While this is obvious on the surface, what's unspoken is that any chick explicitly saying this has set an unreasonably high bar for this "chemistry" without telling you how high it is.
"Precisely" she says, while omitting the part about the unreasonably high standards. Convenient
I don’t disagree with this point. My biggest gripe is that women tend to judge a guy’s vibe on the first or second date which I think is pointless and silly. IDK what magnificent spark you are looking for on the literal first date, but that’s insane. Sure, I could pull a psychopathic move and fake this spark, but that does not benefit you or me. The only guys with this spark on the first date are going to be good actors aka psychopaths!
So this is "your" truth that you're extending to an entire gender. Well done, Cats!
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
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Sorry I missed the word "many" in that word salad of yours. Efficiency of expression is your friend, Cats.
No breaks for scraggly cats.
Where I am insulting you, Cats? Bad flea day today?YOU are the one engaging me, lol. If you don't want to hear, then (1] don't engage me by responding to my posts with insults or nonsense you know nothing about or (2) you STFU, strawman arguments and insults go both ways.
I feel like this "chemistry", "spark", "vibe" is just a fancy way of saying I am attracted to psychopaths. I used to be so frustrated on receiving the "no spark" after the first date or getting ghosted, but then I started to notice that these girls stayed single or went thru broken relationship after broken relationship. I have even had the honor of having flings/dating these women and they all had PTSD from being screwed over by some anomaly extraordinary man in the past. Like @BillyPilgrim said, I could easily manipulate this intangible energy to pass this "vibe" sniff test because I know what it is. It is just frustrating to have a decent mutual first or second date with someone and it be wasted by this crap lol.
......and who are not willing to wait more than one date (on someone else's dime and time) to see if it naturally develops over time. This is why Hopeless Romantics are called "Hopeless". If you meet them socially it's one thing, but they are to be avoided at all costs when encountered over an online app.
Stopped at the first line. Jake was clearly talking about one-and-done date scenarios. You didn't purposefully mismatch the contexts to generate further discussion, did you?
This sounds like an attraction to a particular dark triad male like the Tinder Swindler/Christian Grey. These men are basically the white collar/more professional versions of "bad boys". Coach Greg Adams coined the term Tupac with a degree which I found hilarious too. These men carry themselves a certain way and are good at giving out good first impressions of themselves to fool others. These women become obsessed with trying to lock down "Tupac with a degree" or "Christian Grey" and get nothing out of it but a high notch count, inability to pair bond, and mental trauma.
Welcome to SoSuave. But the good mostly outweighs the bad or we wouldnt be here.
I don’t know your husband. Personally you could’ve given up and settled down. There’s a Netflix show about this called Sex/Life. I’m just giving you the type of msn you described in your description of the spark.
Not waste my time obviously. Either way, you are wasting a man’s time going in a first date regardless. Most of these women are considered serial daters and are too damaged to properly pair bond anymore. Hence, why I don’t even bother dealing with them anymore. However, there’s always going to be fresh meat men that have the unfortunate circumstance of encountering one.
What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.
You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.
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I have no issue with chemistry. My issue is when broken hopeless romantic women become serial daters and use finding “the spark” as an excuse to do so. At this point, you are just searching for a certain dark triad man and wasting guys time and money.
This is my main gripe as well but Cats needs a 3 POST rule too.
Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.
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