woman is crying and upset when she calls you, what to do?

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OK I hear a lot how you are not supposed to listen to a woman cry and whinge, but if she calls you, or you talk to her online, and she's crying because her ex came back and shouted at her or something, what do you do?

Some of the material is about being an a-hole which I don't really believe in, and I can't bring myself to try it.

If I want to listen, I'll listen, but that will make me an LJBF? If I don't want to listen, it will be an arsehole thing to say oops I'm busy and hang up?
 

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Treat the woman as if she wasn't crying. The only reason she's crying is because of an "overspill" of emotion. That's all it is. Listen to her, talk to her, make her laugh, and she'll eventually stop crying.

After you've been around tons of women bawling their eyes out, you get used to it.
 

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thanks for the quick reply...won't that make me a "nice guy" and put in the LJBF zone though?
 

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What desdinova is trying to say is "change the subject and cheer her up",an afc would "listen to the problem,try to give her advice,agree with her,accuse the ex about stuff etc",i think the difference is clear.
 

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GloriouslyInsane said:
What desdinova is trying to say is "change the subject and cheer her up",an afc would "listen to the problem,try to give her advice,agree with her,accuse the ex about stuff etc",i think the difference is clear.
I don't know about this. Maybe my hubby has me 'reconditioned' but he isn't responsible for my emotions, I am, I need to deal with them and keep them in check. When my tears begin to spill over he will be there, he will assist if they are related to or caused by him, but if they are NOT in his control he will not pamper and stroke, instead he'd tell me to take some time, go deal with this or do whatever I need to do.

If he were to confort and cheer then would he be inviting this behavior his way over and over again? He'd be saying, "Sure, consider me your kleenex."

Now, don't get me wrong, he isn't cold or cruel, he acknowledges that I am upset and he pushes ME to make it better. My emotions are MY resposibilities and something I should be able to control and deal with.

I feel if HER ex causes HER greif then SHE needs put on her big girl panties and deal with HIM. You don't have to hang up on her, but I think by telling her you have faith in her to get it straightened out and you know she is a big girl and can handle this, etc... will encourage her to take control of her life and your shirt will stay dryer. :)


Just a thought.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

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TheFlyingMan said:
OK I hear a lot how you are not supposed to listen to a woman cry and whinge, but if she calls you, or you talk to her online, and she's crying because her ex came back and shouted at her or something, what do you do?

If I want to listen, I'll listen, but that will make me an LJBF? If I don't want to listen, it will be an arsehole thing to say oops I'm busy and hang up?
What is your relationship to this girl?! It sounds to me like you are either dating her or you are her friend who wants to get more? (if you are already her friend then its too late for you, she sees you as one of her girlfriend's).

If you are just dating her and you are not her boyfriend then it is NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY TO LISTEN TO HER PROBLEMS. Your responsibility is to arrange a fun date activity in which you and her are going to have fun and in the end of the date you fvck her. Let her mother, sister, girlfriend or her other AFC male friends deal with this drama.

Why on earth would you want to listen to her talk about her relationship with her ex??? You are not in this picture. You are not being an a$$hole if you got better things to do (which you should be doing), which brings me to the reason as to why are you talking on the phone for hours or online?? This woman whom you are dating should NOT and I repeat NOT have the privilege of wasting your time because talking is a waste of time especially since she ain't your girlfriend. You get nothing out of it, while she gets to vent her anger, calms down and then think of you as a "sweet nice guy" and then goes to fvck her ex boyfriend who obviously rattles her more then you do.

Women are attracted to the "Strong Silent Type" for a reason. They let their actions do the talking more then their words.
 

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Tell her that sucking your penis will make it feel better. 100th post-W00t!!!!

:rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
 
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TheFlyingMan said:
OK I hear a lot how you are not supposed to listen to a woman cry and whinge, but if she calls you, or you talk to her online, and she's crying because her ex came back and shouted at her or something, what do you do?

Some of the material is about being an a-hole which I don't really believe in, and I can't bring myself to try it.

If I want to listen, I'll listen, but that will make me an LJBF? If I don't want to listen, it will be an arsehole thing to say oops I'm busy and hang up?
Are you her dad?Are you her boyfriend yet,or are you her physician?Are you one of her girl friends?You can listen but im asking you why???Out of the people why you?I think she thinks your her emotional buddie,I bet you next time she will ask you to come cook her food and have an all girls night sleep over!
 

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dreamxhenry_notAFC said:
Are you her dad?Are you her boyfriend yet,or are you her physician?Are you one of her girl friends?You can listen but im asking you why???Out of the people why you?I think she thinks your her emotional buddie,I bet you next time she will ask you to come cook her food and have an all girls night sleep over!
I don't advise taking advice from the above poster. He is a proven AFC.

Proof: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=105083
 
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Tell her that sucking your penis will make it feel better. 100th post-W00t!!!!

:rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon: :rockon:
LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 

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i'm not really her BF, I laid her a few weeks ago, but since that lay things have been kinda awkward because she still thinks about her ex all the time. So...halfway between friends and fvk buddy?
 

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HAH!!!

What the hell!? You're not her shrink. YOU'RE NOT EVEN HER BF!!!!!

Don't play Capt. Save-a-Ho.

Next time she calls you crying tell her this : "Uhuh...cool...I need to take care of something." *click*

She'll get the message.
 

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Are you a member at ESB, FlyingMan?
 

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I would invite her over and get into her head a bit and then fk her brains out.

I want a girl to associate me with positive things and I wouldnt wallow to long in her problems--- I would talk to her about it with the purpose of elevating the convo to something a little more light hearted.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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ROYALTY Has Spoken....

Ha ha ha (Laughin'). If I were you I would laugh, laugh very very hard and call her up on her shhhhhh. ROYALTY was in a similar situation. See i used to work with a couple of months ago. She had just broken up with her Boyfriend of 6yrs because he was cheating on her. She would go around the office crying and whining all day lookin' for sympathy from every single body. At first i did not know why she was crying, until she came up to the KING and Mr Nice Guy(the KING's workmate, the ultimate nice guy very respectable and agreeable to women, sounds like you to be honest).

She told us her story and she started going on and on about how guys are DOGS, JERKS, A**holes you name it, she said it all. And to the rescue! BOOM, Poor Mr Nice Guy jumps in, gives her a very biiiiiiig hug plus a shoulder to cry on of course and not forgetting what he said "His such a Jerk how could he, doesn't he know how beautiful you are, you are a very beautiful girl you can do better than that"(keep in mind the KING was quiet all this time watching this transpire from a safe distance). After she was done crying she turned to the KING and gave him that kind of look that says 'Hey you, what do you think'. I gave her 4 $imple words 'Its in our nature', she didn't say a word and she kept on lookin at ROYALTY, and the KING went on, 'you see my lady may be the problem is you, (she frownd, ROYALTY remained calm). We men of this land will only date you for only 2 reasons never 3, either for SEX or because you are attractive, and when they both go away, meaning the SEX is no longer there or mother nature has taken her toll on your on beauty, we shall find ulterior motives to compensate for this short fall, thus cheat'. She was infuriated, very infuriated. Her face went red, pure blood red. She started throwing things around the room showing her true colors. But ROYALTY being of a higher etiquette remained calm. And once again BOOM, Mr Nice GUY out of nowhere jumps to her defence 'how can you say that'. And BOOM! She jumps in too, and calls me an arrogant jerk' and she walks out the room raging mad and the KING smiles.

A week or 2 later she sent an old lady with her number to come and plead with ROYALTY so that i would call her ha ha ha, who me! Does she know who i am ha!

AS for you me lad Never, ever be that man. Never! You are a man not a wo-man. Get it! Thats the job of her lady friends to listen her and console her. Situations like these (long conversations, spending over 5 minutes on the telephone, having things in common with her etc) are a death trap for many men just like you. You should not fall into this trap and you can do this by just simply walking away me lad just walking away and thus the fruits of moother nature herself will come runnin' to you.
ha ha ha!

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Got that problem with my GF. Lissed on all her crying ****, and her IL constantly droped, as much as she turned her phone off and, havent heard from her as long as last wensday. Now i got an sms she miss me like crazy. So i think of Next her or eventually be an jerk against her.
 
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