Women don't approach

[BruticusMaximus]

I have to say I really think this is untrue... I'm not a super attractive guy but it's happened to me from time to time... my mates too.

On reflection I think I probably use this as an excuse not to step outof my own comfort zone... it's like "oh well, some girl'll express an interest eventually, so I won't risk it".

Is this the reason you have to drill it into your subconscious that women don't approach?

 

[Capitol39]

Women do approach. I don't know why people say they don't. They just don't approach as often as guys do.

You don't have to drill it into your subconscious. It doesn't really matter what they (women) do. The point is that you know what you want, so go for it.

 

[Chemistry]

Women do approach...

If you've got the attitude and the looks, then they'll come on to you...

I think it's used as an excuse by guys who don't get this... it's easier to say "Women don't approach", rather than the reality of lots are approachin' other guys but not me...

On the other hand, their is nothin' wrong with approachin' a women before she approaches... or she may not have noticed you even, so you seize the day yourself, rather than waitin', it's all a confidence issue...

 

[drZaius09]

It's been debated time and again. But everybody here needs to get it through their thick skulls that it is all about looks.

Example #1. I've NEVER been approached in my life. I am NOT good looking.

Example #2. I've personally witnessed other guy friends of mine get approached on several occassions. They were ALL good looking guys.

It's so painfully simple it makes me want to puke. Before you can proceed any further in your understanding of women and attraction and relationships, you need to quit deluding yourselves into thinking looks don't matter. And before you start flaming me, I refuse to debate anyone who cannot grasp this basic, irrefutable concept.

 

[One on One]

Girls approach me from time to time, but they aren't willing to take the risk that guys will. I am a tall, dark, attractive guy and I know that girls find me attractive, but I don't get approached all the time. Girls will go up to me in clubs and social settings. Generally, they aren't willing to risk an approach in everyday life.

 

[BGMan]

Sure, I have had girls approach me, but they never offer their numbers or whatever. One girl asked me out once, but she was a fundie and I think she had alterior motives...

But hey, you know that if she does approach you, you have a good chance of getting her contact info.

BGMan

 

[FlyGuy]

drZaius09,

I agree - not to say that looks are the ONLY thing that women care about but yeah, the effect is irrefutable. I've only been approached a handful of times in my life. I still think that women don't approach AS OFTEN as men, not nearly as often. The reason, I believe, is because beautiful women don't normally NEED to approach. They get guys hitting on them all the time. But yeah, women do approach when they have a really high IL, and yes it is largely motivated by looks. I also think that women approach in more subtle ways, not just going up and asking for the number. They flirt and make a lot of innuendo.

 

[Mustang]

being approached is flattering, but I prefer to hunt them down like prey, I love the feeling of "targeting", "making my move" and "going in for the kill", I love the rush!!! I fvcking love it!!!

seriously, women want to be HUNTED and CAPTURED (that's why most don't approach)

 

[jwhite17]

I've been approached three times on the street. The first two times the girls didn't even have enough guts to approach me they had their friend ask me for my number but these girls weren't that attractive(6's), so I told them I don't have time for a girlfriend which was true and I was an AFC back then. Actually I did give out my number to one(her friend called) but I never returned it.

The last approach occured outside the steps of my campus library; this girl was easily an 8 which suprised me and then she offered her number to me after a short convo, it was too easy .

 

[b_elusive_eyes]

DrZauis.....

Dude..if girls dont approach you because you perceive yourself to be unattractive you are already defeated right there.....its all about a strong belief on who you are as your core....you should get fit and take care of yourself and develop a part of your look to attract girls....girls are looking for a guy who takes stock in himself..his appearance..groooming...etc....be a little vain here and there..

 

[mahon83050]

It is all being at the right place at the right time. Do women approach? Yea some do, but a very small percentage. Do looks play a role? Yes, they do, but you would think a stunning looking guy WOULD NOT get approached because he looks intimidating. I have been approached I guess only three times in my life. Now, my definition of approach is, girl makes an effort to come up to you and say the first thing. A girl smiling at you or looking at you, IS NOT an approach. As far as looks, do not have "movie star good looks", but I am hovering a little above the average range. The fact that I am 6-0 tall (which I relaized is taller than most males) and look in shape probably has alot to do with it, since my face is only average or cute.

 

[mahon83050]

BTW, do not let the simple fact that "some" women approach, make you back off on assertiveness, aggressiveness, etc. Do not use other guys saying..."I get approached all the time", as an excuse to be shy! To add in my previous post, the three girls that have approached me (in my whole life) were all about 5-10 years older and nothing special.

I noticed alot of women will put themselves in a postion to get approached, but will rarely due the "literal" approaching. I.E Once in Florida some blonde walked by me and gave me a slight smile. A few minutes later I was at the bar ordering a drink. She came over and stood about 3 feet to the left of me. She did not say a word, but SHE was waiting for me to say something to HER. I think this is what MOST girls do as far as their strategy is concerned.


Guys that say they get approached alot I think are lying, or they are misusing or misinterpreting the term approach. A girl coming up to you and asking, "Do you have a light?" DOES NOT COUNT!! I believe, You will ONLY get approached as a male on a "frequent" basis if you are a famous...musician, actor, athlete, news anchorman or something.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by mahon83050

I noticed alot of women will put themselves in a postion to get approached, but will rarely due the "literal" approaching. I.E Once in Florida some blonde walked by me and gave me a slight smile. A few minutes later I was at the bar ordering a drink. She came over and stood about 3 feet to the left of me. She did not say a word, but SHE was waiting for me to say something to HER. I think this is what MOST girls do as far as their strategy is concerned.


Guys that say they get approached alot I think are lying, or they are misusing or misinterpreting the term approach. A girl coming up to you and asking, "Do you have a light?" DOES NOT COUNT!! I believe, You will ONLY get approached as a male on a "frequent" basis if you are a famous...musician, actor, athlete, news anchorman or something.

What you said in the first paragraph is true...This girl at work, she was the baddest girl there, used to sit next to me everyday for 2 weeks and not say anything...She kept looking over at me alot, but when I saw how bad her additude was, I left her alone...

Your second paragraph is wrong...Alot of dudes get approached from women...You can usually tell if a girl is trying to get at you if she just comes out of the blue and says hello when you have never even spoken to her, that happens alot...Just keep your eyes open for out of the blue behavior and you can usually tell...If you need clarification, I can explain if im on later...

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by mahon83050

I noticed alot of women will put themselves in a postion to get approached, but will rarely due the "literal" approaching. I.E Once in Florida some blonde walked by me and gave me a slight smile. A few minutes later I was at the bar ordering a drink. She came over and stood about 3 feet to the left of me. She did not say a word, but SHE was waiting for me to say something to HER. I think this is what MOST girls do as far as their strategy is concerned.


Guys that say they get approached alot I think are lying, or they are misusing or misinterpreting the term approach. A girl coming up to you and asking, "Do you have a light?" DOES NOT COUNT!! I believe, You will ONLY get approached as a male on a "frequent" basis if you are a famous...musician, actor, athlete, news anchorman or something.

What you said in the first paragraph is true...This girl at work, she was the baddest girl there, used to sit next to me everyday for 2 weeks and not say anything...She kept looking over at me alot, but when I saw how bad her additude was, I left her alone...

Your second paragraph is ehhhh...Alot of dudes get approached from women...You can usually tell if a girl is trying to get at you if she just comes out of the blue and says hello when you have never even spoken to her, that happens alot...Just keep your eyes open for out of the blue behavior and you can usually tell...If you need clarification, I can explain if im on later...

 

[mahon83050]

Originally posted by TheInfamousCBear
What you said in the first paragraph is true...This girl at work, she was the baddest girl there, used to sit next to me everyday for 2 weeks and not say anything...She kept looking over at me alot, but when I saw how bad her additude was, I left her alone...

Your second paragraph is wrong...Alot of dudes get approached from women...You can usually tell if a girl is trying to get at you if she just comes out of the blue and says hello when you have never even spoken to her, that happens alot...Just keep your eyes open for out of the blue behavior and you can usually tell...If you need clarification, I can explain if im on later...

So if you are at a bar or at some social occasion: A chick walks by you smiles and says hello and goes about her business. You consider that an approach, I certainly do not.

 

[Capitol39]

Originally posted by drZaius09
It's been debated time and again. But everybody here needs to get it through their thick skulls that it is all about looks.

Example #1. I've NEVER been approached in my life. I am NOT good looking......

Yeah, whatever. If you're right, that means that no average or below average looking guy would get laid. This is obviously false. I have empirical evidence to back this up.

For example, I knew a guy that was ugly as hell. He was short, weird face, acne. But he acted like a DJ. He hooked up with 10 girls in my dorm that school year. Me, on the other hand, am much better looking than him, but I was shy and had no confidence back then, so I got nothing.

Looks are *part* of it. Not ALL of it.

 

[drZaius09]

Originally posted by Capitol39
If you're right, that means that no average or below average looking guy would get laid.

Funny... I thought we were talking about below or average looking guys getting approached....

I am testament that ugly f*ckers can still get laid. It just takes a lot of needless work and effort and time and pains in my ass. Pains that I question the cost efficiency of.

 

[Capitol39]

Originally posted by drZaius09
Funny... I thought we were talking about below or average looking guys getting approached....

For your edification, I remember my ugly friend getting approached in class at least once, and I'm sure it happened on a regular basis.

Now you really have no excuse to continue being a victim.

 

[TheInfamousCBear]

Originally posted by mahon83050
So if you are at a bar or at some social occasion: A chick walks by you smiles and says hello and goes about her business. You consider that an approach, I certainly do not.

Well, youre talking about bars...Im talking about school and work....If its school and work, you might have it, but im really unsure about bars and clubs though...But then again, like you said, girls dont really approach, they just put themselves in a good position...So the girl at the bar might of been trying to talk to you and she figured that was the only way to start something...You know how women are... *sigh*

 

[2N Turbo]

Originally posted by drZaius09
Funny... I thought we were talking about below or average looking guys getting approached....

I am testament that ugly f*ckers can still get laid. It just takes a lot of needless work and effort and time and pains in my ass. Pains that I question the cost efficiency of.

Everytime you post I can't help to picture monkeys breakdancing in spacesuits.