Why I lost every girl.

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It's over with her, Ric.

Find something to occupy your time and thoughts for the next few weeks, to help ease getting over her.

The "need" to text her right now is coming from a place of lack in your life, which cannot be fixed overnight, but, you can do things to help yourself out right now.

What hobbies do you have, that are easy to access and bring you joy or peace of mind?

For me that's music (playing it, listening to it, etc.), for you it might be something else.

Maybe go spend some time with friends, but refrain talking about her while doing so.

Re-direct your attention.
 

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The OP did not pair bond with the girl. Here is an example of someone who claims to have been good in bed, hit all of the checkmarks and still failed. Any advice of neediness is crazy excuses because this is after they had sex not before. This either means that the OP is lying and he was not good in bed, or that a number of people (ahem, @HaleyBaron) are mistaken that women can actually pair-bond that you meet from these dating apps.
 

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The OP did not pair bond with the girl. Here is an example of someone who claims to have been good in bed, hit all of the checkmarks and still failed. Any advice of neediness is crazy excuses because this is after they had sex not before. This either means that the OP is lying and he was not good in bed, or that a number of people (ahem, @HaleyBaron) are mistaken that women can actually pair-bond that you meet from these dating apps.
Bro we met over 25 times for 3 months for sex. Sex ain’t the problem here. She had over 100 guys and not a single relationship. For whatever reason she didn’t see me for long term, no feelings. I know I over chased
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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No, that's so far so bad, that's far from good. Let them chase you. It's like you don't read anything here, it's like you're living in another world, your head is in the clouds. If you're always initiating and chasing, these girls are not that into you, or you're not allowing them to be. You actually think initiating and chasing is good, are you autistic, serious question?
Agree...the women should at some point be asking you when you are free to see them, but they can't because OP is up their ass every chance he gets.
 

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Bro we met over 25 times for 3 months for sex. Sex ain’t the problem here. She had over 100 guys and not a single relationship. For whatever reason she didn’t see me for long term, no feelings. I know I over chased
Because she knows the men she is choosing for these short term relationships are needy and has to eject before things get too serious...

Could you imagine how bad this would be for her if you and her were in a relationship for a year and a half??
 

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From what i see you lack self esteem and you attract crazy quacks and *****s. Prob because you truly dont respect yourself and youre limited by what you can attract.

This is what happeens when a desperate dude meets a super experienced hoe who has 0 interest in him. The scales of desire weigh heavy like a brick is on his side and nothing on the other. So while hes feelin all crazy the girl feels nothing.
 

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Dude, why do you have the need to text so much?
I wanna fix this and I have the need to explain things to her. She told me a month ago she didn’t have romantic feelings for me, she liked the sex and my company but if she ever figured out I wasn’t the guy for her future she couldn’t be fwb forever with me. Then when she left me she said she needed to end it all to keep moving. Later on she said things became too serious too fast and that’s why she ended it. So I asked if we could be at least fwb and she said no it’s not gonna work out with me anymore. I’m assuming she doesn’t want to go from dating to fwb or because she knows I have feelings. I know for fact she loved me in bed but is smothered at the moment. I would like to see her once in a while for sex
 

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Gentlemen,
You guys are either getting trolled.
OR Op has a mental deficiency/learning disability. This is not his first thread where he remakes the same fundamental errors with the same woman over and over.
 

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Gentlemen,
You guys are either getting trolled.
OR Op has a mental deficiency/learning disability. This is not his first thread where he remakes the same fundamental errors with the same woman over and over.
I know I smothered with affection, msgs, planning dates and didn’t give her the chance to chase me and also plan dates and probably smothered her and turned her off. I hope no contact works and she misses the attention
 

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Gentlemen,
You guys are either getting trolled.
OR Op has a mental deficiency/learning disability. This is not his first thread where he remakes the same fundamental errors with the same woman over and over.
Bro I’m not trolling man, I feel like a zombie at work. I drink a coffee in the morning and go about my day empty stomach no apetite at all man. I swear if someone would hit me with a feather I would fall on the ground. I’m in excruciating pain man. I lost 10 pounds in a week and half
 

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There is a chance she will. Only and only if you focus on yourself, healing, changing the way you're thinking, hitting the gym hard, making bank. But the interesting thing is that when you do all of that, you won't want her.
I broke no contact after 7 days since she left me. She said she ended things because it was too serious too soon and she don’t want that. And I asked what she wanted. She said nothing from you. I asked how about fwb? She said no, it’s not gonna work out with you anymore. I absolutely don’t think it would work and I’m not about to try.

I’ve been in no contact since, 3 days now.
 

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I wanna fix this and I have the need to explain things to her. She told me a month ago she didn’t have romantic feelings for me, she liked the sex and my company but if she ever figured out I wasn’t the guy for her future she couldn’t be fwb forever with me. Then when she left me she said she needed to end it all to keep moving. Later on she said things became too serious too fast and that’s why she ended it. So I asked if we could be at least fwb and she said no it’s not gonna work out with me anymore. I’m assuming she doesn’t want to go from dating to fwb or because she knows I have feelings. I know for fact she loved me in bed but is smothered at the moment. I would like to see her once in a while for sex
Here is something to enlighten your way of thinking.

I get it you have the need to text her, because your emotions are taking over your logical decisions. Here is some news for you. You have smothered her with texting and she is turned off. There is nothing you can do with your emotional behaviors to make her want you or get back to sex.

When she said "it became too serious too fast" this instantly tells me you have pursed way to hard, you want to meet with her way to often and she got bored. You have to realize women are not logical creatures they don't even know themselves how they behave. They are emotional creatures. If she is bored cease contact immediately.

DO not contact her ever again. Period. If you have a slight chance of her reaching out in the future, which i doubt. If you continue this dysfunctional beta male behavior, you will destroy your potential with new chicks in the future.

NO CONTACT PERIOD.

On your next text message that I'm sure you will send to her, tell her the following:

"No worries at all, have a good day"

THATS IT and disappear.

Please dude, i was in your place 10 years a go, i know how it feels, but time to develop some b@@ls.
 

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Here is something to enlighten your way of thinking.

I get it you have the need to text her, because your emotions are taking over your logical decisions. Here is some news for you. You have smothered her with texting and she is turned off. There is nothing you can do with your emotional behaviors to make her want you or get back to sex.

When she said "it became too serious too fast" this instantly tells me you have pursed way to hard, you want to meet with her way to often and she got bored. You have to realize women are not logical creatures they don't even know themselves how they behave. They are emotional creatures. If she is bored cease contact immediately.

DO not contact her ever again. Period. If you have a slight chance of her reaching out in the future, which i doubt. If you continue this dysfunctional beta male behavior, you will destroy your potential with new chicks in the future.

NO CONTACT PERIOD.

On your next text message that I'm sure you will send to her, tell her the following:

"No worries at all, have a good day"

THATS IT and disappear.

Please dude, i was in your place 10 years a go, i know how it feels, but time to develop some b@@ls.
I hear you man. I over pursue and she got bored indeed. There are also some red flags too man it’s not only me. She didn’t let me sleep over only 2 times. She said she can’t fall asleep with anyone near her. We never hangout outside she didn’t want said it was too early. And she said from the 100 plus guys she had everyone who wanted serious relationship she ghosted them. She said she has some sort of mental lock that she can’t bond and develop feelings with people. All these are her words.

We met twice a week for 3 months and sometimes once a week. I don’t even think this is going too serious too fast.
 

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I hear you man. I over pursue and she got bored indeed. There are also some red flags too man it’s not only me. She didn’t let me sleep over only 2 times. She said she can’t fall asleep with anyone near her. We never hangout outside she didn’t want said it was too early. And she said from the 100 plus guys she had everyone who wanted serious relationship she ghosted them. She said she has some sort of mental lock that she can’t bond and develop feelings with people. All these are her words.

We met twice a week for 3 months and sometimes once a week. I don’t even think this is going too serious too fast.
You are overthinking it. Stop. Move on and try to improve ur seduction techniques.

The way you behave is still trying to justify why she is behaving the way she is. It's not about her. It's about you.

Those 100 guys behaved the same way as you did, hence she did not want anything serious. Ignore what she is saying.
 

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You are overthinking it. Stop. Move on and try to improve ur seduction techniques.

The way you behave is still trying to justify why she is behaving the way she is. It's not about her. It's about you.

Those 100 guys behaved the same way as you did, hence she did not want anything serious. Ignore what she is saying.
I think she just wanted fwb to begin with and taking things super slow to see if there was potential. But I rushed things. Now it’s over unfortunately
 
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