Woman send me an email after 8 months

[DJDamage]

Anyway about 8 months ago I was at the college computer lab trying to print some materials with no success. This chick saw me and offered me her help and I got the impression that she was intereseted in me (strong IOI). Anyway I took her email and I thank her on the email and I also wrote on the email: "What other useful knowledge do you possess that I can incorporate for future use? "

So anyway I never got a response and totally forgot about her. Fast forward 8 months into today and I get this email:

It was no problem helping you out. I had done the same thing a couple months before trying to remember how to print! Now you'll have to forgive me for replying so late. I could give you my excuse now, but you may not reply and I'll just look like a fool for wasting so much effort.

The only advice I can give: Do well in school; it will help you with future opportunities. Don't drink, smoke or gamble excessively because they will just get in the way!

If you're near (the college) on Monday or Wednesday afternoons let me know. We could grab a coffee after my spring course... but it's on you!!

Take care,
Mary"

I am a bit curious to what "her excuse" was for replying after 8 months (probably some B.S). I don't even think I should bother with her, because her response is really late.

 

[romangod]

Better late than never. My guess is that she just broke up with another guy is now fishing for a new chump. Cheers!

 

[DJDamage]

. My guess is that she just broke up with another guy is now fishing for a new chump. Cheers!

Yeah I think so too. First she emails me after 8 months then she dictates where I can meet her, where we will go (Coffee shop) and only if I pay for her coffee.

pfff that kinda annoys me.

 

[Phyzzle]

I would do it, but then I like to meet as many people as possible. They can't all be winners.

If you're near (the college) on Monday or Wednesday afternoons let me know. We could grab a coffee after my spring course... but it's on you!!

"Sure. I'll get you my favorite drink." Then get her triple espresso with honey, marshmallows, orange, and mint syrup. B!tch.

(Or try to get her to a campus bar, if there is one.)

 

[decades]

she didn't need you 8 months ago. She "needs" you now. If it were me I would ignore someone who invited me then ended the invitation with "it's on you though". Or I would say something like "that would be great and all, but I only do Starbucks, no exceptions."

 

[jophil28]

Never underestimate the blind stupidity of some women.
Obviously she believes that you will be thrilled to hear from her - so much in fact that she gives you instructions on how and where you can meet with this arrogant princess .
Lucky dog you !

Geez - the self importance of some women is breathtaking..

I agree that it is likely that she just broke up with her last lapdog and she has no other options currently so she went back in time trying to hook YOU .
You are being recruited to be "rebound guy" - your mission is to re-inflate her ego and provide validation by fawning over her, escorting her, and paying for dinners, entertainment ,gas and drinks. She may f**k you but it will be bait with a hook in it.
Then when she has regained her emotional equilibrium in a couple months she will Friendzone you and accuse you of wanting "too much' from her because she is "not ready for a relationship" ..

Same ole crap. Somethings never change.

Reply if you must BUT do so in the knowledge that you are about to be used.

 

[Scaramouche]

Yeah...I also had mail after 7 Months led to a really beautiful relationship,lasted 17 months,She was a Chinese Girl doing Phd studies here...She was my first Chinese Lover....It was wonderful,I went back to Wuhan with her and found out she had a Hubby and two kids.Handsome is as handsome does,she was going to bail out from the Marriage,but I have enough sins in Peters Black Book,I opted out...Took me two weeks to find another one...Roman God has it right,but this Lady is for the short term only,"You will shout me Coffee",says you are a bit beneath me,but will do until something better comes along....Hey give her a spin,see what happens,the good guts you are getting on this Site would say you reply...Reply,"Sure Why not?but we go Dutch"elsewise you will be always subservient,give that a try...

 

[slaog]

She certainly has a high opinion of herself or maybe just maybe she's trying hard not to appear too keen.

If I was you I would reply and tell her my terms for meeting... after I think about it! lol

 

[Nelford]

This sounds like a pure rebound. She got dumped and her self esteem is in the tank. She thinks she'll use you to worship her and after she feels better she'll LBJF you.

If you want to toy with her: Wait a minimum of 4 weeks and say something like
"Sorry for the delay; I kind of forgot who you were until I had that same printer problem yesterday and it reminded me who this email was from. So what's up? I've been (list some fun activities). I quit coffee this past spring, but thanks for the thought. Great hearing from you again; keep in touch!"

That should get her juices flowing.

That response is solid

 

[King of Action]

Wait 8 months and reply back

 

[cedd]

100% rebound and ego boost. Same as an exgirlfriend recontacting you after a while...

I don't even think I should bother with her, because her response is really late.

You dont have to bother with her, except if you want to meet her because she has a nice ass after all.

3 options:

1- you play the "game" and reply a couple of weeks later with some C+F, as DonS said...(see above)

2- reply in a couple of days, mentioning in a subtle way YOUR rules for a meeting but dont call on her crap. (even if you know for a fact that she wd use you for an ego boost)

3- You dont reply at all.

cheers

 

[jophil28]

I would wait a few days and reply back with something like the following....

You're way too late on the advice. I won the lottery and spent half of it on booze, cigs and poker.....then I wasted the rest.

But because you're so kind to offer making it up to me, you're welcome to take me out <pick a weeknight> to <insert local lounge> for a couple of drinks when I'm done at the gym.


Right now it's full game mode and you need to keep the frame. Who cares if you're rebound guy, get her infatuated with you and you can take the treasure while she still gets some level of validation.....but always remain in control and don't let her make hoops for you to jump through.

This is an opportunity to at least develop your game. Don't forget to push/pull.

Love it..

 

[iqqi]

I would wait a few days and reply back with something like the following....

You're way too late on the advice. I won the lottery and spent half of it on booze, cigs and poker.....then I wasted the rest.

But because you're so kind to offer making it up to me, you're welcome to take me out <pick a weeknight> to <insert local lounge> for a couple of drinks when I'm done at the gym.


Right now it's full game mode and you need to keep the frame. Who cares if you're rebound guy, get her infatuated with you and you can take the treasure while she still gets some level of validation.....but always remain in control and don't let her make hoops for you to jump through.

This is an opportunity to at least develop your game. Don't forget to push/pull.

I agree, THIS is gold right here. Some of the other ones were good too, but this is the best.



I'd also add on your first date that the next 8 months will be on her in terms of who pays for the coffee. And stick to that!

 

[ElChoclo]

Give the girl a break. She obviously must have liked you to remember you for 8 months. And I'm sure that you would have spent a lot more on futile attempts to obtain short term entertainment, than the price of a cup of coffee.

She has to play it a bit cool.

 

[DJ Noble]

Roll with Danger's post.. you can't lose.

Time to game her. Look at this chick as a bonus to whatever plates you are currently spinning. The mere fact that your email was in her inbox for 8 months says she sees you as someone she'd be willing sleep with. Play those cards right, have fun with it, and close the deal.

 

[Alexander the Great]

Eight months, djeez...

I once did so after two years. Guess what I heard back?

I'll chip in my support for responding with something similar to what Danger posted:

I would wait a few days and reply back with something like the following....

You're way too late on the advice. I won the lottery and spent half of it on booze, cigs and poker.....then I wasted the rest.

But because you're so kind to offer making it up to me, you're welcome to take me out <pick a weeknight> to <insert local lounge> for a couple of drinks when I'm done at the gym.


Right now it's full game mode and you need to keep the frame. Who cares if you're rebound guy, get her infatuated with you and you can take the treasure while she still gets some level of validation.....but always remain in control and don't let her make hoops for you to jump through.

This is an opportunity to at least develop your game. Don't forget to push/pull.

She'll reveal her true intentions by her actions (or inactions), if you know what I'm saying.

If she does respond, and if you are still interested, keep it light, tight and outside of your attachment zone in case you're just a rebound indeed. In that case, no harm done and you'll have some fun I hope.

If it's something more serious, who knows, keeping it light and tight game-wise will do no harm.

But it's my guess like the others that it's just a jolting of old branches. Usually, such sudden reopening of communications are indeed a lack of options and an activating of the lover's variant of the Old Boys Network.

Be very suspicious and even more cautious. Look out for and after yourself .

 

[BadsnakeUK]

I agree with ElChoclo to a point. However, turn things round and run some shyt tests on her (yes, they do work both ways). This should establish if she's just looking for some ego-validation. I think its a positive sign she remembered you after 8 months given the amount of branch swinging the average woman does, but its always worth doing the LSE/psycho/general standards screening.

I had an almost identical situation a while ago. I ran some shyt tests which she passed quite well but she started to get on my nerves a bit and had gone downhill looks wise since I originally met her so had a little fun then distanced myself. She's down as a reserve if times get lean but not a top notch one.

 

[J Roc]

you are the rebound guy. if you just want to have sex with her then reply back asap and set something up with her before she runs back to her ex. if you dont want to bone her just ignore the email.

 

[TruthTeller]

I agree with ElChoclo to a point. However, turn things round and run some shyt tests on her (yes, they do work both ways). This should establish if she's just looking for some ego-validation. I think its a positive sign she remembered you after 8 months given the amount of branch swinging the average woman does, but its always worth doing the LSE/psycho/general standards screening.

I had an almost identical situation a while ago. I ran some shyt tests which she passed quite well but she started to get on my nerves a bit and had gone downhill looks wise since I originally met her so had a little fun then distanced myself. She's down as a reserve if times get lean but not a top notch one.

what kind of sh1t test do you guys give a woman in this type of situation if they somehow creep back into your life with an email,text, or phone call???

 

[mrRuckus]

what kind of sh1t test do you guys give a woman in this type of situation if they somehow creep back into your life with an email,text, or phone call???

Why not just roll with it and see what happens just for the hell of it if nothing else?

I would, but i'm the type of guy that pokes at the bees' nest.