girls to cvm regularly and easily THRU INTERCOURSE alone? Just like men can (with close to a 100% success rate)?

 

[wayword]

Some positions, angles, rubbing the **** during doggy style, talking in her ear, finger up the ass... all that build up to her climax. It's not about the repetitive pounding at the same tempo for 30 min that you see in movies.

Uh, they do all that in p0rn too...as do many guys in regular life.

But unless you rub her c1it, you are not going to have anything near a 100% success rate like with men.

 

[joekerr31]

perhaps im way off base here, but just talking from personal experience, the thing that makes a woman orgasm most easily is trust and her attraction to you.

if she doesnt trust you, but is attracted to you, then you gotta work all kinds of things to make her explode.

if she trusts you, but isn't attracted to you, you ain't getting her in to bed.

but if she both trusts you and is attracted to you, then she is mentally primed to orgasm. because in her mind its not just sex, its the beginning of somethign amazing - marriage, kids, true love, etc. blah blah blah

thats the crap that runs through her mind while youa re banging her. and its those thoughts that make her go wild in bed no matter what you do.

btw, the finger up the *ss thing is always good. haha.

 

[Vulpine]

perhaps im way off base here, but just talking from personal experience, the thing that makes a woman orgasm most easily is trust and her attraction to you.

That has been my experience, also. If you've ever noticed, or ever heard, "The sex just seems to be getting better", it's because it IS. As a relationship progresses, a chick tends to trust the guy more, and thus, enjoy the sex more. The chick enjoying sex more makes the guy enjoy sex more, and so, sex is better.

Cause and effect. You want better sex? Make your beeyatch trust you more. Many "sex help" books touch on this as well.

 

[wayword]

if she doesnt trust you, but is attracted to you, then you gotta work all kinds of things to make her explode.

but if she both trusts you and is attracted to you, then she is mentally primed to orgasm.

Sure, as I said it's much harder to get women off thru intercourse alone than men. Look at all these things you have to do to her...

Whereas a woman doesn't have to do jack to a man to make him cvm. Other than spread her legs and let him masturbate in her dik-sleeve. She doesn't have to angle her cooter, earn his trust, mentally prime him, finger his azz, blah blah blah...and the only position he needs is "in."

All the tips are great here - but only serve to reinforce the point that intercourse is is not as inherently h0rgasmic to women as to men. And this is largely because their cl!t is located away from their hole where all the action is taking place.

 

[Vulpine]

In light of that, I suggest that women undergo surgery at birth. Just as males get circumsized, I propose that women get cl!t relocation procedures done.

We can call the procedure the "Ack-rite-cision".

Man, imagine all that it would fix!!!!!!

 

[STR8UP]

perhaps im way off base here, but just talking from personal experience, the thing that makes a woman orgasm most easily is trust and her attraction to you.

if she doesnt trust you, but is attracted to you, then you gotta work all kinds of things to make her explode.

Nervousness can also prevent a chick from getting off with you even if she trusts you and is attracted to you, ESPECIALLY if she really likes you and feels pressure to please YOU. Sometimes it takes a few times to get her comfortable enough to have an O.

 

[STR8UP]

And this is largely because their cl!t is located away from their hole where all the action is taking place.

That's why it's good to learn how to get a woman off internally. Give her a mixed bag (****oral AND g-spot orgasms) and she'll be all over your jock.