Why is the b1tch doing this?

[Jariel]

The ex-girlfriend I have moaned about a lot on these boards appears to be manipulating my best friend. She is clinging to him (he is her only remaining friend) and today she was flirting with him right in front of me. She also keeps talking about all the guys she's snogged and wants to have sex with while I'm right there.

I could understand if I had hurt or dumped her, but she dumped me, so anyone know why she is pulling this sh1t and how to deal with it?

 

[WesCottII]

Keep her dominance perhaps? Do you show her that you are bothered in the slightest by her dumping you? If not she's asserting herself.

 

[Yuriy777]

The best I could recommend is to just dead it and ignore her. If she persists it probably won't be for long. She might just want attention whether good or bad from you or your best friend.

Remember as kids when you would do things just to get a rise out of people.
Perhaps she just hasn't grown up yet.

 

[MrHarris]

Why don't you tell her to go away! She is trying to make you jealous and this girl isn't stable either. She is a spawn of the devil. Stay out of her sight and away from her presence.

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by Jariel
The ex-girlfriend I have moaned about a lot on these boards appears to be manipulating my best friend. She is clinging to him (he is her only remaining friend) and today she was flirting with him right in front of me. She also keeps talking about all the guys she's snogged and wants to have sex with while I'm right there.

I could understand if I had hurt or dumped her, but she dumped me, so anyone know why she is pulling this sh1t and how to deal with it?

You deal with it by being the person you want to be. Right now you are allowing someone to take you out of your zone. Her behavior shouldnt affect yours in a negative way, this is a sign of immaturity.

Boys are swayed by others opinions of them, while Men are amused.

 

[Wyldfire]

Just don't hang around where she is if she gets to you.

 

[Jariel]

I would stay clear of her except that she's clinging to my best friend.

 

[Royal Elite]

Originally posted by Jariel
I would stay clear of her except that she's clinging to my best friend.

This is a classic case of why they say girls mature faster then boys. Have you ever noticed that a girls personality is a girls personality where as boys personality are often like chamilions, meaning it is constantly changing depending on any and every outside factor.

You are very immature to the fact you are letting her behavior rule your existence. You need to mature some more, which might be the reason she broke up with you to begin with. As you get older and mature and more at peace with you self you will find out that you will not go all too pieces because of someone else's behavior. This is a tip that if you grasp will put you light years ahead of your peers, and allow you to hold on to the next woman you meet and like.

Your life as a couple is gone, be who you are and worry about you, since as she is demonstrating she isnt worried about you.

 

[Jariel]

Originally posted by Royal Elite
You are very immature to the fact you are letting her behavior rule your existence. You need to mature some more, which might be the reason she broke up with you to begin with. As you get older and mature and more at peace with you self you will find out that you will not go all too pieces because of someone else's behavior. This is a tip that if you grasp will put you light years ahead of your peers, and allow you to hold on to the next woman you meet and like.

Your life as a couple is gone, be who you are and worry about you, since as she is demonstrating she isnt worried about you.

I never actually reacted to her. I was polite and indifferent, but I really don't appreciate my friend being used or some b1tch trying to drive a wedge between us to get at me.

 

[rgeere]

Originally posted by Jariel
The ex-girlfriend I have moaned about a lot on these boards appears to be manipulating my best friend. She is clinging to him (he is her only remaining friend) and today she was flirting with him right in front of me. She also keeps talking about all the guys she's snogged and wants to have sex with while I'm right there.

I could understand if I had hurt or dumped her, but she dumped me, so anyone know why she is pulling this sh1t and how to deal with it?

She is using manipulative jealousy tactics to try to influence you and everyone else around her ... she is an attention ***** who likes power trips.

In other words, she wants you on the defensive so she can crack away at your defenses ...

 

[Jariel]

Now she has started texting me, using pet names and acting sweet. I'll just put it down to women's games and ignore her.

 

[Etienne]

Why are asking yourself, why is she reacting that way...

Here's my question to you:

"Why the hell are you accepting this?"

Don't give me I am indifferent story, you obviously aren't, since you posted about this.

Do you think you should be treated like trash and be walked upon by anyone who feel like it?

This will end when YOU decide it will.

E.

 

[rgeere]

If this is that same girl that we both thought was so good earlier on, then she needs to be ignored as long as you can ignore her or atleast not let it affect you or influence you.

Maybe someone else has already said it, either way that's what I am concluding.

 

[Lickaclit]

I would have to concur with Rgeere. You [don't] have to be around her. And if she continues to enforce her presence on you; stand up with your head held high and slap a restraining order right in her face.

Seriously, though, she is detrimental to your social experience and will hamper you in the long run. Get rid of her, regardless of how she is clinging to your friend. Also, don't think about choosing between them, or make her force that position on you. I wouldn't say "take control of the situation (as a whole)"; however, you need to be in control of whatever aspects of the situation you can. And one of those is your ability to [not] be around her.

But if you can’t ignore her fully… the restraining order is not only helpful… but it is funny and makes for a good story among friends.

 

[thefonz]

Originally posted by Etienne
Why are asking yourself, why is she reacting that way...

Here's my question to you:

"Why the hell are you accepting this?"

Don't give me I am indifferent story, you obviously aren't, since you posted about this.

Do you think you should be treated like trash and be walked upon by anyone who feel like it?

This will end when YOU decide it will.

E.

He never said he was indifferent to it, he said he was acting indifferent to it around when she was around (whether or not it shows is the question, since she wouldn't keep doing it if it wasn't working for her on some level).....Jariel what ever you do DON'T flip out on her about it or pull her to the side to have a "little talk", keep doing what you're doing man just really really focus on preoccupying yourself. If you can avoid her do it.....if you have a really close relationship with your best friend (more than just the label of best friend) maybe you could get his take on it. If he's a prick don't bother talking to him. I wouldn't recommend that just yet, if he's a good pal he'll tell her to f off. ou really gotta find a way to ditch this girl, seriously......you're torchering and tempting yourself just by being in her presence.

 

[DeathDealer]

1. Kill your ex-girlfriend.

2. If option 1 might land you in jail, Ditch her completly.

3. If option 2 is unavailable because she is connected with your friends. Ditch any friends connected withher.

 

[Blue Phoenix]

Originally posted by DeathDealer


2. ...Ditch her completly.

3. If option 2 is unavailable because she is connected with your friends. Ditch any friends connected withher.

Exactly!

That's what I did to two girls that were doing that. Dump her, dump the group... Dump them all! What matter is your life in peace, not with game players.

BTW, you should have read "the way of the attention wh0re". If I'm not mistaken this is the second Aw you bump into.

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

She's working to make you jealous and touching a nerve on your insecurities...why?...the other fellas have spelled it out...she's an attention wh*re that wants to still be in control of you..

Waddah b*tch...she broke up with you, and now wants to shove in your face the other fellas she wants to get with and still be around your circle of friends..

For real bro...get a new set of friends. Your AFC buddy isn't much of a buddy if he knew the sh*t you went through with the ex, yet, is still being friends with her.

Drop both of them, hand around people that make you feel better about yourself. These cats are losers...drop em.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

She's trynna to emasculate you,cut her off.

 

[squirrels]

Cuz she wants to have her cake and eat it too.

Give her a big DENIED.