Will I ever achieve my dream of being a DJ? Not in this lifetime.

[Viper]

I'm never going to achieve the dream of being who I want to be, a Don Juan. I'm depressed, I have no confidence, I'm not happy, I can't push myself to approach woman, I'm not funny, I'm NEVER happy, I never feel good, nothing ever gives me a rush, I lack motivation, I have good looks and I'm good at saxophone, but that won't help me achieve my dream of being the guy every girl in the school wants to ****. That's who I want to be, the guy who's tough and ****y, but still knows how to make almost every girl interested, without being too aggresive. I want to be that guys who's confident about himself, gets the ladies, has drives, has motivations, doesn't care what people who don't know **** about him think, is happy with himself, is busy and basically, enjoys life. Currently, except for band, my life out of school is basically the same boring **** every day:
Monday = Catch the bus, go to school from around 7:20AM to 2:25PM. Take the bus and get home at around 3:00PM. From around 3:00PM-5:00PM I sit around browsing the internet, watching TV, playing Video Games. Around 5:00PM-7:00PM I work out, then eat after that. Then I do the same old ****, until I fall asleep.
Tuesday = Same as Monday, minus working out.
Wednesday = Same as Monday and Tuesday up until 3:00PM. Get home from school and workout from around 3:00PM-5:00PM. Around 5:00PM I get ready for band rehearsal, basically all I really do to get ready is washup, put on some new underwear and wear the same clothes I wore to school that day, that is, if they're not dirty. Then around 6:00, my mother or my friends mother(My friend, who is also in band, goes with us), takes us to Band Rehearsal which is from around 6:30-9:00PM. Then I go home and do the same boring ****, until I decide to go to sleep.
Thursday = Same old boring **** as Monday and Tuesday.
Friday = Same as Wednesday, but instead of Rehearsal we perform at our schools Football Game. Even though our team sucks, alot of people come to the games to support the team, alot of good social oppurtunities. These games are usually from around 6:30-10:00PM, after that, I go home and do the same old ****.
Saturday: Same old ****, the weekends are even more boring for me, because I don't have school. Why do I like school? It gives me something to do other than sit on my ass browsing the internet all day. Another good reason is that I'm alone in my room for most of the day, school, however, HAS PEOPLE, HAS INTERACTIVITY AND IS A SOCIAL PLACE.
Sunday: Same old ****.

As you can see, away from band, I have a pretty boring life when I'm not in school. I want to change that, I want to become active, I want to meet new people, I'm tired of being bored, lonely and depressed, to the point that the only way I can get a rise, is masturbating. I want to feel that I have a purpose in life, I want to feel that I have a reason for living, I don't want to feel like I'm just a pointless waste of air, like I do.

 

[Docs]

I'm not trying to be mean or anything but...you know where you sit on your ass all weekend long...

'Get a Life'


ie) get a few buddies and go downtown, explore what stuff is down there (pickup).

Play some pool, go to a more popular gym

Talk to a lot of people, get your conversation skills up (pickup)

Don't be afraid of rejection

Be determined to talk to at least 3 girls a day, no matter the outcome.

Pull out the saxophone in the middle of the hall and do some imitations of shows/songs.

You got lots of potential ^^.

 

[arutha]

Well I know precisely what you mean, and all I can say is do what you are doing and wait for things to naturally improve. They will, I was mostly the same except I wasn't in a band and now... Well not much has changed, but at least I'm happier and better in social situations when they arrise, which is far more often than they used to.

Do stuff with your friends, focus on what you enjoy doing, and let things unfold on their own. It will happen soon enough, most probably when you hit uni/college.

 

[Viper]

I'm not trying to be mean or anything but...you know where you sit on your ass all weekend long...

'Get a Life'


ie) get a few buddies and go downtown, explore what stuff is down there (pickup).

Play some pool, go to a more popular gym

Talk to a lot of people, get your conversation skills up (pickup)

Don't be afraid of rejection

Be determined to talk to at least 3 girls a day, no matter the outcome.

Pull out the saxophone in the middle of the hall and do some imitations of shows/songs.

You got lots of potential ^^.

Don't worry, your not being mean by saying get a life, your just being honest and yeah, you're right, I definitely need to get a life. I would go places like the gym and stuff, but most of them are a good 10-15 minutes away from my home and I don't know anybody who could give me a ride, other than my parents, who are usually at work until around 6:00PM. Also around here, it's not very safe to walk from place to place, since there are alot of busy streets, but not alot of sidewalks outside our housing development for a good 7 or 8 miles.

Well I know precisely what you mean, and all I can say is do what you are doing and wait for things to naturally improve. They will, I was mostly the same except I wasn't in a band and now... Well not much has changed, but at least I'm happier and better in social situations when they arrise, which is far more often than they used to.

Do stuff with your friends, focus on what you enjoy doing, and let things unfold on their own. It will happen soon enough, most probably when you hit uni/college.

Wow, uni/college, that's a bit longer than I'm willing to wait. For one, there are alot of junior and senior girls I have my eyes on, the seniors will be gone next year and next year will be the, now juniors, last year. But I suppose, it's better than not having happiness at all.

 

[Docs]

I definitely need to get a life. I would go places like the gym and stuff, but most of them are a good 10-15 minutes away from my home and I don't know anybody who could give me a ride, other than my parents, who are usually at work until around 6:00PM. Also around here, it's not very safe to walk from place to place, since there are alot of busy streets, but not alot of sidewalks outside our housing development for a good 7 or 8 miles.

Get a Bike. 10-15 minutes by car is nothing.

Busy streets/notalot of sidewalks. Grab your balls and learn how to ride alongside the road. I'm one hell of a person on a bike when it comes to traffic. ^^

 

[familyguyfan]

The fact that you're going to the gym and stuff means your showing improvement. That's good.

Now, I know you've said in previous threads that you don't care about having guy friends, you just want girls. Well listen to me when I say that YOU WILL NOT GET ANY GIRLS IF YOU DON'T HAVE ANY FRIENDS! Getting some friends is THE single most important thing for you right now I believe. More important than getting girls. That has to come later once you get happier with yourself, which you will once you get some friends. Try calling up some of the people you know from band or your classes to hang out one weekend. Since you play the sax, ask some kids if they want to jam one weekend. Getting friends is important for you right now because girls aren't interested in guys that don't have friends, you will be much happier, and you will gain valuable social skills that will help you with getting girls. Because how can you expect yourself to be social with girls if you can't with guys?

And guess what, when you have school, weekdays are supposed to be boring. Almost nobody goes out to do stuff on weekdays. Most people at my school just go to after school practices, do homework, watch TV, etc. on school nights. Not many go out. So you're not missing out on much on the weekdays. Your weekends will be much more fun when you make some friends.


And if you respond to this with more crap about how you don't want or need any friends, just girls, then I'm sorry but no one here can help you. You won't ever be happy or get any girls if you don't make friends first.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by mizter6
just wake up will u!! i started WAY DOWN IN THE DRAIN TOO!!! now i know more girls than i did pre-dj years improvement comes from time and ur determination

Oh, so you're saying the only way I can improve my motivation, my drive, my life, my happiness, my humor and my confidence, is by approaching girls? I don't think so. Self confidence before girls.

 

[Docs]

self confidence and meeting girls go hand in hand. you can say 'i'm confident, i can mow down the town with my groove', but it means sweet ****-all when you go out and try to do it.

You'll gain confidence by being with girls and friends, trust me, it's the biggest thing you can do to help yourself.

 

[08aisaac]

Damnit, Do you have AIM or Yahoo or MSN? This is where I help the majority of the people that I help. lol.

Well I have some suggestions that can help.

Firstly, cut out all the TV. I mean TV's good and all, and I do occasionally watch some movies, and I hart the OC, don't make fun of me, but I don't watch TV but maybe like 2 times a week, and movies don't count. lol.

Stop trying to get girls, and try on getting friends. I mean don't be afraid of rejection. Get some guys MSN or something. I know you are online as I write this, so you could be on MSN. lol. I am on my computer all the time, because I do computer **** like programming. But maybe you should slowly start edging over to be on the phone all the time, talking to your friends, and all the girls that want to **** you.

I assume you have a new wardrobe? While clothes don't matter all that much when you try to get a chick, if you have some nice clothes, then you will feel better about yourself. Do you hear me? Clothes don't matter, and neither do looks. They can help, but there are other ways.

Start living for yourself. Start learning some amazing skill. I played baritone in band for 6 years, and that really gave me a confidence boost, and since I was so fu<king amazing, I felt good about myself. I also know some basic Martial Arts, so I can beat the average guys ass. I can do anything on a computer, and I am a great gamer. Bet I could beat you in a deathmatch of Goldeneye. I also could debate anyone into the ground. Become smart, and realize that you know more then anyone in your class. You probaly do.

Those are some of the basics, IMO. Some other things you can do:

umm well walking really is cool.

Learn how to be good at a sport, like I can play Pool, and basketball, so that whenever a girl wants to know about my sports, well there's something great I can do.

Just change your life for the better.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by 08aisaac
Damnit, Do you have AIM or Yahoo or MSN? This is where I help the majority of the people that I help. lol.

Well I have some suggestions that can help.

Firstly, cut out all the TV. I mean TV's good and all, and I do occasionally watch some movies, and I hart the OC, don't make fun of me, but I don't watch TV but maybe like 2 times a week, and movies don't count. lol.

Stop trying to get girls, and try on getting friends. I mean don't be afraid of rejection. Get some guys MSN or something. I know you are online as I write this, so you could be on MSN. lol. I am on my computer all the time, because I do computer **** like programming. But maybe you should slowly start edging over to be on the phone all the time, talking to your friends, and all the girls that want to **** you.

I assume you have a new wardrobe? While clothes don't matter all that much when you try to get a chick, if you have some nice clothes, then you will feel better about yourself. Do you hear me? Clothes don't matter, and neither do looks. They can help, but there are other ways.

Start living for yourself. Start learning some amazing skill. I played baritone in band for 6 years, and that really gave me a confidence boost, and since I was so fu<king amazing, I felt good about myself. I also know some basic Martial Arts, so I can beat the average guys ass. I can do anything on a computer, and I am a great gamer. Bet I could beat you in a deathmatch of Goldeneye. I also could debate anyone into the ground. Become smart, and realize that you know more then anyone in your class. You probaly do.

Those are some of the basics, IMO. Some other things you can do:

umm well walking really is cool.

Learn how to be good at a sport, like I can play Pool, and basketball, so that whenever a girl wants to know about my sports, well there's something great I can do.

Just change your life for the better.

Yes, I have both an AIM and an MSN, PM me and I'll give it to you. I'll try to get friends, but to tell you the truth rejection isn't what I'm afraid of. I'm just afraid that saying "Hey, how's it going?" to a girl that I already know sounds a bit corny because first of all, I don't really care "How's it going", I just want to get to know her and eventually, get her in bed. For instance, there's this senior girl in marching band, her name's Roxanne, say she's about an HB 7 and we're in the same sqaud, which obviously means we both play Alto Saxophone. I've been wanting to get to know this girl for a long time, but I don't know what the hell I would talk to her about. Plus, it would seem a little weird if I tried to hit on our sqaud leader.
Also with band and all, I don't think I would have any time for sports that I'm interested in, such as basketball or football.

 

[oakraiderz2]

Originally posted by Viper
I don't really care "How's it going", I just want to get to know her and eventually, get her in bed. For instance, there's this senior girl in marching band, her name's Roxanne, say she's about an HB 7 and we're in the same sqaud, which obviously means we both play Alto Saxophone. I've been wanting to get to know this girl for a long time, but I don't know what the hell I would talk to her about. Plus, it would seem a little weird if I tried to hit on our sqaud leader.

My son, Rome wasnt built in a day...you gotta walk before you can crawl. You only wanna know how to get her into bed?? Im kinda confused...you dont wanna ask her how its going to get the ball rolling, yet you wanna get her in bed?? And at the same time you dont know what to talk about?? Honestly i think youre making bullsh*t excuses. Are you gonna float thru life being sad and depressed because you cant get girls?? Stop focusing so much on girls and focus on yourself. Dont think about all these things sooo much cause youre gonna psyche yourself out.

Take some time and think about some hobbies that interest you and focus on them. Instead of trying so hard to make friends, join some clubs so you can meet people with the same interest. Instead of being sad and depressed like a girl who found out shes pregnant, get a little pissed off. I remember my baskerball coach told me dont be afraid to get pissed off. When things arent going you dont mope about it, get mad and change things.

I also think you need to focus on one thing instead of worrying about an entire process thats not gonna happen over night. Be patinent and build yourself one brick at a time.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by oakraiderz2
My son, Rome wasnt built in a day...you gotta walk before you can crawl. You only wanna know how to get her into bed?? Im kinda confused...you dont wanna ask her how its going to get the ball rolling, yet you wanna get her in bed?? And at the same time you dont know what to talk about?? Honestly i think youre making bullsh*t excuses. Are you gonna float thru life being sad and depressed because you cant get girls?? Stop focusing so much on girls and focus on yourself. Dont think about all these things sooo much cause youre gonna psyche yourself out.

Take some time and think about some hobbies that interest you and focus on them. Instead of trying so hard to make friends, join some clubs so you can meet people with the same interest. Instead of being sad and depressed like a girl who found out shes pregnant, get a little pissed off. I remember my baskerball coach told me dont be afraid to get pissed off. When things arent going you dont mope about it, get mad and change things.

I also think you need to focus on one thing instead of worrying about an entire process thats not gonna happen over night. Be patinent and build yourself one brick at a time.

The **** dude, I just said "Hey, How's it 's going" sounds corny when talking to a girl you already know and yes, it does. Plus, really, why would I want to know "How's it going?" that's like hiding my intentions or something, I'm NEVER going to get to know her with a line like "How's it going?", it also sounds a little bit too "soft" for me, like I need a more tough, aggresive opener.
Other than that, I really liked the advice. I'm going to stop crying and moping about this bull**** and do something about it.

 

[08aisaac]

Oakraiders is a pimp, he knows what he is talking about.

Did you get my PM?

Really, why do you care if it sounds corny? And I assure you it doesn't.

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by 08aisaac
Oakraiders is a pimp, he knows what he is talking about.

Did you get my PM?

Really, why do you care if it sounds corny? And I assure you it doesn't.

Why do I care? Because if it sounds corny she will not take me seriously or she'll think I'm too soft. Especially when dealing with hotter girls who have a lot of confidence in themselves. They would probably be like "Well he's very convincing with the tough guy act, but with a voice like that, he can't be serious.".

 

[08aisaac]

They will take you serious, because they have no choice.

Hitler was short, so I don't think I will take him seriusly.

G Bush is not the greatest conversationalist, so I won't take him seriously.

Point is, people take you seriously, because they are insecure.

You seem to be taking them seriously, and you shouldn't. Stop insecurity. Do whatever you want.

Did you know that I read 17 magizine? Yes I do, always have, and it's actually my sister's, but I like the stories, and beauty tips.

Do you think I would read it if I cared what people would think of me? I wouldn't. Point is, do whatever the **** you want, people will forget about what you do, or they will like you even more for it.

 

[TheNewGuy]

Alright man, you always post your whiny little stories. I saw the title and I immediately thought "I bet Viper wrote that". I was right.

You have the potential, you have the ability. What you DON'T have is the balls. You are too much of a little pussy to actually try. You are scared. You don't want to WORK for what you want.

I hope this pisses you off. Maybe it will piss you off enough to prove me wrong, but until you get balls you, sir, are not doing jack-shit.

 

[Docs]

Why do I care? Because if it sounds corny she will not take me seriously or she'll think I'm too soft. Especially when dealing with hotter girls who have a lot of confidence in themselves. They would probably be like "Well he's very convincing with the tough guy act, but with a voice like that, he can't be serious.".

-_-...

"Hey, how is it going?" is not corny. It's a natural thing to say, because you'll always receive some kind of response that can tell you her mood, her interest at the moment, etc. From there, you can branch off into different topics.

It's not about being tough all the time, show a little bit of softness.

 

[MVP¤¥¤JI€GALO]

Originally posted by TheNewGuy
Alright man, you always post your whiny little stories. I saw the title and I immediately thought "I bet Viper wrote that". I was right.

You have the potential, you have the ability. What you DON'T have is the balls. You are too much of a little pussy to actually try. You are scared. You don't want to WORK for what you want.

I hope this pisses you off. Maybe it will piss you off enough to prove me wrong, but until you get balls you, sir, are not doing jack-shit.

damn thats alittle harsh even if its the truth.
Viper, I think the prob with u is that u spent to much of ur time focusin on escapin reality through tv and the comp simpily cus u dont want to socielise or get in touch with society. Get some friends and go do some golfin or some kind of sport. I play football and it takes up all the time so its rare for me to find time to watch t.v or get on the comp. Also its great for building up your rep and muscle. So get into sport not band! where is band gonna get u?

 

[brenbaus]

Originally posted by Docs
-_-...

"Hey, how is it going?" is not corny. It's a natural thing to say, because you'll always receive some kind of response that can tell you her mood, her interest at the moment, etc. From there, you can branch off into different topics.

It's not about being tough all the time, show a little bit of softness.

Just to clarify, this does not mean to be a total wuss all the time , you can show girls/women that you are emotional, just not too much!

 

[Viper]

Originally posted by Soniq_red
Obviously Viper doesn't understand the concept of DJing he'll never be worth ****, his purpose of DJing is to get ***** not to improve himself. He doesn't believe C&F works, he ignores the tips we give, and then makes more threads on how he can't work it.

You sir, are a presumative *****. Get out of my thread if you don't like it, no wants to hear your complaining. But I'm going to be a nice guy here and say something positive, good advice, since our school has alot of after school clubs/activities, I could probably join a few of them, long as it doesn't interfere with band.