Why I lost every girl.

[RicBoy]

Guys, probably most of you have read my posts. I just want to make sure I’m reading my mistakes correctly for the future.

I suffer from anxiety even tho in good moments I’m able to hide it well.

I think here is my problem. I meet a girl I have sex, then we keep meeting. I usually initiate contact and keep arranging dates. So far so good.

I feel that I over text and keep conversations too long and never give the girl the chance to initiate conversations and miss me or ask me over. Eventually they get smothered lose all interest and leave. Maybe I’m blaming myself too much and just meeting the wrong type of women but I see this pattern in me.

My last girl said every time she texted me then we would always engage in a 10 min convo, or if she would say bye and then I say bye then I always come with another 2 or 3 msgs after. She said she was getting tired of it.

I feel I’m very good getting women in bed but always fail to give them space and time to miss me and desire me

 

[pranshu]

THAT'S LITERALLY TEXTBOOK NEEDINESS...spin more plates simultaneously..that would cure your neediness IMO

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

@RicBoy

I think you have a good grip on where your issues are, you laid it out pretty clearly. So do you have an action plan? How are you going to change your interaction with women?

It may be a helpful tool to write out an actual action plan to keep yourself accountable. Also look into help for your anxiety issues, there are pharmaceutical interventions like Xanax that could help, you could also learn some breathing and breath hold techniques to help you overcome impending anxiety attacks if you can recognize the signs. There are also over the counter remedies for blocking flight or flight hormones like GABA - it blocks adrenalin and cortisol - for some people it truly works and may be worth trying.

 

[Gamisch]

Guys, probably most of you have read my posts. I just want to make sure I’m reading my mistakes correctly for the future.

I suffer from anxiety even tho in good moments I’m able to hide it well.

I think here is my problem. I meet a girl I have sex, then we keep meeting. I usually initiate contact and keep arranging dates. So far so good.

I feel that I over text and keep conversations too long and never give the girl the chance to initiate conversations and miss me or ask me over. Eventually they get smothered lose all interest and leave. Maybe I’m blaming myself too much and just meeting the wrong type of women but I see this pattern in me.

My last girl said every time she texted me then we would always engage in a 10 min convo, or if she would say bye and then I say bye then I always come with another 2 or 3 msgs after. She said she was getting tired of it.

I feel I’m very good getting women in bed but always fail to give them space and time to miss me and desire me

How do you meet these women?

Dp you have a standard? E.g; I have certain standards and every woman I meet will be held against this standard. I know within seconds if she does or not. If she doesn't, I will demote her to plate status only. Doesn't matter how good she can suck a D. And it a rarity that I actually like a woman 100% after all I've seen and done. Lets say 2 out of 10 women will qualify.

The underlying issue is something deeper. Its the bluepilled side of you that suffers from cognitive dissonance from reality. You might've been influenced by your parents/ father relationships, especially if you do have 2 parents that stayed together( yes both the parents that stayed together and those who separated might cause to their kids/son as you will keep looking for a "mommy type of wife ")

What are you goals the next 5 years? Is there even room for relationship anxiety? If not, imagine how much different the last relationship would've been if YOU entered with a frame of not wanna commit to the next sloot that spreads her legs.

 

[Murk]

I usually initiate contact and keep arranging dates. So far so good.

No, that's so far so bad, that's far from good. Let them chase you. It's like you don't read anything here, it's like you're living in another world, your head is in the clouds. If you're always initiating and chasing, these girls are not that into you, or you're not allowing them to be. You actually think initiating and chasing is good, are you autistic, serious question?

 

[RicBoy]

No, that's so far so bad, that's far from good. Let them chase you. It's like you don't read anything here, it's like you're living in another world, your head is in the clouds. If you're always initiating and chasing, these girls are not that into you, or you're not allowing them to be. You actually think initiating and chasing is good, are you autistic, serious question?

It’s ok to make dates once a week initiated by the man at least for the first month. You need to lead. But at some point they need to chase and unfortunately I didn’t allow her too

 

[RicBoy]

How do you meet these women?

Dp you have a standard? E.g; I have certain standards and every woman I meet will be held against this standard. I know within seconds if she does or not. If she doesn't, I will demote her to plate status only. Doesn't matter how good she can suck a D. And it a rarity that I actually like a woman 100% after all I've seen and done. Lets say 2 out of 10 women will qualify.

The underlying issue is something deeper. Its the bluepilled side of you that suffers from cognitive dissonance from reality. You might've been influenced by your parents/ father relationships, especially if you do have 2 parents that stayed together( yes both the parents that stayed together and those who separated might cause to their kids/son as you will keep looking for a "mommy type of wife ")

What are you goals the next 5 years? Is there even room for relationship anxiety? If not, imagine how much different the last relationship would've been if YOU entered with a frame of not wanna commit to the next sloot that spreads her legs.

I broke nc yesterday man after 5 days since she ended it . In an idiot. I knew she was out drinking and I asked if she wanted to meet and spent the night together and she replied No and the. I sent her something so stupid I was drunk. I paste below.

—/////——-
I’m very much sexually attracted to you, I want your body. If you want me to lick your pu-ssy good and fack and penetrate your pu-ssy hard and good sometimes, you have my number and you can call me. I know you love me in bed and my di-ck.

If you wanna fack sometimes no strings attached, I’m here.
It’s up to you now…byeeee

 

[Murk]

It’s ok to make dates once a week initiated by the man at least for the first month. You need to lead. But at some point they need to chase and unfortunately I didn’t allow her too

No you don't need to chase for a month, you chase and lead for 1-2 dates, if you haven't made an impression on her in 2 dates where she's chasing you, you're doing something wrong on the date or she doesn't like you.

she would say bye and then I say bye then I always come with another 2 or 3 msgs after. She said she was getting tired of it.

In what world is this OK/normal behavior? A girl says bye and you ignore her and continue to message, are you surprised they are tired of you?

 

[Murk]

I broke nc yesterday man after 5 days since she ended it . In an idiot. I knew she was out drinking and I asked if she wanted to meet and spent the night together and she replied No and the. I sent her something so stupid I was drunk. I paste below.

—/////——-
I’m very much sexually attracted to you, I want your body. If you want me to lick your pu-ssy good and fack and penetrate your pu-ssy hard and good sometimes, you have my number and you can call me. I know you love me in bed and my di-ck.

If you wanna fack sometimes no strings attached, I’m here.
It’s up to you now…byeeee

Bruh

 

[jaygreenb]

Guys, probably most of you have read my posts. I just want to make sure I’m reading my mistakes correctly for the future.

I suffer from anxiety even tho in good moments I’m able to hide it well.

I think here is my problem. I meet a girl I have sex, then we keep meeting. I usually initiate contact and keep arranging dates. So far so good.

I feel that I over text and keep conversations too long and never give the girl the chance to initiate conversations and miss me or ask me over. Eventually they get smothered lose all interest and leave. Maybe I’m blaming myself too much and just meeting the wrong type of women but I see this pattern in me.

My last girl said every time she texted me then we would always engage in a 10 min convo, or if she would say bye and then I say bye then I always come with another 2 or 3 msgs after. She said she was getting tired of it.

I feel I’m very good getting women in bed but always fail to give them space and time to miss me and desire me

Easy fix if that is all it is, but imagine it carries over to things besides texting. Only Initiate once a week and never double text even if takes a few days to respond. Exit the convo yourself, let her send the last text

 

[RicBoy]

Bruh

Was that msg too stupid I sent her ? Better than I miss you need you and love tou right ?

 

[jaygreenb]

I broke nc yesterday man after 5 days since she ended it . In an idiot. I knew she was out drinking and I asked if she wanted to meet and spent the night together and she replied No and the. I sent her something so stupid I was drunk. I paste below.

—/////——-
I’m very much sexually attracted to you, I want your body. If you want me to lick your pu-ssy good and fack and penetrate your pu-ssy hard and good sometimes, you have my number and you can call me. I know you love me in bed and my di-ck.

If you wanna fack sometimes no strings attached, I’m here.
It’s up to you now…byeeee

on no lol You will save yourself a lot of grief if you only date girls who are really into you. If they are, they contact you first if you give them time too. Pretty easy filter after first few weeks but its a great sign if they do first after first date, just give them a little time. Not a jab, but you probably need some therapy or work on underlying issues

 

[RicBoy]

It doesn't matter what women you meet, if you continue doing that and being that needy, that will be the end result. Fix it now!



Yeah back in my days I did this too when I was emotionally a b!tch.

One day you'll remember this and say to yourself "wow what a fvcking puzzy I was"


How can people make you understand that women don't want something they feel they haven't lost. She knows she got you, you do not give her uncertainty, anxiety, you're the guy that with a call from her will be at her feet. Not good my friend.

How can I create this uncertainty on her? No contact?. I broke it yesterday after 5 days no contact since she left me. I sent several stupid msgs but I deleted them she didn’t read them and then that one msg you read. You think it’s too late now to make her wonder someday ?

 

[Dr.Suave]

There was a guy back in the day by pseudonym David Deangelo or something like that. He was into pickup for a while, until he got married. Then he got into businnes or something, then he dissapeared I guess.

He had some useful stuff for beginners like being "C0cky & Funny", "Agree & Amplify", and "Give them the gift of missing you". Which is the thing you need to work on the most at the moment.

I think he had a few books. One of them was "Double your dating" or something like that; you should check it out.

 

[RicBoy]

There was a guy back in the day by pseudonym David Deangelo or something like that. He was into pickup for a while, until he got married. Then he got into businnes or something, then he dissapeared I guess.

He had some useful stuff for beginners like being "C0cky & Funny", "Agree & Amplify", and "Give them the gift of missing you". Which is the thing you need to work on the most at the moment.

I think he had a few books. One of them was "Double your dating" or something like that; you should check it out.

You think it’s too late for her to miss me? Broke nc after 5 days and with a stupid msg you can read above

 

[Dr.Suave]

You think it’s too late for her to miss me? Broke nc after 5 days and with a stupid msg you can read above

She´s a lost cause, bro. You f0cked it up too much. 99% chance you wont get her back, and even if you could, its not worth the hassle. Instead of trying to bang her again, spend that time & energy on improving yourself and obtaining new plates.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Dude you got oneitis, quit ripping the band aid off before the wound heals.

 

[RicBoy]

Dude you got oneitis, quit ripping the band aid off before the wound heals.

I just feel like texting her it’s ridiculous

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

I just feel like texting her it’s ridiculous

STOP

This is so cringe man.

 

[RicBoy]

STOP

This is so cringe man.

I’m afraid it’s too late because I broke nc after 5 days with stupid msg Read above post