Why we go on online dating sites even though it sucks

[Eternal_water]

I don't do the online thing, I see it as just a source of ego boosting for women and nothing more.

 

[Tictac]

In my 20s and 30s, I spent my time in bars, clubs and such. And you should too.

Life is more full and complicated now. And women in their 40s and up aren't in your kiddie venues.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=60299860

The next time you get a date with a 44-year old woman that looks and writes like this, let me know.

 

[Solomon]

In my 20s and 30s, I spent my time in bars, clubs and such. And you should too.

Life is more full and complicated now. And women in their 40s and up aren't in your kiddie venues.

http://www.pof.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=60299860

The next time you get a date with a 44-year old woman that looks and writes like this, let me know.

OK so are you trying to say that you banged or dated her? If so for how long?

 

[Tictac]

Been out twice.

Her place, tonight.

 

[Solomon]

Been out twice.

Her place, tonight.

I salute you sir

Good luck on the close

However I agree with you and let me empahize if you're in your 20's and 30's there is no reason NOT to meet women IRL to supplement your online game.

If you're 40 plus I don't see anything wrong with it although you can still meet women thru dance classes, yoga and social circles

 

[Tictac]

I've never understood why younger folk of either sex would spend time online. Too many IRL venues and opportunities and the time to pursue them.

 

[Solomon]

I've never understood why younger folk of either sex would spend time online. Too many IRL venues and opportunities and the time to pursue them.

Agreed

For women I've noticed a couple things. I live in a town that's about a little over 500,000 people(not big). I fortunatley know a lot of people due to my networking and gaming.

Most of the women who use online dating. Are overweight, plain janes, single mothers, or known town sluts. The women I've noticed IRL don't get approached by men beause they are not attractive in the last month I ran into 4 women who I either know are on online dating sites or use to be within the last year

2 of the women I actually banged before and have put on 30-40 Pounds in a year. One went from a 5 to a 3 and the other went from a 6.5 to a 4

1 of the women was overweight

Another one of those women always goes to the same bar (and I never see her get approached)

These women were not getting approached by men only their beaitiful friends

 

[Iceberg]

This thread use to come up monthly now daily almost...I posted this in another thread

Unless your really good looking you're not banging 7+'s on the regular via online dating

Let's be honest How many guys on this site are "cut up" or "Jacked up" if most of us were we probably wouldn't have problems online dating or dating women in general. Should you work out and be in the best shape possible? of course but if that's the reality then you wouldn't need online dating.

Well, I'm not "jacked up" but I'm a good looking guy who pulls 7's and up from dating sites. Honestly, I think it's a Sosuave myth that you have to be 3% body fat to pull girls. You just have to not be ridiculously out of shape. As in...you have to apply SOME effort to your physique....but it doesn't have to be the foundation of your existence.

The thing about online is that..yes, you're gonna be judged by your pictures. So if you're a combination of bad looking AND a terrible writer, then you're screwed. Chubby dudes with a heart of gold will get no love on online dating.

The benefit of online dating for me is, I'm in my 30's, I don't like hitting up bars and clubs 5 nights per week, and when I AM out with my friends, I sometimes like to enjoy their company instead of chatting up random broads. But that's my life. I can understand if you feel differently.

Agreed

For women I've noticed a couple things. I live in a town that's about a little over 500,000 people(not big). I fortunatley know a lot of people due to my networking and gaming.

Most of the women who use online dating. Are overweight, plain janes, single mothers, or known town sluts.

Yeah I could see how that could be true for smaller towns. Limited dating pool. People probably get married off quicker too. I live in NYC, so the pool is a little deeper and the women are a little hotter than other places.

Even when I lived in a smaller city, these random walruses would message me. And I'm thinking, "in what world do you think that I'd go out on a date with you?" Moving to a bigger city will do wonders for the quality of women you can grab off of online dating.

If I lived in a smaller town, I don't know what i'd do. Hang out near the college campuses, I guess. It's the only area you'd be guaranteed a stream of new women.

 

[Solomon]

The benefit of online dating for me is, I'm in my 30's, I don't like hitting up bars and clubs 5 nights per week, and when I AM out with my friends, I sometimes like to enjoy their company instead of chatting up random broads. But that's my life. I can understand if you feel differently.


Yeah I could see how that could be true for smaller towns. Limited dating pool. People probably get married off quicker too. I live in NYC, so the pool is a little deeper and the women are a little hotter than other places.

Even when I lived in a smaller city, these random walruses would message me. And I'm thinking, "in what world do you think that I'd go out on a date with you?" Moving to a bigger city will do wonders for the quality of women you can grab off of online dating.

If I lived in a smaller town, I don't know what i'd do. Hang out near the college campuses, I guess. It's the only area you'd be guaranteed a stream of new women.

If only dating works for you brah, Kudos, I have nothing agaisnt online dating. I use it when I need to bust a slump but for me it just doesn't make sense and I've posted in detail why.

I have a buddy In NYC who cleans up house online dating as well. I'm pretty sure in a big town it's different but for a guy like me in a small town online dating is horrible. I remember a year ago when NN was "tweakng" my profile and he had menioned how "horrid" the women looked in my town.

At the end of the day Iceberg, I'm with you on approaching. I don't care for it anymore even though I use to enjoy it and even wrote FR's on it. But the truth is living in a town with less then a million people. Online dating isn't gonna get me the type of women that I want

Kudos to you and other guys who are winning online

 

[Robert28]

I could argue that online dating is more efficient, because the girls are guaranteed to be single. If you cold approach, there's what, a 75% chance she has a boyfriend? (I'm assuming you are approaching attractive women, not ugly ones)

If I were still in college, then yes, I would just talk to the girls in school. But post-graduation it is much, much more difficult to meet women who are single and actually compatible with you.

You're fooling yourself if you think girls online are guaranteed to be single. It would blow your mind if you took 10 girls from online and gave them a lie detector test about if they were really single or not.

 

[BeDJ]

Kudos to you and other guys who are winning online

I was winning until an autistic chick in a wheelchair messaged me. I closed my laptop and got the fvck outta dodge.

 

[Robert28]

I was winning until an autistic chick in a wheelchair messaged me. I closed my laptop and got the fvck outta dodge.

It was amazing how many mega whales would message me when I had my real pics up, but when I experimented with a fake profile they would leave me alone and girls I'd actually be interested in would email me all the time. That was a kick to the nvts because I don't get bothered by whales in real life so wtf makes them come after me online? Why did they think I was on their level but yet the fake guy they didn't bother with because they knew he wasn't on their level.

 

[OldGoat]

Ive always been afraid of women. offline or online. I can act cool and macho or whatever but very attractive women intimidate me. I don't talk to women much though they talk to me. and than I run away and hide in my shell. online dating sites is pretty depressing. imo

 

[floydb25]

Ive always been afraid of women. offline or online. I can act cool and macho or whatever but very attractive women intimidate me. I don't talk to women much though they talk to me. and than I run away and hide in my shell. online dating sites is pretty depressing. imo

I used to be like this, until I realized that most of them aren't worth a damn. Then it changed from fear to disgust & not giving a ****. Which, ironically, works to attract them... which just makes you respect them less.

Same with all those douchey fags who think they're cool by acting like retarded monkeys and bringing others down. They're not cool AT ALL, and their approval is irrelevant. They're just straight up losers who suck at life, and have NOTHING going for them. They're desperate to fit in and be accepted, and spend ALL of their time acting & bullying in front of others. They're also big time haters.

Likewise for hotties... they're just as shallow, ignorant, deluded, cliquey, egotistical, stuck up, insecure, and worthless as all these jackasses. They get turned off by fear (ie, inferiority), yet seek the approval of an assh0le, bully, or player (ie, superiority). They also bully / use / play beta's and nice guys... Don't you see? They're the same as all the aforementioned jackasses. Fake and weak.

People ain't ****, man. No reason to fear, seek the approval of, or tolerate crap treatment from ANYONE. The only ones who put you in this mindset (due to their stuck up, superior nature) are usually the worst - and most insecure, failure-ridden of the lot.

Most hotties are just straight up trash. If they weren't - people wouldn't be complaining about them all the time... even insofar as how they're only good for sex; being slutty and shallow; having to act a certain way to attract them; what they are attracted to in general; and their general way of being (ie, worthless and ****ty). Attracting them doesn't change who they are.

Don't be pedestalizing retards who only THINK they're something special - due to all the attention, favor, compliments, etc they receive. Truth is, most of them aren't worth a damn - all they care about is hot, sex, and money. Being or having these things doesn't change ****, either. In fact, it's the ONLY reason they like you. Why fear someone like this?

 

[Solomon]

I used to be like this, until I realized that most of them aren't worth a damn. Then it changed from fear to disgust & not giving a ****. Which, ironically, works to attract them... which just makes you respect them less.

Same with all those douchey fags who think they're cool by acting like retarded monkeys and bringing others down. They're not cool AT ALL, and their approval is irrelevant. They're just straight up losers who suck at life, and have NOTHING going for them. They're desperate to fit in and be accepted, and spend ALL of their time acting & bullying in front of others. They're also big time haters.

Likewise for hotties... they're just as shallow, ignorant, deluded, cliquey, egotistical, stuck up, insecure, and worthless as all these jackasses. They get turned off by fear (ie, inferiority), yet seek the approval of an assh0le, bully, or player (ie, superiority). They also bully / use / play beta's and nice guys... Don't you see? They're the same as all the aforementioned jackasses. Fake and weak.

People ain't ****, man. No reason to fear, seek the approval of, or tolerate crap treatment from ANYONE. The only ones who put you in this mindset (due to their stuck up, superior nature) are usually the worst - and most insecure, failure-ridden of the lot.

Most hotties are just straight up trash. If they weren't - people wouldn't be complaining about them all the time... even insofar as how they're only good for sex; being slutty and shallow; having to act a certain way to attract them; what they are attracted to in general; and their general way of being (ie, worthless and ****ty). Attracting them doesn't change who they are.

Don't be pedestalizing retards who only THINK they're something special - due to all the attention, favor, compliments, etc they receive. Truth is, most of them aren't worth a damn - all they care about is hot, sex, and money. Being or having these things doesn't change ****, either. In fact, it's the ONLY reason they like you. Why fear someone like this?

No disrespect floyd your posts all sound the same, what does this have to do with online dating?

Do you presue women? and if you avoid "hotties" where do you find women?

NOt trying to flame just curious

 

[OldGoat]

I used to be like this, until I realized that most of them aren't worth a damn. Then it changed from fear to disgust & not giving a ****. Which, ironically, works to attract them... which just makes you respect them less.
In fact, it's the ONLY reason they like you. Why fear someone like this?

Damn. Yeah man ive always been a nervous guy since being a little kid. Theres reasons. I just need to get past it. I hardly ever see many attractive women in my area on dating sites. If I do its very difficult to get even their attention. Occasionally If im lucky ill get a hb7+ send me meetup but not vey often. I hate approaching and it doesn't feel natural.

so do you bother talking to hot babes? Ive noticed that when Im wasting time approaching them and not focusing on other areas theyre less likely to be interested.

 

[BeDJ]

http://ak3.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/150x150/558x800/292x348/855x911/0/2277888652282646925.webp

http://imgur.com/9D2BRwV
FTFY

Take off the 'p' from the end of your link.

 

[floydb25]

No disrespect floyd your posts all sound the same, what does this have to do with online dating?

Do you presue women? and if you avoid "hotties" where do you find women?

NOt trying to flame just curious

That's because the topic is always the same, but by different people. I was responding to a particular comment / poster, so it has nothing to do with online dating per se. Dude said he was afraid of hotties - I told him to knock it off, 'cause most of them are ****... for the same reason that everyone pedestalizes them, and makes them a prize. ****, even peers and the opposite sex judge you based on the hotties you get. Everyone's obsessed with leagues and looks, and it makes people feel inferior and depressed for no reason. It also results in the hotties being ****. So yea, bad cycle we got going on.

To put it another way:

Hotties = Iraq Weapons of Mass Destruction

Yea, see how that worked? Gotta keep reminding people.

 

[Stagger Lee]

This is the HB4 girl that just messaged me on OKC for a date:

http://ak3.okccdn.com/php/load_okc_...800/292x348/855x911/0/2277888652282646925.web

I've never gotten an online number from anyone significantly better looking than her. One 5.5.

I'm supposed to go out on a date with her when I've dated/am currently banging these two from the real world?

(she actually has a great rack too)

(yes those are D's)

Btw both of the above have succumbed to online dating.

Like a hurricane is fueled by warm waters, female hypergamy is fueled by male availability/attention. So tropical storm Anna goes O.L. Dating (slvtting) and turns into a Category 5 :crackup: .

Male availabity goes to max levels when a female goes online. Not even a real life drunken sausage fest venue holds a candle to it.